Sounds like you may need to relax your hand and arm, for starters. For me, its not about pressure; its about relaxed weight, bow placement, arm/hand position, and bow speed. Welcome to the club

. Most of us are working on these issues, in one way or another.
You might try warming up with some open strings, playing really, really, long, long tones. Use a metronome. Push your limits of how slowly you can move the bow and get a solid sound. Strive for even volume and tone from frog to tip. Then, go the other way, practicing fast articulations, thirty-second notes, etc, pushing how fast you can make a good, even sound. Try to expand (or at least feel the boundaries of) these limits a little each day, or at least, most days. The sound should become the same, no matter where we are on the bow, or whether or not its up bow or down bow.
Then do various bowing patterns (hooked, quarter eighth eighth, reverse-hooked, etc.) to get your body used to generating a good sound (i.e. even and clear) without worrying about pitch. Then, when the sound is happening, add the left hand.
You also might include, in your warm up, some string crossing exercises on open strings, all combinations, up and down bow.
+1 on what everyone else said about bow placement varying with left hand location as well as bow speed.
Sounds like you are trying to do too much at once. So break it down, separate the hands, and work on your right arm/hand.
Mr. Rabbath is one of many roads to Rome, IMHO. Folks have been playing the bass with French bow beautifully, with grace, clarity, power, and fluidity, for a long time. I mean no disrespect to anyone, ever. Only to say that many players have developed a good arco sound on the bass without paying for his specific products. There are no magic bullets that I have seen, or heard of, except patience, relentless self-examination, practice, breaking down our movements, and relaxed awareness of what we are doing. For me, the temptation to try to "fix" one's playing by buying an expensive, trendy, and name brand DVD may be great, but it is not the only way to do things. I still have to do all the other stuff, too.
Lots of good, effective bowing study books, or sections of books, out there. Barry Green, Rufus Reid, Fred Zimmerman, Ed Robinson, Warren Benfield, Eduouard Nanny, and many more. Practice in front of a mirror. Beware of tension. Rufus Reid's "The Evolving Bassist" has a nice open string warm up section as an early exercise, if you don't want to make up your own patterns, for example. Another example is Jeff Bradetich's DVD on bass technique, for $20-30, or something like that. He shows French grip, arm movement, and goes through some open string exercises, before adding the left hand.
You also might find another teacher to pinch hit, or supplement, while your primary instructor is on the road. Somebody who makes their living playing the bass with the French bow; e.g. a pro orchestral player with a great sound.
Hope that some of this helps. My two cents.