About those pick things...

[M0ses]

I've never been able to get a pick to sound halfway decent, I love the attack they have but hate the highs they ad.

Until now. Has anyone else ever used....a paper football??

Seriously. I rip a piece of paper about 2 inches wide, fold that in half, and fold it into a football, then put a bit of tape on the end to keep it together better.

Perfect tone! Like fingers with just a bit of extra highs, enough to tolerate, and most of that picky thump. And dropping picks used to be a huge problem for me, when I bothered to mess with them. No more! It's big enough to stay in my clumsy mitts and doesn't slip at all.

Only downside, I basically have to make a new one every rehearsal. And I still suck at playing with a pick.

[LiamPodmore]

I have used an old business card folded into 4, that was quite um... entertaining?

Liam

[nealw]

Maybe you'd like the big felt picks.

[RFord04]

A guy at Guitar Center tried to sell me these picks they had that were made of a thick felt-like material that were pretty stiff, but sounded more like fingers. Personally, my response was "What's the point? I've got fingers if I want to sound like fingers, and if I'm using a pick, it's because I want it to sound like a pick." Your situation, however, seems like one where it would make sense.

[CopperheadLXXIX]

Try playing with either rubber or felt picks. They kill some of the harsh high end pick playing can impart. I'm a 100% pick player, and use the rubber picks when I want to make the tone a little rounder-the sound produced is somewhere between regular picks and fingers.

[lunarpollen]

Even with regular picks, if you use thicker ones, there will be less snap and highs. Try the 3-mm Dunlop Triangle Stubby... I have a whole bunch of them, as they used to be my go-to pick and I always lose picks, but I've since changed to other ones for more bite and highs.