Hmmm, what I disagree with is the idea of "chord/scale" relationships is some methodology for learning to play music. I can give you all of the Farsi words you want, but if you don't have any meaning attached to those words, you still aren't going to make any sense.
Like Fred Hersch says "At 56, I’m part of the last batch that learned in the old way, figuring it out by ****ing up, getting back up on your feet, ****ing up again, getting back up on your feet, hanging out, learning from people around you, listening to tons of records, learning the history of your instrument, learning the repertoire, the standard repertoire, the jazz repertoire, composing your own music, starting all that, as one of the last of that batch. That’s why I have this affinity with Billy Hart, who’s 14 years older than me. I probably have more in common with him than someone 14 years younger, who may be playing everything in 7/4, or writing science project pieces, or tunes with too many chords in them."
And it's not about "playing better", like I said, it's about assessing value. For all we know, the OP could think my playing is the last possible thing he would want to sound like. Hearing how I sound is gonna give him the information he needs to say " OK, that's NOT a direction I want to go in, I don't need to do the same things that cat did" or whatever...
"It takes a pretty great drummer to be better than no drummer" -Chet Baker
"You know, it's just one less on the train..." - me