Playing the bass- a good help or not?

[Mauro De Lio]

She doesn't seem really interested. Don't force it.
Cheers!

[mbeall]

Originally Posted by J.Nuno

I was thinking of it more like a therapy that she could end up enjoying. She loves music after all...

You all think I desperately want her to play. You're misinterpreting me.

My question was more: do you think playing music could help a person with rhythm/sound problems, the same way exercising the brain helps people with neuronal problems?

Does she love music or lyrics? At concerts is she more into the music or the scene? I've noticed many of the people I meet in this life who say they love music don't really love the music but rather the things to which the music serves as a soundtrack. Just something to consider before pushing it. If she loves music then there should be no effort required as she will seek it out on her own.
But to answer your question. Yes, practicing playing music will make you better at playing music.

-Mike

[mjac28]

I think you should start of with maybe a tambourine or simple percussion instrument have her join in and get used to listening to the beats of her favorite songs eventually you can start leaving and extra bass or guitar out for her to get used to and with time she may enjoy playing an instrument start slow.

[MarkMgibson]

Most people love music, but that doesn't mean they'll ever have patience or ability to learn to play it. I had a girlfriend who was a music fanatic (and had really good taste), and she was always on about me teaching her the guitar. Every time I tried, she'd get frustrated and give up, and she would never practice even a few simple chords.

I agree with everyone else; forget about trying to make her play music, and just enjoy listening to music with her. That in itself is a good common interest.

[RandalPinkFloyd]

Originally Posted by J.Nuno

Nobody is even listening (reading) right so thanks but forget it.

You typed this:

and I've encouraged her to learn how to play it but she doesn't seem interested and gives up minutes later because of her "inability". So I think she doesn't really try at all...

"You've encouraged her" and "She doesn't seem interested and gives up". No offense, but it's you that isn't listening. If she had any interest whatsoever, she wouldn't give up. She doesn't want to play bass. This is clearly a case of you wanting her to want to. Like the others said, she humored you but you won't let it go. You're passionate about music and bass, that's great, but understand some people just aren't. If a single bone in her body was interested, you wouldn't have to encourage her after she picked it up. She knows what she likes. You just seem to be unable to accept that. You ask her to try it, she did, that's it. Anything else from you after that is pushy. It's a great way to run her off. If she decides later she wants to try again, she will. But continuing to try and find ways to manipulate her into trying again is a great way to make her hate it. And before you fire back you aren't trying to manipulate her. You just came on the internet asking us if you think it would be good for your girlfriend or not. It doesn't matter if it's good for her or not. She doesn't want it, and that's all that matters. Case closed.

[Rick Blanc]

Um. Kinda beating a dead horse. I'm sure he gets it by now.

[Kmonk]

Some people will never be able to play. I have a friend who has been trying for 30 years. He always practiced more than the rest of us but has never become good enough to play in a band. He realized this a long time ago and decided to learn to run sound.

I see two issues going on with what you posted. First, it seems like you want her to play for your enjoyment and not hers. Second, she doesn't seem to have the patience needed to learn to play. The best thing to do is let it be.

[fearceol]

Originally Posted by Rick Blanc

I'm sure he gets it by now.

Originally Posted by RandalPinkFloyd

Case closed.

Amen !!...to both of these.

[SquierJazz72]

Learning music would certainly help, but only if she's interested.
You've got enough people telling you you can't force it, which you know, and hopefully isn't ever your intent

IF she takes an interest in an instrument at some point, then be willing to work with her and see how it goes. Maybe she's truly not musically inclined.

[Rick Blanc]

[BassCommander]

If she's ever showed any interest in guitar hero, get rocksmith with the bass DLC and play it in front of her, make it look way funner than it really is and make her jealous that you get to have all this fun without her.

I can't clap in time, but I am getting to play in time and hum in time. The way the notes in rocksmith scrolls, it gives me a visual interpretation of how the rhythm works. It's helping me get it much faster. I was going to give an example, but it made me sound mentally handicapped.

[Shakin-Slim]

I don't know if the OP is gonna come back haha. Ragequit

[MarkMgibson]

The OP probably dumped the chick just to stop this thread. It didn't work though. LOL