I think my problem has been solved.
Going back, and reading some of the newbie threads, I found it discussed about getting good balance.
Worked on it off and on yesterday by taking my bass of it's stand, positioning, and then letting it rest softly against me.
Did this at several parts of my abdomen, and then made a conscience effort to feel how much tension my thumb was putting on the FB.
Finally found the sweet spot

My end pin is still is 6 notches out, the nut is in the right spot for me, and I do not feel that I have to actually hold the bass with my left hand anymore.
Guess I should have done this before getting all flustered and asking a semi-dumb question.
I am sure you all know how it is when you meet a new girl, you just have to take your time, and get to know what SHE wants.....LOL
Thanks alot.
Thom