I have a Realist pickup, but I have never been happy with the mounting scheme they provide for the jack. They give you a flimsy plastic cable clamp, to be held on to the tailpiece by the ball end of one of the strings. The result is very floppy and, as you say, not well suited to the rigors of a large 1/4" phone plug being plugged in and pulled out many times.
So I have designed a couple of mounts for the Realist. A challenge with the Realist jack is that it has no nut or threaded bushing or mounting bosses, it is just a smooth plastic cylinder with a couple of small molded beads around its circumference.
So both these designs use a yoke made out of small maple blocks. The yoke clamps around the body of the jack, and then the whole affair is attached to the bass.
The first design, shown below in photos 1 and 2, is rather like a Fishman mount, in that it clamps onto the two middle strings between the bridge and the tailpiece. It consists of a two-piece wooden yoke and an aluminum plate. I think that how it works is evident from the pictures. This design works very well, but it makes it very obvious that you have a pickup on your bass, which can provoke disdainful looks from the snobs in some playing situations.
The second design, shown below in photos 3 and 4, more or less hides the jack behind the tailpiece. Again, there is a yoke which clamps around the Realist jack. The four machine screws which clamp the yoke also are threaded into an aluminum plate. That plate in turn is secured to the back side of the tailpiece with three small wood screws. I don't have this design installed on a bass at the moment, so photo 4 shows it sitting on a sketch of a tailpiece. Bear in mind that you are looking at the *back* side of the tailpiece, so the Realist's cord is actually aimed towards the foot of the bridge that sits over the bass bar.
These concepts may not be directly applicable to your situation, but perhaps they will give you some ideas. Good luck with your design and its implementation.