I was once just like you, except I actually always wanted to play in a band. I just figured it would never happen, I sure don't look the part and the music scene here is not huge but it's not bad. At one point I had about $3000 tied up in Spector, Zon, and Steinberger basses. Loved them. Couldn't play a single song.
I never even tried to join a band, just figured I wouldn't be able to do it. But a guy at work kept on me about coming to play with them and I finally gave in and joined them. Best thing I ever did in my whole entire life. I freaking love it, I've made some great friends, met some great people at the shows, and not to toot my own horn...but we ROCK it
Luckily for me, I had years of technique down. My technique is dead on perfect as my fat fingers will allow, just from years of noodling. Once I learned where the notes were and put it with my technique, it was like magic happening! And most importantly, I still learn something every day. I get bored if I don't.
Find a band. You'll change your mind.