Dating or Music 24/7?

[Bluez Dawg]

My question is should I continue to date my current girlfriend? Or go in to bass playing 5-8 hours day and get really good?

[markjazzbassist]

why don't you date her and just play bass 3-4 hours a day. you'll still get really good that way. plus, unless you are a hermit, you need companionship.

[txbasschik]

Originally Posted by Bluez Dawg

My question is should I continue to date my current girlfriend? Or go in to bass playing 5-8 hours day and get really good?

Does she have a problem with the amount of time you spend playing?

Do you feel it is completely necessary to practice that much every day? Anywhere from 2-4 hours should be sufficient, unless you have to learn a lot of material in a hurry.

How close are you? How serious are y'all? If this is a healthy relationship, you should make time for it. If she is a very jealous person, generally, then give yourself to your bass until you find a more compatible partner.

Cherie

[malicous]

Just practice man! If you get really good, you can have your pick of the ladies later.

[vindy500]

haha this thread cracks me up

[Bluez Dawg]

Originally Posted by txbasschik

Does she have a problem with the amount of time you spend playing?

Do you feel it is completely necessary to practice that much every day? Anywhere from 2-4 hours should be sufficient, unless you have to learn a lot of material in a hurry.

How close are you? How serious are y'all? If this is a healthy relationship, you should make time for it. If she is a very jealous person, generally, then give yourself to your bass until you find a more compatible partner.

Cherie

I am not sure we just started corting this week. after knowing each other for 3 wseeks. and as for your other questions I am not sure uyet ask me amonth down the road.

Then on to your practice time statement I practice like like half hour every few others during the day & night or when ever there is a movie on. Thanks Cherie for the advice.

[McHack]

Manage your time more efficiently.

IMHO, if you're practicing 8 hours a day, I think you'd burn yourself out. Its not how much you practice, its how well, & what you're practicing that'll really help.

To me, there's to kinds of practicing. Skill Practice & song practice.

1) Skill practicing is working on playing skills... finger (plucking & fretting) techniques, scale progressions, chords assembly, etc... This can get boring, pretty quickly.

2) Song practice aka, getting a setlist read for a gig. Is it just me, but, I can get a setlist down & playable in a day or two... So, after that, its just remembering...

I dont think either of these take 8 hours a day, EVERY day... unless you're just playing & having fun, & calling it practice. Anyway, go be a human... interact w/ people!

[txbasschik]

Originally Posted by Bluez Dawg

I am not sure we just started corting this week. after knowing each other for 3 wseeks. and as for your other questions I am not sure uyet ask me amonth down the road.

Then on to your practice time statement I practice like like half hour every few others during the day & night or when ever there is a movie on. Thanks Cherie for the advice.

Cut back on practice just a *bit*, and give the new relationship time to develop. Gets her used to you practicing a lot, and yet still makes her feel that you have time for her.

Best of luck to you both!

Cherie

[Bluez Dawg]

Originally Posted by txbasschik

Cut back on practice just a *bit*, and give the new relationship time to develop. Gets her used to you practicing a lot, and yet still makes her feel that you have time for her.

Best of luck to you both!

Cherie

Thanks Ma'am. btw she loves the blues ( which I mainly practice WOOHOO ) lol.

[infect]

5 to 8 hours a DAY? Damn.. That's a bit excessive Don't ditch the girlfriend, love supercedes everything.

[basschick7]

Is that all practice time? Or is part of it spent doing shows? Even so, eight hours is an insane amount of time to be playing any instrument!
Either way, you can still spend time together when you practice. I used to love watching my boyfried play.

[Matt Till]

Nah, go with music... you'll find yourself fighting less with music... or fighting more with music... I dunno. My vote goes for music.

[Bluez Dawg]

Originally Posted by Matt Till

Nah, go with music... you'll find yourself fighting less with music... or fighting more with music... I dunno. My vote goes for music.

I am fighting with my timing right this momment though. I know practice will make perfect. And thanks again I will probablly stick with music

[BassChuck]

If she doesn't understand that as a musician you have to (love to) practice, the relationship is going nowhere. If that's the case, drop her and practice 12 hours a day.

[BrandonBass]

not even cliff burton practise that much, seriously get a life!

unless ur like me, whos going to lock himself in a room and practise like a madman. but just a despo who juz wanna get gd asap...but 4hrs a day is like quite alot already

[Darth Moley]

Keep the girl. If she turns out to be "the one", you'll be glad you did.

Also, if you practice that much, you'll hurt yourself. Repetitive motion injuries are no joke, not to mention the fact that sometimes if you're hung up on something, it can help to not practice, and take a breather.

Joe

[mnadelin]

Bass > women. I think you know what to do.

[Basso Mempho]

Ah, how to balance relationships with music. I seem to run into this every-freakin'-where I go!! And I think it affects every musician to some degree. I would say the key is moderation. Everyone needs some time for a relationship, and some time for their music. It's when the two are clashing that there is trouble.
I see it all the time. The gang's all together ready to jam, and someone's lady friend has other plans... or the girlfriend doesn't like the guys in the band. You spend too much time with the guys in the band, etc.
I guess it all comes down to common sense and compromise. Maybe you'll miss a few hours practice one day, but if girlfriend is on the verge of a breakdown, it might be worth it. On the other hand, you might have an important gig and girlfriend will just have to wait. If she really hates your being in a band, bandmates or whatever, it might be time to reevaluate that relationship!

[xvertirx]

practice 10 hours a day. quit dating quit your job.

[Bluez Dawg]

Originally Posted by xvertirx

practice 10 hours a day. quit dating quit your job.

I don't need a job. and that will be no problem on the dating thing shes a bit weird imo though lol.