Do you love...

[ilovethesechord]

...your drummer?

I've been told that the bassist-drummer relationship is a crucial one. One that can either hold a band together or allow it to hit the floor in pieces.

So how do you handle it? Are you close friends? Mere acquaintances? Best buds?

..or lovers?

[fenderhutz]

How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?

[Chriss62]

Originally Posted by fenderhutz

How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?

/thread

[ilovethesechord]

no, do not "/thread."

anybody else?

advice? please?

[DudeistMonk]

I chill with my drummer outside of practice.

Its all about the tune though, if you can communicate rhythmically then nothing else matters.

[Spector_Ray]

I get along great with my drummer and it is essential to have great chemistry. I've seen, on several occasions where the drummer and bassist didn't get a long and things came to a head and not in a good way.

[Jonny B]

My drummer and I want to be lovers, but our wives won't let us. We feel this is holding us back musically.

[Pilgrim]

He and I get along great. I seldom even have to look at him while playing - we have always locked on the beat up easily.

[LowDown Hal]

Originally Posted by Chriss62

/thread

/thread ???

[wdinc01]

Originally Posted by ilovethesechord

no, do not "/thread."

I don't know why, but I found this to be hilarious.

As for me and drummers, it depends on which project it is. The last rock band I was working on is with a friend of mine who I've known for a couple of years before we decided to make a band. The current jazz band/ensemble I'm involved with includes a drummer who goes to a different high school than me. Now granted, I never met the kid before this thing, and honestly, he seems pretty dim-witted and I don't think I'd hang out with him outside of the band. However, his girlfriend and I work at the same place, so that may count for something.

[iamlowsound]

Me and my drummer fix and ride motorcycles together when we aren't playing. Along with the keyboard players husband, and the keyboard player, come to think of it.

lowsound

[hbarcat]

The drummer in my classic rock cover band is my brother. He's 11 months my junior. We also work in the same factory and we've both been there for more than a dozen years.

I'm surprised we still get along.




A drummer whom I frequently jam with has the best feeling groove of any drummer I've ever played with and I would trade my left leg to be able to love her. But she has a steady girlfriend.

[Marcus Johnson]

My drummer? What, you only have one?

[cheesemonkey]

me and my drummer are best friends and tight as two peas in a pod.

[embellisher]

The drummer that I played with the most is my best friend.

The drummer that I played with for years in an oldies rock band is a very close friend.

The drummer at my church is a good friend.

I think that to lock in, you have to have a good relationship with your drummer.

And this is really music related, so I am moving it to Miscellaneous.

[cdef]

I play with two drummers. One is a busy session musician and teacher, and our relationship is of the professional sort. His house is way out in the woods and I never see him except at rehearsals and gigs. Still, he's an approachable, cordial person and we've never had any communication problems. His wife's a fine drummer, too, btw.

The other is a close friend living not far away, so we get together pretty frequently. He also plays flute and sax, and is now studying to become a qualified piano tuner. I babysit for him when he's away on other gigs and do maintenance work on his PC when the kid's asleep. He's said he considers me the easiest guy to play with, and I feel the same about him. If either of us screws up we just laugh and get it right the next time.

[Phalex]

I've only ever played with one drummer that I didn't like. I was sitting in because the regular bass players father had passed away and the guitar player is a friend of mine. It wasn't anything personal, I'd never even met the guy before, he just flat out sucked.

Otherwise I've played with my brother on drums for many years (same synapses or something, but we play like the same person) and my current drummer is probably my best friend. (That's a pity because he's sort of an A-hole.)

[Krügmeister]

My Cousin back in Michigan is my best friend, we started playing approx. around the same time.
He is much better than I am but we have been friends ALL our lives.
I really feel a spiritual more than a musical connection when I play with him.. And I miss playing with him everyday.
He makes me play much better and we are super tight when we play together.

[msquared]

I have been in bands where I have barely known the drummer. I've also been in a band where I was the drummer and had an openly hostile relationship with the bass player. In all of these cases, everyone was a good enough musician and professional enough that it worked out well. I think that eventually you get to a point where it doesn't matter if you like each other or not, at least as far as the music goes. It certainly does make it easier to be in a band with them if you're good friends though.

[crimson_basser]

ive always been pretty good friends with drummers
or they were always someone i had known before hand
if they werent good friends then they soon became
because its hard to have good dynamics and understanding in a band if you guys arent friends
at least i find
it makes things a lot easier for me to be friends with the drummer

right now in the band im in the drummer is a friend of mine that ive known for a few years, we were never really close but now that were playing together weve also started hanging out a lot more outside of band time

hes an awesome dude hailing from south africa
hes got the beat in him
hahaha