Does your wife/girlfriend/significant other listen to the same music as you do?

Holy War · #1 10-20-2009, 06:33 PM

The girl Im seeing right now listens to the polar opposite of music that I listen to, and as I sit here thinking about it, Ive never dated a girl as excited or knowledgable about music as I am.

Its kind of bumming me out since music is such a big part of my life.

Anyone in the same boat as me, or does anyone have any wisdom/thoughts/advise to offer up on the matter?

bass12 · #2 10-20-2009, 06:44 PM

Give it long enough and you both might learn something from each other's record collections? I know, it's a tough one. My girlfriend hates some of the music I listen to, and sometimes I can get a bit defensive about the stuff I love. But really, it's probably not worth worrying about, unless she is restricting you. Otherwise, just try to accept that she doesn't share all of your passions. One thing I can say is that all of the girls I've been in relationships with now pay a lot more attention to the bass in the music they listen to. I feel I've done my duty.

WickedPissah · #3 10-20-2009, 06:51 PM

Mine likes to listen to a CD I made her that has my favorite songs, but ordinarily she's into Beyonce and other Top 40 type stuff.

tplyons · #4 10-20-2009, 06:52 PM

My ex hated a lot of my music. And the music of mine she liked, she played so much I grew sick of it.

There's a reason she's my ex. She hated music that she didn't know the words to. And you can't learn new song lyrics unless you hear the song once.

Jim Campbell · #5 10-20-2009, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Holy War

The girl Im seeing right now listens to the polar opposite of music that I listen to, and as I sit here thinking about it, Ive never dated a girl as excited or knowledgable about music as I am.

Its kind of bumming me out since music is such a big part of my life.

Anyone in the same boat as me, or does anyone have any wisdom/thoughts/advise to offer up on the matter?

save your breath......just enjoy all the other good things she brings to the relationship........some of my exes got it enough to not get me birthday gifts that i would hate and never play,and my ex wife would go with me to see anything i wanted,(she rode a bus/ferry with me across ireland to london to see a concert i wanted to see)but i dont think any of them really would have on their own....if she enjoys the social aspects of live venues invite her along,if not don't force it.....music was never a deal breaker with any of em.....

HogieWan · #6 10-20-2009, 06:57 PM

My wife likes the same things but the level of excitement is different by orders of magnitude

Holy War · #7 10-20-2009, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by tplyons

My ex hated a lot of my music. And the music of mine she liked, she played so much I grew sick of it.

There's a reason she's my ex. She hated music that she didn't know the words to. And you can't learn new song lyrics unless you hear the song once.

yup

i am fanatical when it comes to rock and metal and cant stand top 40, rap, and hip hop. she listens to beyonce and American Idol and asked me last night if Lynyrd Skynyrd was dead.

I know it shoudnt have, but it put me in a realy off put and offended mood. crazy i know, but true none the less

dls59 · #8 10-20-2009, 08:04 PM

Absolutely not. She hates the "crap" I listen to. She grew up on the likes of Sandy Patti, Amy Grant, etc., and while she still likes them, she has become a lover of modern country music (yuck). She hates my blues, prog, jazz, et al.

Doesn't bother me in the least that we don't listen to much of the same music (other than worship stuff). We've been married 25 years and it's never been an issue.

James Hart · #9 10-20-2009, 08:09 PM

She loves the stuff I record but hates 99% of the stuff I listen to. When in the car, I give her total control over the radio. I do like (or at least tolerate) most any music ever recorded so I don't mind letting her pick.

Araillac · #10 10-20-2009, 08:12 PM

Seeing as my significant other is currently me, yes, we do listen to the same music.

Thunderscreech · #11 10-20-2009, 08:13 PM

My girlfriend likes lots of things I like. But she also doesn't like some of the stuff, and likewise.

For example, I listen to The White Mice for entertainment. She wonders what that horrid noise coming out of my speakers is. And she listens to Auqa (I'm not too big into them, but I do have a secret, dirty fetish for synth-pop and Electro like Freeze Pop and Ultraviolet Sound...that's all I will say on the matter...)

Thunderscreech · #12 10-20-2009, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Araillac

Seeing as my significant other is currently me, yes, we do listen to the same music.

I didn't need those details. Go into TB chat Immediately.

southernrocker · #13 10-20-2009, 08:21 PM

My girlfriend loves all of the music I love. She listens to a lot more country than I do, but she loves rush, genesis, yes, ect. When I met her I knew I'd found a good one because she was jamming to some joe walsh!

NJL · #14 10-20-2009, 09:20 PM

my GF says my music sounds like circus music LOL

two fingers · #15 10-20-2009, 09:32 PM

One of the things that really turned me on about my wife when we first started dating was the fact that her musical tastes varied as widely as mine did. She was the first woman I ever mat who had CD's by Boston, Good Charlotte, The Temps (and other Motown), JZ, Etta James, Pink, AC/DC, and Bach. And she's not a musician at all. There are some things I like that she doesn't (melodic jazz comes to mind) but who cares? If everything else in your relationship fits, let it go! I've found that most (not all but most) girls who like metal are skanky anyway. Besides, Victor Wooten once told me that he could learn a LOT more from things he DIDN'T like than from things he did. So give your girl's music a chance. Maybe eve learn some of the bass lines. Who knows? It may just BECOME something you have in common.

P.S. I'm sleep deprived righ now so I'm sure I misspelled every other word in this post. Gimme a break.

doctorjazz · #16 10-20-2009, 09:38 PM

Some. She dislikes most jazz (although she does like Chick Corea), but she also is into some other really good music I like, like Soundgarden, the Beatles, and Brahms. She also listens to some stuff that I don't like (pop).

Chebass88 · #17 10-20-2009, 09:44 PM

We actually agree on about 40% of music. She isn't a fan of classical so much, nor Frank Zappa (of which I have a ton), or jazz fusion, but then again, I'm not too big a fan of Bob Dylan or Ani DiFranco (ok, begin the flaming for the Dylan comment...).

On long car rides, we alternate picking CDs, with the caveat that each is listened to in entirety.

ian

jazzbo · #18 10-20-2009, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Holy War

The girl Im seeing right now listens to the polar opposite of music that I listen to, and as I sit here thinking about it, Ive never dated a girl as excited or knowledgable about music as I am.

Its kind of bumming me out since music is such a big part of my life.

Anyone in the same boat as me, or does anyone have any wisdom/thoughts/advise to offer up on the matter?

At first you say that your likes are opposites, but then you add the component of "knowledge" and "excitement." I wonder if you view her as less sophisticated about music? Perhaps the issue isn't as much that you like different types of music, but rather you have less respect for the music she likes.

If this is true, remember that because she may like music that you deem less sophisticated or intelligent, it doesn't mean that she is less sophisticated or intelligent.

jrthebassguy · #19 10-20-2009, 09:55 PM

My GF likes all of the same mellow/indie stuff as me (Modest Mouse, Why?, etc.) and some of the lighter rock as well but she dislikes all of the "harder" genres I enjoy, namely punk and metal. She also listens to a lot of hip-hop and rap, which I do not. But even then, she's respectful of the stuff she doesn't like, and I do the same likewise.

My ex, who had virtually zero taste in music (as in, she didn't like ANYTHING) would always berate my choices in music. I'm glad that beeeatch is out of my life.

**cheezewiz** · #20 10-20-2009, 11:09 PM

My wife likes Disco and Country. I don't. She has crappy taste. It's OK, I still love her.