Feel remorse quitting the band

[Axtman]

I am feeling a bit of remorse on quitting a band a while ago. They replaced me and have been fairly successful. I must admit that I am a bit jealous of them. I know in my head that I was not happy and left on good terms for good reasons but my heart is a bit hurt.

Advice?

[Steve]

No advice but, yeah, it's alway a let down when your ex-girlfriend doesnt just lay down and die. It's even worse when her new boyfriend has a nicer car.

[Axtman]

;-)

[MatticusMania]

Meh, my new girlfriend is 100 times better than my ex wife, and my new band rocks 100 times more than my last band.

[UncleFluffy]

If you know you did the right thing, focus on that.

Staying true to yourself - integrity - is priceless.

[Thor]

The heck with integrity, just call up the drummer and
grovel about wanting to come back! They probably hate
their new bassist anyway. You can get your ex back this
way too.

[thumpbass1]

So did you have valid reasons to quit this band in the first place? If so, then you have to live with the choice you made. I've quit bands that continued on without me, and I lived with the fact that my reasons were legitimate at the time, especially if said band hit a stride of success after my departure. It's a part of life. Wish your ex bandmates well, and move on. Hopefully you'll find success with your future ventures as a musician. You had a reason why you quit, so live with it and press on.

[Stumbo]

Originally Posted by thumpbass1

So did you have valid reasons to quit this band in the first place?

Are the reasons you quit still valid?

I mean, are the conditions in the band such that you would still quit? Were there things you could have done differently to changes things? Was it your attitude and perceptions that created the situation?

Since the band is still going and successful, obviously the new bass player has fit into the group and accepts things as they are. If you weren't able and still aren't able to accept the status quo, then forget it.

You will always be unhappy if you are wishing for a better past.

[two fingers]

Originally Posted by Steve

No advice but, yeah, it's alway a let down when your ex-girlfriend doesnt just lay down and die. It's even worse when her new boyfriend has a nicer car.

Ha! Well put!

I left a band a couple of years ago. I was so bummed and stressed out because it's REALLY hard to find a bassist around here. I thought I was letting my friends down. Turns out, they found another bassist and never missed a BEAT! He fit just fine and they kept rolling. THAT hurt much more than the stress of letting my buds down. Knowing that you can be replaced pretty easily is a real kick in the ego. But, you get over it.

[Lo end PUNCH]

Originally Posted by Steve

No advice but, yeah, it's alway a let down when your ex-girlfriend doesnt just lay down and die. It's even worse when her new boyfriend has a nicer car.

Yeah