im not sure what to do, i need some advice

mlafrancis · #1 02-09-2010, 07:40 AM

Im in kind of a dilema right now. Heres the situation:

My parents are moving to Minnesota, and i dont know if i want to go with them, or stay here with my band.

If i go to minnesota, i'd be movign to a even smaller town than the one I am in right now, but I'd be able to go to a college out there that has a good music program, I could learn how to work in a recording studio and such. But i would not know anyone, id leave all of my friends behind, and theres this girl who ive been talking with, and if i leave, then that will be over before it even starts.

If i stay, i'd be able to stay with my band, who i feel is pretty good, and yes i know the chances of actually making it are slim to none, i just feel this is a good band and might have a chance. the other two in the band have a year left of school. ive found apartment i'd be able to rent, though it will be hard and i will have very little extra money.

Im just not sure what to do, for any advice or suggestions, I thank ya

~Mike

iamlowsound · #2 02-09-2010, 08:04 AM

How old are you?

lowsound

snyderz · #3 02-09-2010, 08:08 AM

Are there any people in your life to talk to besides perfect strangers?

Bocete · #4 02-09-2010, 08:11 AM

I'd say: leave with your parents. You'll learn a trade, meet new people and some new girl, be sure of it.

bigntasty · #5 02-09-2010, 08:20 AM

First, I know moving can be hard. I moved our family from NE to WA about a year and a half ago, and it's a big adjustment. Having said that, move to MN with your parents. You can hook up with another band there, get a good music education at the college, and meet new friends.

cbrophy · #6 02-09-2010, 08:22 AM

There will be plenty of opportunity to get in new bands, meet new girls and new friends. You have a chance to get an education, sounds like in a field you are interestd in. Why take on the debt of living by yourself at your age. I guarantee, you will make alot more money over your lifetime with an education. Go with the folks for now. You'll have plenty of time to make your own decisions in life.

Lady Kayri · #7 02-09-2010, 08:25 AM

Look long term. What happens if your band breaks up in the next year? What if your potential new girl friend doesn't work out? Sounds to me like staying with your folks, going to the institution of higher learning that has a course of study you can get your teeth into, might be the best answer in the long term. There's an old saying, "Family first," and it's still around because it's so true in so many cases.

And if worse comes to worse, you can always move back to your current location if the new situation doesn't work out - but give it at least a year before you make that decision. I grew up a military brat, moved quite a few times, and usually it takes at least that long to really start fitting into a new area and make some real friends, contacts, and so on.

levis76 · #8 02-09-2010, 08:37 AM

Stay with your folks and get the education. Suck it up and say goodbye to the girl. It's not the band you're hung up on, it's the girl.

There will be other girls.

bassy7 · #9 02-09-2010, 08:43 AM

Go with your family and get that good education! Bands and girls will come and go... not always true, but it usually is. But the older you get the harder it becomes to get a good education, especially in something you really are interested in like music.

My locally successful band (years ago) never really got a chance to go on any sort of mini tour. Several of us had things(jobs) holding us back. But I had one of the big ones, I was in college studying philosophy. Looking back I do wish I had gone on some little tours with the old band....However, I certainly do not regret getting a proper education, and I never will.

MIJ-VI · #10 02-09-2010, 08:49 AM

As others here have indicated, it's your better future which counts more than your current circumstance.

Please take the long view of your life and plan strategically, not tactically.

One day you'll have your own family to provide for...

SteveC · #11 02-09-2010, 08:53 AM

Move. Never stay or go for a girl or band. There's always another one around the corner. Get an education. Make new friends. Find a new, better band.

TimK · #12 02-09-2010, 08:54 AM

I live in Minnesota (minneapolis area)!!! and the music scene is fantastic here!!! There are great groups here... Rock, Jazz, country, metal, indie rock, pop, DJ's etc...Whatever you want. the MLSP scene is one of the top in the country! behind NY, LA, Nashville, Austin and Chicago.

There are plenty of opportunities and great Schools. U of MN, McNally Smith is great, Also good schools for engineering etc.. IPR is one of them. Lots of great recording studios too. Also, many, many world class musician and TONS of really really really good one to take lessons from.

Great Venues, for both cover bands and original music.

If you are man enough to handle the winters, Minnesota is great! PM me when you get here and I can help plug you into the scence and give you some resources.

PS- The MN women really know how to keep you warm on those cold nights!

stuonbass · #13 02-09-2010, 09:02 AM

Your family and education are your future. Go to Minn. Its a land of 10, 000 lakes and beautiful, blond, nordic women. Ja!

TimK · #14 02-09-2010, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by stuonbass

Your family and education are your future. Go to Minn. Its a land of 10, 000 lakes and beautiful, blond, nordic women. Ja!

+1!!!!!

and we have Joe Mauer!! and hopefully will get Farve back.

ggunn · #15 02-09-2010, 05:06 PM

Piling on here...

The odds against any band you are in now having the sort of success that would make it worth splitting from your folks while they are still willing to send you to college are huge. The odds of that girl you just barely know being your one and only soulmate are vanishingly small. The older you get, the harder it is to uproot yourself and move.

Go to Minnesota and don't look back.

KimblesNimble · #16 02-09-2010, 05:19 PM

I'd have to side with your fellow TBer's, make the move. I took my BA, then delayed going back for my education to become a teacher to play music for a while (hey I was in school for like 12 years right?). Four years later and I'm just gearing up to go back in spring (thanks for kicking me out of the band guys). Its gets harder the more time passes. Get it done.

bongomania · #17 02-09-2010, 05:34 PM

Rural Minnesota kinda bites, but Mpls/St.Paul are awesome. If you are able to deal with small-town living just until you are able to leave for college, and then go to college in one of those two cities, you will never regret it. Great music scene, great colleges, plenty of good living.

Lazylion · #18 02-09-2010, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by levis76

Stay with your folks and get the education. Suck it up and say goodbye to the girl. It's not the band you're hung up on, it's the girl.

There will be other girls.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!
But yeah, he's right. Stick with the folks, and get that college degree. Don't screw your future self by blowing that off.