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08-11-2006, 03:26 PM
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Anyone ever date a band member from your own band? How did that go?
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Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar  Now I get it. Hi. I'm Maki. I'm dumb. :p | |
08-11-2006, 03:29 PM
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Originally Posted by disenchant Anyone ever date a band member from your own band? How did that go? |
Bad bad bad.
Don't do it.
Bad bad bad.
Actually, my wife is in one of my bands (she sings back-up) and we both work for the artist, so it's not "our" band.
We were all hired on our own merrits.
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08-11-2006, 03:43 PM
| | You can't plagiarize yourself. | | Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Elgin, IL | | | It did go bad, bad, bad. I'm never doing it again. But what do I do now?
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08-11-2006, 03:56 PM
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08-11-2006, 04:00 PM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: northern illinois | | | BAD IDEA!!!
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08-11-2006, 04:07 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: forest hills ny | | | he didnt ask if it was a bad idea, he asked if anybody has done it before and what do u do after the break up.
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08-11-2006, 04:09 PM
| | Banned | | Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Marathon Man | | | Yoko Ono ruined The Beatles. Inter-band dating will ruin your bad in the same manner.
And Yoko came from the outside! Imagine if Lennon had started dating Ringo Starr or something! |
08-11-2006, 04:10 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: May 2000 Location: Poulsbo,Wa | | I never dated anyone I was in a band with, even though I wanted to really bad.  If you are going to break up with a band member try to spare the persons feelings as much as you can and reiterate to them ahow much you want to continue to work together. It will be uncomfortable for a while if the other person is able to handle the situation but the odds are working against you. |
08-11-2006, 04:20 PM
| | | | To be pedantic, that would be "intra-band" dating. Inter-band dating wold be dating from ANOTHER band... [sorry for being a jerk by pointing this out!]
However to answer your point:
I played keys. Attractive girl singer starts dating bass player. Splits up with bass player, cries on my shoulder, decides I'm "really great" ;-), I KNOW this is a trainwreck about to happen, try and keep her at a distance but she's REALLY persistant... band splits up!
six months later band gets back together with different singer!
It was a lifetime ago (like 18 years or so). All I can say is that I wish I'd enjoyed it more at the time, cause in retrospect it's all a huge laugh.
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08-11-2006, 04:21 PM
| | | Don't do it. It usually screws everything up... I've wanted to do it, but luckily didn't. I really advise against it....
I have seen to many train wrecks.  |
08-11-2006, 04:22 PM
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08-11-2006, 04:27 PM
| | You can't plagiarize yourself. | | Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Elgin, IL | | | Oops, meant intra-band dating. Inter-band dating is what I'm doing now...and the whole thing reeks of Gwen Stefani. Shall I write a sad song about it?
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08-11-2006, 04:42 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Ridgefield CT/ Stony Brook NY | | | I almost did it. before I could ask her out, she asked me to be the bassist in the band she wanted to start up. so I decided to put the music first. I'm actually happy we're not dating.
don't let the music suffer for a momentary romance.
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08-11-2006, 04:50 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Anaheim, Ca. | | Quote: |
Originally Posted by disenchant Anyone ever date a band member from your own band? How did that go? | Hmmm.. actually I believe this form of musical incest is technically called: "INTRA-band" dating to be a little more precise |
08-12-2006, 01:30 AM
| | | | I believe one of the Amott brothers is dating Angela Gossow (both from Arch Enemy)...can't remember which it is (I think Mike?) however. |
08-12-2006, 07:21 AM
|  | Registered User | | | | | "Anyone ever date a band member from your own band?"
Yep
"How did that go?"
It was glorious for about six weeks. Then, it deteriorated into a relentless, swirling pit of drama, hurt, politics and aggravation. |
08-12-2006, 07:31 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Jersey | | | beetlews,jefferson airplane,......
The chick would have to be absolutly smoking and the band to suck so hard you can hear them comming,and be #1 on my personal hate list to even consider. Its THAT bad! |
08-12-2006, 07:45 AM
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Originally Posted by mb1 Bad idea. Really BAD IDEA.
Rule #1: Never, ever, under any circumstance, nor for any reason become romanticly involved with someone you work with. Ever. Period. Just don't do it. For every success story out there, you'll find 10,000 disasters. Young people of course have to learn this the hard way and I always get a great chuckle making 'predictions' (it's as easy as predicting where the sun will rise tomorrow morning). Most recently, I predicted the firing of two co-workers who became involved. But I was a tad bit off - I said it would happen inside of six months - it actually happened in 4. The firing also caused them to split up -- and she's now pregnant and he's going back to his ex-wife. Oh the sheer drama... Like sands through the hourglass... | Nice post  I'll have to find out the hard way |
08-12-2006, 08:27 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: London, UK | | | Well, if that's the mate of you life go for it, but forget about the band in most cases :-D
Otherwise : bad idea ! Would you play with your ex if had had broke in a bad way ? I don't think you would, too much things going on underneath. |
08-12-2006, 09:01 AM
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Wouldn't you like to know?! | | Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Atlanta | | | It'll either lead great songs before leading to disater (Culture Club) or great songs with HUGE drama (Midnight Star). Of course the great songs only matter if you already have a record deal, and an outlet for these tunes. If you're just a local band chugging it out, then the split will come before the great tunes will. One band I played for had this HOT background vocalist that fancied the rodent, hey what woman wouldn't?! Anyway, she liked me and the leader liked her. I quickly saw where this was heading and nipped it in the bud. So I screwed the vocalist and quit the band! No, I'm kidding. I explained to her that it wasn't going to happen, and I explained to him that if he wanted this "perfect" band to stay together, then he'd let it go. They both agreed.
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