Mmmm. . . I think that each musician/person lives in a different "music world."
I personally don't mind any of the terms you mentioned, if done well and in the right context, except "Pay to Play."
But randomly, in my music world, I frown when I hear or see:
-Double bass drums, or double pedals,
-More than 3 cymbals on a drum set (besides the hi-hat),
-Whammy bars,
-Standard MIDI tracks,
-Excessive reverb, on anything,
-Tight black jeans and black concert t-shirts,
-Anything that has to do with flutes,
-Yamaha DX-7s, and FM synthesis in general,
-Light beer.
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