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06-13-2010, 10:47 PM
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Band broke up. No reason beside lack of loyalty and honor. The guitarist and drummer have none. They left for one of those cheesy era specific dress up bands. They don't make any more money, but they play for larger crowds. I hope they fail miserably. 
Anyway... I'm pissed off. It's my own fault. I worked with the guitarist three times, before, with similar results each time.
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06-13-2010, 11:08 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Long Island, NY | | Without much more back story, I can't really comment.
But, one of my last bands broke up into two groups. (I was in the group that was "bandless" for a bit) Basically the one half of the band quit to reform another band. It annoyed me a little but I in no way wish them any ill feelings or bad luck. I'm happy with my bands now and they're happy with their band. The world has a way of working out.
I wouldn't sweat it too much. 
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06-13-2010, 11:11 PM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Purple Mountain Majesties | | | I remember the time the guitard and drummer had a meeting with the singer and me to tell us they were going their seperate way without us.
It is a pisser.
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06-14-2010, 05:51 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Ireland | | While I agree it can be a pain in the butt for those left in the band, I dont see anything unusual or wrong in it. It is only natural for people to feel the need to move on. I have only being playing in bands for about four years, but one thing I have learned is just how fickle they can be. On the plus side, there always seems to be people willing to fill the void. I'm sure you'll find suitable band members in time. 
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06-14-2010, 08:43 AM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Central Illinois, USA | | | Musicians are flakes. We all are. And there's a lot of stuff that goes on in a band. There're financial considerations, time, emotions, taste (and/or the perceived lack thereof), egos, etc. Bands end. Learn to deal with it, or get outta the biz.
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06-14-2010, 03:42 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Metro Detroit | | | yeah, I know... I STILL hope they fail. I basically came out of retirement because the guitarist begged me to, then I turned down a good job offer to stay with the stupid ba$tard. Then, he pulls this crap. I could have cared less about the drummer. He was solid, but that's it.
I'll say it again: I'm the stupid one. |
06-15-2010, 12:57 AM
| | | | Bands are another relationship... it is another girlfriend. You get pissed when players want to jam with another band just as you would if your girlfriend wants to just 'hang' with some other dude. Best bet... get on craigslist or whatever avenue you have available to jam with other bands and get to it. I have been in Rock, jazz, metal and alternative bands... Crap, about the only genre I haven't tried is country... hmmmm maybe I will see if a local country band is looking for a bass player...
... but I digress...
Just go and have fun... get out there and see what there is. Your REAL band is probably out there and you are wasting your time with these guys now. |
06-15-2010, 02:40 AM
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Originally Posted by Craig_S  yeah, I know... I STILL hope they fail. I basically came out of retirement because the guitarist begged me to, then I turned down a good job offer to stay with the stupid ba$tard. Then, he pulls this crap. I could have cared less about the drummer. He was solid, but that's it.
I'll say it again: I'm the stupid one. |
No, you are not the stupid one. How were you to know what was ahead ? Feeling bitter is not going to improve things. Feeling positive is. You said you turned down a job to stay in the band. What's to stop another job coming along ? The best advice is to put this behind you, put it down as experience, and move on.
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06-15-2010, 10:55 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Toronto, ON | | | Wow, you hope they fail because they made a choice to do something that not only exposes them to more people, but something they might possibly enjoy more? You stay classy, sir. You have fun not being in a band.
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06-17-2010, 07:15 PM
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Originally Posted by sarcastro83 Wow, you hope they fail because they made a choice to do something that not only exposes them to more people, but something they might possibly enjoy more? You stay classy, sir. You have fun not being in a band. | I hope they fail, because I'm just an a$$hole like that. I hope they fail because I'm allowed to. You, sir, are a rare something special. I mean that in worst possible sense.
I never have an issue finding a band.  It's just a matter of whether I want to continue with it.
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06-17-2010, 08:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Craig_S Band broke up. No reason beside lack of loyalty and honor. The guitarist and drummer have none. They left for one of those cheesy era specific dress up bands. They don't make any more money, but they play for larger crowds. I hope they fail miserably.
Anyway... I'm pissed off. It's my own fault. I worked with the guitarist three times, before, with similar results each time. | Get over it. Seriously. For your own sake.
Musical relationships form and dissolve all the time. I've been associated with, at last count, some 30 or 40 odd (some of them very odd) musical projects in my lifetime. Some of them lasted many years, others, well... didn't. I'm nowhere near done, either.
It does you no good to wish your former bandmates failure. If you really want to get back at them, paste a smile on your kisser and put another band together, one that will make them regret ever parting company with you.
When you run into these guys again, kill them with kindness. Swallow your bile and wish them well. Being bitter will just mark you as "difficult" and will hurt no one but yourself.
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06-17-2010, 08:40 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Fredericksburg | | | Yeah I just left my band, too. The guitarist/singer was such a prima dona egotistical punk I couldn't handle anymore after almost 2 years. We were doing pretty good, too. But our old drummer left and he brought on one of the worse drummers I have ever played with. The kid would stop in the middle of the song, miss changes, just awful. My complaining was met with resistance from little punk beotch, and I just stopped going to practices. It wasn't worth playing with a guy I really had no respect for. He'd trash every local musician, every recording, every band. Yet, he would praise himself and lie his way through life.
Now I am bandless and I am not getting any younger.
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06-17-2010, 08:43 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Fredericksburg | | This is good advice. I did something the other day to my ex band mates that I regretted a few minutes later. I posted on my facebook that I was going to knock his teeth out, although I did not name names, it was obvious who I was talking about.
it was stupid. I have to rebound and get better and find better musicians and put that smile on my face. You are right. Quote:
Originally Posted by ggunn Get over it. Seriously. For your own sake.
Musical relationships form and dissolve all the time. I've been associated with, at last count, some 30 or 40 odd (some of them very odd) musical projects in my lifetime. Some of them lasted many years, others, well... didn't. I'm nowhere near done, either.
It does you no good to wish your former bandmates failure. If you really want to get back at them, paste a smile on your kisser and put another band together, one that will make them regret ever parting company with you.
When you run into these guys again, kill them with kindness. Swallow your bile and wish them well. Being bitter will just mark you as "difficult" and will hurt no one but yourself. |
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06-17-2010, 09:23 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Metro Detroit | | | When I started this thread, I was pretty pissed off. We were booked solid for three months and starting to book past that. After contacting most of the clubs, I find some of them telling me we're better off for it and that we have gigs as soon as we get replacement members. That's great, but finding a good drummer is tough. There are probably 100 drummers within a stone's throw. One of them might be good enough... |
06-18-2010, 02:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Craig_S That's great, but finding a good drummer is tough. There are probably 100 drummers within a stone's throw. One of them might be good enough... | Ah !! The joys of being in a band !!
If you cant stand the heat....
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06-18-2010, 12:50 PM
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Originally Posted by fearceol
If you cant stand the heat.... | huh??  |
06-18-2010, 03:04 PM
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Originally Posted by Craig_S huh?? |
Read back through your posts and you'll see that all you have done is gripe.
To complete the phrase ; "If you cant stand the heat, then get out of the kitchen".
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06-18-2010, 03:50 PM
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Originally Posted by fearceol Read back through your posts and you'll see that all you have done is gripe. | kesas
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06-18-2010, 03:56 PM
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Originally Posted by JTE Musicians are flakes. We all are. ... | Speak for yourself. |
06-18-2010, 04:35 PM
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