This is from my personal experience, I've been playing djembes since I've been 11, so take it with a grain of salt
First off, dont tilt the djembe towards you like that. Lay it on the ground, and sit on top of it, so you can play using the whole skin (your ddjembe is small so you probably wont be able to do that until you get a bigger one), or sit on a chair, and tilt it away from you instead of towards you. Make sure you're not sitting back, but rather leaning forward. It'll make things easier.
Try to play with your fingers as much as you can. Whats fun with djembes is that you can pretty much smack your fingers against them (close to the rim for example) to make tight and bright sounding breaks from playing the bass in the middle.
As far as fingers are concerned, dont hit too hard but dont be scared to give impulsion, thats whats fun and what will give you a nice sound.
Have fun! Djembes are awesome

Try and alternate djembe/bass, you'll find it gives you the sense of rhythm you need when you pick up the bass, and you'll play in the pocket after some time spent on the djembe.
I've no pics of my djembes/darboukas/percussions but I'll try to take some eventually.