Originally Posted by EricF
My band's lead guitar player was also a former bass player, and probably better at it that I was. He was constantly nit-picking my playing, and despite my attempts to play it his way, and connect with him on a friendship level, he and I never clicked very well. He eventually got me kicked out of the band. A short time later, the whole band imploded over his continued bad attitude toward other band members who weren't up to his expectations. A year(ish) later, the band re-formed to include me, but not the lead guitar player. We have a new lead guitar player who is an awesome fit for everyone, and we're having a great time.
Unless the bass player is truly wrecking the music, let him handle his part (the way he chooses to approach it - music is art, after all), and you handle yours...
Honestly, NOTHING gets under my skin more than people telling me how or what to play.