Who here is dealing with eldercare issues, and how are you getting along?
After 3.5 years in a retirement/assisted living community, my mother passed away right before last Thanksgiving. Intellectually, you know it's coming, but of course the way it actually unfolds is never predictable or emotionally easy. The final month was a sad quick downward spiral, but up until then she did fairly well, in spite of increasing dementia. Those of you who have been through it know that it doesn't just stop there. While I had already been sorting through her house and cleaning/organizing all the while she was in her new environment, I still have a long way to go(I found it ironic that I came across the movie "Grey Gardens" with Drew Barrymore on cable not long after the series of events that led to her moving, and let's not even talk about "Hoarders"). Still plenty of paperwork to go as well. What blew my mind was that while I had my emotional/logistical stuff to go through, all of a sudden practically half of my friends in my hometown AND where I currently live were having similar experiences, and these were people 10 years or so either way of my own age(not to mention the occasional losses of those in my own peer group). One upside is that there is this shared experience/note comparing/support group aspect of that situation. And now I'm assisting my girlfriend through the same process. So, who here is in the thick of it? Feel free to vent, you have to let it out, don't feel guilty or ashamed. It's a very frustrating place to be, full of emotional contradictions, as well as the financial and medical grief. Has it affected your music making, either motivationally or time-wise?