Buying a round of drinks for only part of the band..

[electracoyote]

Originally Posted by msaone

Tip jar?

The status quo in my neck of the woods.

[Raymeous]

Buying drinks for the band is up to the person doing the buying, not you.

Is it a kinda of crappy thing to do, to single out specific members to buy drinks for? Hell yeah it is, but I wouldn't take it personally, altough it's hard not to.

As a general rule I usually don't buy drinks for bands. I don't want them too blitzed to put on a good show for me to watch. That being said if I do decide I enjoyed the show enough to buy a round of drinks, I will ask the band members between sets, or after the show what it is they drink and get ALL of them what they want.

[hgiles]

"Thanks, everybody, for the show of support, but without our wonderful bassist and drummer none of this would be possible. Please remember to show them your appreciation at the break!"

[guy n. cognito]

Originally Posted by electracoyote

A perfect illustration of how rude and inconsiderate people can be.

I had it happen to me once in a band. I thought it was the most tasteless and insulting thing I'd ever experienced. I'd rather have a patron walk up and puke on my shoes.

Originally Posted by electracoyote

If they're not all busting their asses to entertain and please you, then that makes sense.

It's a bit different with a band.

Originally Posted by electracoyote

Yeah, a lot of people feel that way about basic manners and respect.

Originally Posted by electracoyote

I would. It would make me very uncomfortable to be the only member of the band getting a free drink.

If someone came up to me and gave only me (or perhaps me and only one other member) a drink on stage with my band looking on, I'd sure as hell say something to the effect of, "Hey, what about the rest of my boys here?"

I'm tight with my band, it takes the efforts and contributions of every one of us to make for a good noise and evening's worth of entertainment. Why should I be singled out and get the credit?

Either all of us should, or none of us should.

Now, if patron hands me a drink and walks off, well, not much I can do about that. But it's wrong on several levels.

In my humble opinion, of course.

You are way to easily offended. Would you be equally as offended if someone bought you a drink, but no one else in the band?

Originally Posted by Raymeous

Buying drinks for the band is up to the person doing the buying, not you.

Yep.

Certain members of my band are always stumping for shots. Last time, it was moonshine and Jagger. I like to drink, but shots are for rednecks and college kids. Everytime I get them at a gig, I have to find a polite way to put it down with drinking it and potentially offending the buyer. I WISH they would exclude me!!!

[rockinrayduke]

What's worse than this drink thing is when a person comes up and gives a bandmember money in full view and they slip it in their pocket. Then at the end of the night you wait for them to put the money in the tip jar and they sorta "forget". Then comes the very awkward conversation about it.

After all this time if someone doesn't buy me a drink who cares? They usually do but if I want one I know where to get one. Now and then a patron will single out someone in the band they like. It's all good. Repeatedly mentioning drinks on the mic sounds like you're begging.

[travep]

No quote but I love the guy that says he typically buys the whole band drinks or puts a $20 in the tip jar. The day I have to lay down a cover, buy my own drinks AND put a $20 in the tip jar is the day I quit going out. I find the entitlement attitude by some here *really* strange. Buy your own drink...why do you want to drink some crazy unknown shot from some bar troll anyway? I'd rather pay the $8 and drink what I want.

Question...do you guys typically buy 5 drinks when you approach a table of ladies or do you just buy one for the looker you have your eyes on? For the record, I'm not comparing the OP to the hefty friend of the supermodel ;-)

[electracoyote]

Originally Posted by guy n. cognito

You are way to easily offended. Would you be equally as offended if someone bought you a drink, but no one else in the band?

Yes. As I have stated in previous posts, the feeling would be more like discomfort, and I doubt I would throw a fit, though I might say something along the lines of, "Hey, what about the rest of my boys working hard up here?" Being singled out as the diva or the more important member makes me uncomfortable.

Unless it's my wife doing it.

But from a stranger, it's awkward.

To those whom it doesn't bother, good on ya mate. I'd never accuse you of being insensitive. How pretentious.

Originally Posted by hgiles

"Thanks, everybody, for the show of support, but without our wonderful bassist and drummer none of this would be possible. Please remember to show them your appreciation at the break!"

+1

[Derock85z]

I never really let it bother me, but then again I get my fair share of free drinks.

In between sets, the band sets off in the crowd to mingle and pick up new gigs. It's not uncommon for a person to come up and have a 5 minute conversation with me ( I'm a very sociable guy) and offer me a drink for my time. Most of us come back on stage with a drink from someone in attendance, it doesn't bother any of us. We have a very attractive lead singer, she gets drinks from the crowd on stage in between songs, we usually laugh about it.

To be honest, I'm usually the guy that takes a few minutes of a band members time when it's their show, and offers to buy that person a drink.

Don't take it so personal, I know I'm not in the spotlight so I don't get the most recognition, but that's not what I'm after. I'm just a fun guy that wants to play music live for a crowd, and enjoy a CC&7 or two.... Just don't forget the lime!