Just an observation but, I have met a few ladies by playin in bands. It seems they were attracted to the "quiet confidence" of the bass player. Any girl worth dating can see through the obvious needy narcissism of singers and lead guitarists. Bass player just hangin' back, keepin' a steady rythym, aggressively playing, occassionally steppin' up and flashing some brilliance. Seems they like that. Not to mention the competition factor of many girls tryin for the singer or guitarist. Bassist may be an easier target.
But what it really is, is that being the "entertainment" for the evening gives you street credibility. People kinda "know" you now. You're not just some speck on the wall. And if you smile and remain approachable, chances go up.
Bottom line, seems that women will focus on the best looking guy in the band. And that usually isn't me
