Hey you - get your damn hands off her!

[oniman7]

Originally Posted by ZeroSymbolic

If I was on stage and someone was making one of my girlfriends uncomfortable, Id be whupping ass.

One of your girlfriends? Take it easy there, pimp

[MatticusMania]

Originally Posted by MouseRat

Any similar experiences, or are they all of the "girlfriend gets angry at other girls" variety?

Never had either of those problems with my ex. She may have gotten hit on at gigs, but not to any degree she couldnt handle. And she also didnt care about other girls at my gigs, in fact she was probably checking them out more than I would.

[MatticusMania]

Originally Posted by Mykk

In general, I think having your girlfriend/wife/love interest getting hit on by someone else is something we as guys just need to accept. As long as your comfortable in your relationship/current situation and you trust they wouldn't accept the advances from others than you don't have anything to worry about.

+1 I was with a really hot chick, I knew from the moment we started dating that other dudes are going to be looking at her and hit on her if they got the chance. But, none of that mattered, because she was there with me. Its actually quite funny to watch some guy put the moves on your woman, then you just walk up like 'Hey, hows it going' and the guy gets all "Uhhhh..." and walks away. Ive had guys buy me a drink just for being cool and not starting **** with them over it.

[afzoomie67]

Originally Posted by MatticusMania

+1 I was with a really hot chick, I knew from the moment we started dating that other dudes are going to be looking at her and hit on her if they got the chance. But, none of that mattered, because she was there with me. Its actually quite funny to watch some guy put the moves on your woman, then you just walk up like 'Hey, hows it going' and the guy gets all "Uhhhh..." and walks away. Ive had guys buy me a drink just for being cool and not starting **** with them over it.

That's hilarious.

[kaputsport]

I have often found it useful for your girl to have a friend as a wing woman, there to lie to the guy hitting on her... One time, I was playing a show, and a guy came up hitting on my wife. Her cousin leaned over to him, after he bought her a drink, and said...

"Hey, you see that guy up there wearing the blue shirt playing bass? Yea, the one with NAVY on it... That is her husband. He's an ex Navy SEAL. He just got out, and doesn't really like to talk about it".

The guy thought she was serious, and left my wife alone, only to confront me later, and ask about "what I did" over there... I had to lie as well, but in the end, it worked.

[etoncrow]

I have very large, physical friends who have protected my woman, my parents, our equipment and members of the band on numerous occasions while we were performing on stage.

For example, we were playing a college party and some guy hit on my mother (yes, my mother) several times on the dance floor; about the fourth time my dad grabbed this punk by the throat and pulled back to hit him when one of our "protectors" unhooked the guy from dad's fist, carried the punk outside and threw him down a hill. He was beaten up by the fraternity when he climbed back up the hill and tried to re-enter...another time a guy came at one of the guitar players with a knife while we were playing...another guy tried to stroll through our equipment during a break with a cinder block on his head competing in a "cowboy" hat contest...our "protectors" usually sit with the band women so I do not know how many bad incidences just never occurred...an ounce of prevention

[BayStateBass]

I haven't had to deal with this because I have, like, one show under my belt. And my wife stayed home with the kids. I imagine it might become an issue because my wife is very good looking (and NO, you can't get a pic..."No pic no wife rules don't apply here.....). I never thought a lot about it because she gets the pickup lines a lot at work and just laughs them off.

But I have a close friend who plays lead guitar in a popular local band. His wife is a smokeshow. But she controls the situation. She tends to sit at a table right near the band, and often times one of his friends or groups of friends sit with her. Me included, when I get out to see them. And she tends to leave fairly early in the night before the real drunks start to come out of their shells.

[Big_Fat_Dynamo]

I straight up tell my girlfriend, when I am playing there are going to be lots of drunk girls, hitting on/flirting with the band, its my job to play along with that as they are the ones buying drinks, cds and getting me hired back to play again, and they can deal with it or stay home. And if you don't trust your girl to be faithful to you while you're in the same room, then find another one. That being said if I ever saw a guy getting forcefully physical with my girl while I was playing I wouldn't think twice about putting my bass down and breaking his teeth.

[logicman69]

Never bothered me either way, but then again I am not a jealous type of person. My guitar player on the other hand is.. I've seen him leap across the bar to try and knock someone out for "talking to his girl"... I left that band shortly after.

My wife knows that getting hit on is "part of the gig". I like to call it "networking". She knows and trusts me enough to know it's just harmless flirting and that I would never take it to the next level.

[Audiophage]

I would think that most women would know how to handle themselves in that situation. However, if you're afraid of things getting physical remember that there is always strength in numbers.

[ZeroSymbolic]

Originally Posted by oniman7

One of your girlfriends? Take it easy there, pimp

I take it easy. I have two great girlfriends, and I support and protect them both.

[kanonfodr]

I've only had the ability to take one "girlfriend" to a gig, one dude ended up buying her several drinks while I was on stage. So needless to say as soon as the gig was over with I strolled over there to put my basses away and he was all "I'm not trying to steal your girl man, no worries!" I should mention that she was one of two folks in this bar that was clearly of latin descent (we were playing in Martinsburg, WV; I leave it up to your imagination ) and the only female (and not bad looking, either).

I just shrugged it off. My history is such that I know this: if someone is going to cheat they will, be it right in front of your face or behind your back. We weren't involved enough to warrant a physical outburst and if she had gone home with him I would have smiled and left: she can find her own way back. And ultimately, it was less drinks that I was paying for so it was all good . That's pretty much the way I look at it at any time.

Peace,
Greg

[Marley's Ghost]

Originally Posted by ZeroSymbolic

I take it easy. I have two great girlfriends, and I support and protect them both.

PM me.. I need to live vicariously through you.. ;-)

[ZeroSymbolic]

Originally Posted by Marley's Ghost

PM me.. I need to live vicariously through you.. ;-)

lol. The key is man, not to make a big deal of it. We aren't this wild crazy fetish group or anything. Just 3 people that care a lot about each other. Having this kind of relationship is work, this isn't porn or the movies ya know.

[PMagers]

One night in the '50s, at a bar called 'Harold's' (I think), watching a new band called The Four Seasons, my dad hit on a chick and was thrown out by a bouncer who was looking after 'Frankie's girl'.

My old man just saw 'Jersey Boys', where a similar incident is scripted into the play - he's convinced it's a portrayal of him on that fateful night...

[MatticusMania]

Originally Posted by PMagers

One night in the '50s, at a bar called 'Harold's' (I think), watching a new band called The Four Seasons, my dad hit on a chick and was thrown out by a bouncer who was looking after 'Frankie's girl'.

My old man just saw 'Jersey Boys', where a similar incident is scripted into the play - he's convinced it's a portrayal of him on that fateful night...

Is his name Jed Schmosby?

[MonetBass]

Originally Posted by dave64o

Do you really think I should swear?

Absolutely George, you should definitely swear!

Aw crap, Dave... that exact line went through my mind when I read the title.

[bassinplace]

If you're worried about your girl getting hit on during your set, then you've got bigger problems than guys hitting on your girl during your set.

[afzoomie67]

Originally Posted by ZeroSymbolic

lol. The key is man, not to make a big deal of it. We aren't this wild crazy fetish group or anything. Just 3 people that care a lot about each other. Having this kind of relationship is work, this isn't porn or the movies ya know.

Did someone say porn!?

Interesting relationship..

[PMagers]

Originally Posted by MatticusMania

Is his name Jed Schmosby?

uncanny....