After 5 years I finally quit my main band.
I had a bad week with car repairs and other crap that ate up all my free time, so when it was time to play an hour set for Toys For Tots with the "new, improved" band, I got worried... I crammed like hell on new material only an hour before driving to the show. The others had been getting together and practicing the material for a few weeks, working out guitar parts, etc. so I was concerned that I was going to be the Weakest Link.
Unfortunately I was the best player on that stage. And the only one who knew the arrangements. I hate that.
It occurred to me later that the BL and singer just don't have music in them
. Yes, they love it, want to play it and they practice hard and often but it's still all greek...just can't grasp Music and Music Performance 101. It's like in the carpentry world: some people just don't have the aptitude no matter how much training you give them. Maybe they can read a tape or cut a board but they just can't grasp how parts go together or why.
It was especially frustrating because our new guitarist is a professional who tours with national acts. He's been teaching the BL how to approach this material. And then he didn't know it at the gig. So my suspicions were correct: supposedly a touring profession with national acts (I did actually see him on YT), has no car, has no job, gets paid weekly scale when actually touring, and he wants to play with THIS band?
Oh, wait...turns out he's the guitar tech.
Time to move on... I will NOT be embarrassed like that again.
Thanks for the forum to vent.