So what happened to my pawned basses?

[NickInMesa]

This follows the old thread, where I explained how my SIL stole my gear back in November.

Wow, what a fun ride. Never think that a divorce is like a walk in the park. My experience was surely not unique, but seeing my basses and gear taken away by your ex and her sister added to the aggravation.

I managed to get my basses back and some of my pedals, but I lost quite a bit of my gear. Some of my pedals are forever gone, so are a few gig bags, Peavey bullet shells, and my custom made bass (the one I bought as a kit and used as a learning platform).

You know, all that stuff is replaceable.

It took me months to get the tickets for the pawn shop and only got them the day before the shop was about to put the gear for sell.

I only got that gear back because I had a hidden surveillance camera looking at the room where we had agreed I would stay.

I lost a rifle, my Nikon camera and lenses, all of my tools, a few pre-marital stuff. Obviously, without a hidden camera, I would have lost my musical instruments as well.

All of this is stuff. I managed to get the most important thing I needed to save out of this: my sanity.

In the whole craziness of things, while I was working on rebuilding my relationship with my children, I completely left the basses unattended, so now I am back.

I have a new special someone in my life and she has dragged me to live concerts and each time I felt awful for quitting for so long and she's been pushing me to get back into playing bass. Except, she's also a musical quitter, but what can I say? Women loves dating a musician. Guys don't really care

So, I am back. And as a supporting member.

I have also spent time thinking about a new musical direction and I am more and more attracted to the very groovy stuff (blues, funk, motown, and most of the stuff on channel 7 on XM).

[mwbonsall]

Welcome back Nick. A Divorce with kids is hell, been there. For the rest of it; “If time or money will fix it, it ain’t a big deal”. Things get much better with time. If you start playing out again let me know and I will try to make it.

Mark

[bassteban]

Sounds like things are looking up- right on for you.

[pacojas]

missed your funniness, Nick,... welcome back!!!

[tigerbass]

Glad to hear you're back on track. Divorces suck, but it sounds like you have yourself a good new girl and that's awesome that she's into you playing bass. Hopefully the new happiness you have will inspire you musically.

[VincentSalizeri]

Glad to hear most of the troubles are behind you now.

[ironrat]

you are divorced and got a new love that loves music and encourages you to play? Hell, I envy you! Best wishes!

[plankspanker13]

I hope that the ex-SIL is prosecuted, and am glad to see that you put my insights about the f/m ratio in our age bracket to good use. My only concern is that you may have done so too soon after divorce. It takes more time to heal. My heart is perhaps finally ready, but my brain is not, and I am 2+ years post-breakup...and she never wore my ring. After the ex-wife, I took 4 years (and a few Warwicks) to heal. Rebound relationships are another tricky navigation unto themselves. Good luck.

[NickInMesa]

Originally Posted by plankspanker13

I hope that the ex-SIL is prosecuted, and am glad to see that you put my insights about the f/m ratio in our age bracket to good use. My only concern is that you may have done so too soon after divorce. It takes more time to heal. My heart is perhaps finally ready, but my brain is not, and I am 2+ years post-breakup...and she never wore my ring. After the ex-wife, I took 4 years (and a few Warwicks) to heal. Rebound relationships are another tricky navigation unto themselves. Good luck.

No prosecution, I actually explained the situation to the Mesa PD and declined going forward with anything. Something about this not really looking too good in court and actually using it to my advantage.

All in all, the result is exactly the same as if she had done none of this. We just end up splitting everything and co-parenting, but that was hard to get. Yet, statistics show that kids do a lot better when the parents work together. Oh, and I pay her spousal support, which I always said I would

The ridiculousness of this all is mind-boggling. My lawyer, in decades of work in the field, has never seen a woman acting like this, ever. It completely surpassed everything.

Now, isn't this my luck?

As for the "too soon" thing, let me tell you: my GF is on the same boat and none of us thought it was too soon.

I still wonder what happened to my custom bass, though.

Now, all of this inspired me to get a new hobby: shooting guns.

[fhm555]

One of my favorite old dives had this sign up behind the bar.

"Thanks to your constant nagging, I've quit smoking and drinking. I plan to use the money I save to buy shotgun shells."

[NickInMesa]

Originally Posted by fhm555

One of my favorite old dives had this sign up behind the bar.

"Thanks to your constant nagging, I've quit smoking and drinking. I plan to use the money I save to buy shotgun shells."

That sounds aggressive.

I like to punch paper.

[JMac4strngr]

Welcome back Nick..... Glad You got things(family life, and gear returned) back on track. Missed Ya's round here....

[AltGrendel]

Glad you're back.

No offense Nick, but you really need to write a book. You have some of the most interesting threads out there.

I'd buy a copy for sure.

[southgabass]

Glad you timed getting your gear just in time... mine knows better LOL..... glad your new interest is keeping you interested..... =D

[NickInMesa]

Originally Posted by AltGrendel

Glad you're back.

No offense Nick, but you really need to write a book. You have some of the most interesting threads out there.

I'd buy a copy for sure.

I swear telling the story of my life to a judge sucked.

And this could have been avoided so many times... Wasting tax payer's money acting like kids, tossing poop at each other in court... What a great use of your precious time on this planet.

Oh yeah, it's a dramatic time of your life, that's for sure.

It seems that now the more funk I listen to, the more I feel like playing that.

Maybe I came out of this a different person, who knows?

[N.F.A.]

Welcome back Nick!

[XtheDeadPawn]

My bro has relationship probs too. His pregnant gf is out of state and the baby's due on the 27th. She and him can't seem to have a conversation without the other yelling. I think they are pretty much over.

I doubt she'll even tell him when the baby is born. I plan on giving my 1st bass the my nephew when he's old enough. I feel for my brother and for you man hope you get better.

[MatticusMania]

Originally Posted by plankspanker13

I hope that the ex-SIL is prosecuted, and am glad to see that you put my insights about the f/m ratio in our age bracket to good use. My only concern is that you may have done so too soon after divorce. It takes more time to heal. My heart is perhaps finally ready, but my brain is not, and I am 2+ years post-breakup...and she never wore my ring. After the ex-wife, I took 4 years (and a few Warwicks) to heal. Rebound relationships are another tricky navigation unto themselves. Good luck.

After leaving my ex-wife I swore off of women, focused on music and moving forward with my life. Not but 4 months later I met a very special woman, who I am lucky enough to have recently wed.

A similar thing happened to my friend/bandleader. He got out of a long term disasterous relationship last September. He's just found himself a seemingly great girl and his mood has visibly shifted towards a happier, more positive self.

Sometimes, when youre not looking at all, you find what youve always been looking for.

[Munjibunga]

Originally Posted by XtheDeadPawn

My bro has relationship probs too. His pregnant gf is out of state and the baby's due on the 27th. She and him can't seem to have a conversation without the other yelling. I think they are pretty much over.

I doubt she'll even tell him when the baby is born. I plan on giving my 1st bass the my nephew when he's old enough. I feel for my brother and for you man hope you get better.

I bet she'll tell him when the first child-support payment is due.

[anarkink]

Funk helps my man. I feel ya