To all Divorcee's

lawsonman · #1 01-13-2009, 05:14 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fNN8vpCwCAo

christos · #2 01-13-2009, 07:26 PM

Oh, how I love that one...

Gard · #3 01-14-2009, 06:37 AM

...y'know, as a newly seperated and on the way to divorced guy, I am going to go against the flow here: Not funny at all.

...I don't wish any ill will toward my soon to be ex, I just wish her to go away and leave me to my life. Within reason (I still see my step son once a week, so I see her), she is doing just that, so there is no animosity.

Maybe I'm lucky...but even if she were being a...hmm...yeah, the word after "Merry Christmas...." in that video, I still would not wish her any ill will, just to be left in peace so I can move on and find some kind of happiness (and her too, hopefully).

It's sad when people who cared about each other end up with that much anger and animosity...

AlembicPlayer · #4 01-14-2009, 06:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Gard

...y'know, as a newly seperated and on the way to divorced guy, I am going to go against the flow here: Not funny at all.

...I don't wish any ill will toward my soon to be ex, I just wish her to go away and leave me to my life. Within reason (I still see my step son once a week, so I see her), she is doing just that, so there is no animosity.

Maybe I'm lucky...but even if she were being a...hmm...yeah, the word after "Merry Christmas...." in that video, I still would not wish her any ill will, just to be left in peace so I can move on and find some kind of happiness (and her too, hopefully).

It's sad when people who cared about each other end up with that much anger and animosity...

+1

Selta · #5 01-14-2009, 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by AlembicPlayer

+1

+11

Relic · #6 01-14-2009, 06:49 AM

+111
been there myself and have had the same thoughts Gard ol' buddy. You're not alone.

Gard · #7 01-14-2009, 06:50 AM

...continuing on:

If you channel all the energy that is wasted on anger in a situation like that into something POSITIVE, everyone will come out ahead - starting with YOURSELF.

However, I will share a funny about my situation:

My ex has TWO ex's (yeah, I know, I shoulda known better!

), and I'm actually on good terms with both.

During this mess, there was a period of many weeks where I spoke to neither of these gentlemen. In the past week, I've had the opportunity to speak to them both at length, and in that time, due to the fact that I am close to children that each is a father of, I felt the need to explain my side of the situation.

In BOTH cases, each stopped me after a moment of my trying to explain myself and said essentially the same thing:

"You don't need to explain anything, I was married to her too."

...yeah, she's nuts.

However, she's a sweet person who MEANS well, she just has so many issues that as my totally nuts sister would say, "that girl don't have issues, she has SUBSCRIPTIONS!"

Relic · #8 01-14-2009, 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Gard

However, she's a sweet person who MEANS well, she just has so many issues that as my totally nuts sister would say, "that girl don't have issues, she has SUBSCRIPTIONS!"

LMAO, good one!
Mine was pretty severely bipolar. I could say the same exact thing - when "stable" she was fine. Very friendly, outgoing and well-liked but when she would "lose it"? Ugh, I don't even want to talk about it.

christos · #9 01-14-2009, 09:31 AM

Laughing at a joke like that does not mean I wish anything bad on my ex-wife, it just means I laughed my butt off when I watched the video. Seriously, I loved the woman enough to marry her... And no matter how old I get I will always laugh at a good divorce joke.

**cheezewiz** · #10 01-14-2009, 02:31 PM

I get along really well with my ex and I still think the video is funny.

geoff_in_nc · #11 01-14-2009, 03:49 PM

I'm separated and on my way to an amicable divorce.... so + eleventy-'leven on Gard's comments.

And you know, somehow I only feel a teeny tiny bit guilty for LOLing.

Lazylion · #12 01-14-2009, 11:20 PM

I'm divorced, and I LOLd.

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Originally Posted by Relic

...when "stable" she was fine. Very friendly, outgoing and well-liked but when she would "lose it"? Ugh, I don't even want to talk about it.

+1 now if I could just stop myself...

Gard · #13 01-15-2009, 06:25 AM

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Originally Posted by cheezewiz

I get along really well with my ex and I still think the video is funny.

OK, I admit it...it was kind of funny, in a mean-spirited way...and yes, I laughed a bit...but the sentiment behind it still bugs me as well, so like Geoff, I'm a teeny bit guilty about laughing at it...