Am I satanic or something?

[Bloodhammer]

I don't want kids. Ever. Not even negotiable.
(No offense to those who have or want children - I'm talking about myself, not telling anyone what to think.)

I'm 29 and just recently got out of the worst relationship I've ever been in. So bad, in fact, that I am seriously (not really) considering castration. The day will come, though, when I meet someone that melts my brain and the last thought before thermal breakdown will be "I think this might work."

The trouble is, that I'm awful with kids (think Schwarzenegger in T2 holding up the baby and studying it) and I really don't want any of my own. In other words I'd like to meet a woman without kids that can hold off on making any until we're split up. At 29 - hell, even at 19 - that's an incredibly tall order where I live. I think I'm going to have to wait until I'm 40, so I can hook up with a divorced woman whose children are all grown up.

I guess I'm not here for advice or even judgement, I just want to know if I'm the only one that feels this way...

[pacojas]

(the next girl you fall for will proably get pregnant)

[::::BASSIST::::]

Get yourself snipped. That way its not an option for any future woman in your life to have kids with you. If they want to be with you they'll have to accept that.

My wife and I are waiting for a report from her doctor on her bloodwork to see if she is pregnant. Its likely that she is and it was unplanned.

If she is, it will mean major changes for me and my family. I will likely have to curtail my involvement in music and it will be a heck of a lot of work. We have a 6 year old now and I love him like crazy, but kids are a HUGE responsibility.

If you have ANY doubt that having kids is not for you then dont (no matter what anyone else says). Unwanted children are no fun for everyone involved and in the end the children have to come first.

[Eric Perry]

Originally Posted by Bloodhammer

I don't want kids. Ever. Not even negotiable.
(No offense to those who have or want children - I'm talking about myself, not telling anyone what to think.)

I'm 29 and just recently got out of the worst relationship I've ever been in. So bad, in fact, that I am seriously (not really) considering castration. The day will come, though, when I meet someone that melts my brain and the last thought before thermal breakdown will be "I think this might work."

The trouble is, that I'm awful with kids (think Schwarzenegger in T2 holding up the baby and studying it) and I really don't want any of my own. In other words I'd like to meet a woman without kids that can hold off on making any until we're split up. At 29 - hell, even at 19 - that's an incredibly tall order where I live. I think I'm going to have to wait until I'm 40, so I can hook up with a divorced woman whose children are all grown up.

I guess I'm not here for advice or even judgement, I just want to know if I'm the only one that feels this way...

This is me too.

[powderfinger]

Originally Posted by Bloodhammer

I don't want kids. Ever. Not even negotiable.
(No offense to those who have or want children - I'm talking about myself, not telling anyone what to think.)

I'm 29 and just recently got out of the worst relationship I've ever been in. So bad, in fact, that I am seriously (not really) considering castration. The day will come, though, when I meet someone that melts my brain and the last thought before thermal breakdown will be "I think this might work."

The trouble is, that I'm awful with kids (think Schwarzenegger in T2 holding up the baby and studying it) and I really don't want any of my own. In other words I'd like to meet a woman without kids that can hold off on making any until we're split up. At 29 - hell, even at 19 - that's an incredibly tall order where I live. I think I'm going to have to wait until I'm 40, so I can hook up with a divorced woman whose children are all grown up.

I guess I'm not here for advice or even judgement, I just want to know if I'm the only one that feels this way...

+ a million

I myself am close to 40, and I never had kids. Never had the desire or need to "spread my seed" like some of my primate friends, who are now mostly divorcees stuck paying child support for the next 18 yrs.

I do not date women with kids. It's a HUGE no-no for me. First of all, I don't want an baby daddy drama.... second, I don't want to involved in the life of a child who belongs to another man. Dating women with kids blows. You can't have sex without worrying about the kid barging in the door or screaming "MAMA COME WIPE ME", or "MAMA IM HUNGRY", or "MAMA I HAD A BAD DREAM". You can't even sit on a woman's couch with kids without sitting on crumb's 90% of the time.

I have been lucky enough to meet a few women with grown kids the older I get, whose kids are grown and out of the house. I've met a few younger ones without kids, but not many. Older you get, harder it gets. Unless you are rich. Then you can date younger women who will give you sex if you spend lots of money on them at dinner and the bar.

[pacojas]

@powder

LOL!!!! great post

[powderfinger]

Originally Posted by pacojas

@powder

LOL!!!! great post

Its called brutal honesty from a bitter man approaching middle age.

[Phendyr_Loon]

I was in your shoes in my early 20's. Then at 26 I met my wife and now both at 30 we're raising a 1 year old.
I totally respect you for not wanting kids, but castration is pretty extreme. There's plenty of girls out there that don't want kids just like you.
You still have a chance to find that "special someone", and a vasectomy is always an option.
Don't loose your balls over it!

[powderfinger]

Originally Posted by Phendyr_Loon

I was in your shoes in my early 20's. Then at 26 I met my wife and now both at 30 we're raising a 1 year old.
I totally respect you for not wanting kids, but castration is pretty extreme. There's plenty of girls out there that don't want kids just like you.
You still have a chance to find that "special someone", and a vasectomy is always an option.
Don't loose your balls over it!

Regardless of wanting kids or not which I am firmly OPPOSED to, I would never EVER get my nuts severed.

Also, I think there is a BIG difference between having your own kid with a woman you love.... and dating a woman with a kid who belongs to her ex....

[elgecko]

Find yourself a "career woman"...they're too busy with their jobs to have kids!

And besides, "go forth and be fruitful" is now outdated. The world has enough people now.

[sandmangeck]

Are you thinking hedonism? I don't this either have negative connotations.

[Metal Matt]

I'm almost 24, and know for the foreseeable future that I don't want kids. Our society, and our government is broken and corrupt and I have no desire to create another life that will be subject to it. I know a few other people with the same attitude and same reason for not wanting kids. Different reason, same result I suppose. I would never get "fixed" though. Just on principal that it's unnatural IMO. Then again, I suppose making a conscious decision to not have children is maybe just as unnatural. To each their own.

[Kwesi]

I am completely confused as to how one can be "seriously (but not really) considering castration." I'm assuming it involves quantum physics?

[pacojas]

Originally Posted by powderfinger

Regardless of wanting kids or not which I am firmly OPPOSED to, I would never EVER get my nuts severed.

Also, I think there is a BIG difference between having your own kid with a woman you love.... and dating a woman with a kid who belongs to her ex....

yeah,.. you are correct!

my kids are grown and i recently started dating a beautiful woman that has a small child. we all went to lunch last week and the child made a huge mess. first her daughter choked on a corn chip and vomited on the floor, Thank God!..., then her mom gave her a cup of water to drink and she spilled it all over both of them, then decided to walk around the place.

she asked me out again this week and i cut it off! i'm too old to be chasing another dude's kid through a restaurant. poor woman was exhausted by the end and the child was just getting started.

it was one thing after another!!!

[fourstringdrums]

It's strange; I'm 30 and when I was 18 I knew for damn sure I wanted kids. I got married at 24 and we would talk about it but it never happened. There was always some excuse that had us putting it off. As time went by I started to feel like it wasn't something I needed any more. I eventually got divorced and now, I can say that if it never happens, I'm cool with it...actually I'm hoping it doesn't happen. So much so that I am considering the big snip. My g/f shares my feelings, and as we plan our lives, kids are not in the picture. Now if something happened, we would be happy, and would know that was what was supposed to happen.

I'm not quite sure why things changed for me, but I know that as I look at the state that the world is in, how just earning a living, and trying to make a good life for us is getting more difficult, the last thing I'd want to do is bring a child into it.

[powderfinger]

Part of why I dont want kids now, is that Im nearing 40. I dont wanna be a senior citizen when my kids graduates high school, but at this rate.....

And as far as other mens kids... remember.., women ALWAYS... ALWAYS.. ALWAYS have a crazy spot in their heart for their baby daddy. Know that, all you men dating women with kids....

[fourstringdrums]

Originally Posted by powderfinger

And as far as other mens kids... remember.., women ALWAYS... ALWAYS.. ALWAYS have a crazy spot in their heart for their baby daddy. Know that, all you men dating women with kids....

Either that or the daddy makes the woman's life a hell and possibly yours as well. Then you have to factor in any issues the child has because of the mom/dad dynamic and whether or not he/she may resent you or not for the fact that you're not their biological father. Of course nothing determines one thing or the other, but there is a lot more to consider than "do I want an instant child right now"

[warwick.hoy]

I'm married, not satanic and I don't have nor ever want kids and did something about it IOW Snip Snip

[powderfinger]

The only guy I ever knew in my life who said he was a Satanist actually has 3 kids. That I know of.

[Kwesi]

Originally Posted by powderfinger

And as far as other mens kids... remember.., women ALWAYS... ALWAYS.. ALWAYS have a crazy spot in their heart for their baby daddy.

Careful with those sweeping generalizations, you might put an eye out !