Boss who fired me will be presenting -should I go?

[Steve S]

I worked at a major university for 24 years as a counselor for students. During my last two years, I got a new supervisor who turned out to be combative, argumentative, racist, ignorant and displayed other bullying type behavior. After two years, I got tired of the abuse and filed a grievance against him. I refuled to kiss his a....He pictured me as the person creating the problems, got administration to side with him and I was given 10 minutes to leave the job that I had for over two decades. I tried to talk to attorneys but was told that in our state, employees can be let go at any time. I did file a grievance with the Equal Employment Opportunity Center and after several meetings with my former employers, they agreed to pay me $50,000.


After taking a year to decide on what to do, I began looking for employment which was difficult because I haven't had to do it for such a long time. I found a counseling position at a community college which has turned out to be much better than what I left. Not only do I get to counsel students but I'm also teaching several classes which I couldn't do at the university because I only have a master's degree. Plus, after working 8-5 for such a long time, I now work full time 9-3 because at the community college, I'm a faculty member.

Now to my question. As part of my duties, I have to work with science and math students who are transfering to the university that I left. This is a grant that our school just received for the next five years. There is a meeting scheduled later in the week in another city and one of the presentors is the person who "laid" me off with 10 minutes notice. I had worked there for 24 years. She, only 9 months and never bothered to look at or investigate my grievance and thought of me as a problem employee. I've often wondered what I would do if I ever saw her again. I've never been fired from any job and always received great performance reviews until I had that idiot supervisor. How should I handle this?

[MatticusMania]

Go to the meeting, conduct yourself as usual, and treat your ex-boss as if the two of you have never met. If she says anything to you ask her 'Im sorry, have we met?' As a woman it will drive her utterly insane. No one will notice a thing but you and her, you just have to try hard not to laugh.

[rap138]

I wouldn't do a thing. I'd be corteous if I happen to cross path with her. And that's it.

edit, just saw matticus post, that looks like a nice thing to do

[MJ5150]

Show up dressed nicely with your wife/GF/BF/whatever and smile the whole time. Living well is the best revenge. Make sure she gets the message that you are doing just fine despite the wrench she through in your life.

-Mike

[mpm32]

Bring a bunch of rats in your bag and release them in the middle of the presentation.







Disclaimer - I work in a corporate environment and I would never actually do such a thing although I have thought of such things and the chaos that would ensue - lol.

[Jay Ralston]

Don't let their bad things effect you. Go and conduct yourself as if nothing ever happened. Take the hgh road even if they try and take the low road when they see you. In the end, it will continue to speak volumes for your character as well as theirs.

[Joe Gress]

Stab her with a pencil.

[Jim Campbell]

Originally Posted by MatticusMania

Go to the meeting, conduct yourself as usual, and treat your ex-boss as if the two of you have never met. If she says anything to you ask her 'Im sorry, have we met?' As a woman it will drive her utterly insane. No one will notice a thing but you and her, you just have to try hard not to laugh.

formal,cool,detached,no snide glances......if they present you with as check,remember that it is for someone elses well being,and thank the institution that it came from,
not the presenter.....

[MJ5150]

Originally Posted by Joe Gress

Stab her with a pencil.

A Linkin Park pencil.

-Mike

[MatticusMania]

Originally Posted by MJ5150

A Linkin Park pencil.

-Mike

A dull one at that!

[5StringBlues]

Fart in her general direction.

[Bassin']

It sounds like your in a better situation now so maybe you should go just so you can thank her.

[Relic]

Go. make sure she sees you and make sure you smile the whole time. If you do get a chance to speak to her, be cordial and make sure she's aware that you're doing much much better where you're at now. Resist the temptation to beeotch-slap her. Just be happy, it's the bestest revenge

[wabbit]

Bring a drinking straw and some paper and when nobody's looking, shoot spit balls at her. If she figures out who's shooting them, THEN stab her with the pencil up through her nostril, piercing her brain. Good times indeed!

[Steve Clark]

"Thanks for firing me. It's the best thing that ever happened. I have less hours, more responsibility, more money. See you around."

If she's looking for a movie suggestion I'd suggest Up In the Air.

[Phalex]

Kill her with kindness. Let her see you smile..... a lot.

[i_got_a_mohawk]

Pee in her coffee

[i_got_a_mohawk]

Originally Posted by Phalex

Kill her with kindness. Let her see you smile..... a lot.

Possibly with some Huey Lewis and The News on in the background?

[Phalex]

Originally Posted by i_got_a_mohawk

Possibly with some Huey Lewis and The News on in the background?

It doesn't get much better.

[Joe Gress]

On a more serious side, don't forget that you could be working with her again over the next few years.