Crappy parents.

Tupac · #1 10-21-2011, 07:27 PM

I know most of the people on this forum are a little too old for this type of thread, I'm sure you can contribute if you are. (I'm in high school for the record here)

Currently I'm not speaking to me dad. Or rather, he's not speaking to me. He had just got back from a 3 day business trip, and we welcomed him back and were getting ready to go out to dinner together. Long story short, he immedietly starts being the sarcastic a-hole he usually is, and I mumbled about wishing he stayed gone. He stormed out, and we haven't spoke in 2 days. I've even said hello to him, and he still ignores me. Biggest baby I know. He was more then likely just cheating while gone anyway. Wouldn't be the first time.

So. Do your parents suck?

cjmodulus · #2 10-21-2011, 07:29 PM

Someone didn't read maki's rules...

We've all gotten into fights with our parents at some point. After time things usually seem to get better. So I won't say my parents 'suck', just that we disagree at times.

MakiSupaStar · #3 10-21-2011, 07:46 PM

How would you like it if you just got crapped on at work, flown, driven, or travelled a long crowded journey, happy to be home, see your family and then your smartass teenage son is muttering bs under his breath? I'm going to go ahead and give your dad the benefit of the doubt here, and commend him for removing himself from the situation instead of flying off the handle and throttling you. He showed restraint. Too bad it didn't rub off on you. Hence, this thread.

Joey3313 · #4 10-21-2011, 07:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tupac

I know most of the people on this forum are a little too old for this type of thread, I'm sure you can contribute if you are. (I'm in high school for the record here)

Currently I'm not speaking to me dad. Or rather, he's not speaking to me. He had just got back from a 3 day business trip, and we welcomed him back and were getting ready to go out to dinner together. Long story short, he immedietly starts being the sarcastic a-hole he usually is, and I mumbled about wishing he stayed gone. He stormed out, and we haven't spoke in 2 days. I've even said hello to him, and he still ignores me. Biggest baby I know. He was more then likely just cheating while gone anyway. Wouldn't be the first time.

So. Do your parents suck?

Dude...know your audience. Save this stuff for Facebook or something.

Kwesi · #5 10-21-2011, 08:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

How would you like it if you just got crapped on at work, flown, driven, or travelled a long crowded journey, happy to be home, see your family and then your smartass teenage son is muttering bs under his breath? I'm going to go ahead and give your dad the benefit of the doubt here, and commend him for removing himself from the situation instead of flying off the handle and throttling you. He showed restraint. Too bad it didn't rub off on you. Hence, this thread.

But what if his pops really was being a sarcastic a-hole and the under-breath muttering was warranted? I won't take any sides here but we haven't been given a clear account of what happened exactly, even from Tupac's perspective. My dad definitely doesn't suck but he can and does do some pretty lame things on a regular basis.

Oh, and Tupac, I really suggest either completely revising the OP or just deleting it altogether. I can guarantee that most of the responses won't be in your favor without a better explanation of what went down.

Tupac · #6 10-21-2011, 08:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

How would you like it if you just got crapped on at work, flown, driven, or travelled a long crowded journey, happy to be home, see your family and then your smartass teenage son is muttering bs under his breath? I'm going to go ahead and give your dad the benefit of the doubt here, and commend him for removing himself from the situation instead of flying off the handle and throttling you. He showed restraint. Too bad it didn't rub off on you. Hence, this thread.

I haven't quite explained the full story, like the part about how he's been just about caught cheating twice on these "business trips". And what are these rules of yours?

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Originally Posted by Joey3313

Dude...know your audience. Save this stuff for Facebook or something.

Facebook? Naw, too personal for this stuff. I like the anonymity of these forums.

EDIT: Thanks Kwesi, you're probably right. Come to think of it, I DID come off as a whiny sarcastic teenager in the OP. Ah well. As for what really happened, I was just a little bit disgusted with the way he was acting, considering it was the first time I saw him in 3 days, and that we were going out for dinner. But not speaking to me for it? That's overreacting all right.

NOT · #7 10-21-2011, 08:18 PM

I'm pretty sure I am your age. Sixteen, somewhere around there?

Anyway, I'm sure you and your dad will get over this. It takes something reallly big to turn family members apart. If your father were cheating, that is something for he and your mother to take care of.

Most parents don't suck.

There are good parents, and there are bad parents.

Bad parents neglect their kids. Bad parents do not feed their kids. Bad parents hurt their kids.

Good parents care. Even good parents get in little fights with their kids.

It sounds like you and your dad were both in the wrong. I say let it go.

Big_Daddy · #8 10-21-2011, 08:19 PM

...I love my parents. I'm the person I am today because of the way they raised me. I'm thankful everyday. I think the last time we had an argument was probably three years ago. I wish I could sympathize with you, but without knowing either you or your father, or even the entire story, I'm not taking a side.

Sounds like you may need a sit-down-and-talk, as opposed to sarcastic a-hole-ish comments and mutters.

Kwesi · #9 10-21-2011, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by NOT

Parents don't suck.

There are good parents, and there are bad parents.

Bad parents neglect their kids. Bad parents do not feed their kids. Bad parents hurt their kids.

Exactly how do bad parents not suck, lol?

NOT · #10 10-21-2011, 08:28 PM

Lol

I meant to say "Most parents don't suck"

**rhino333** · #11 10-21-2011, 08:37 PM

Maybe, when dad is not in the best of moods, he might want someone to say "Are you OK?" or show some concern instead of sniping back.

I finally learned that it's easy to respond in the same manner, but if I put myself out and show some concern, it defuses things.

Your mileage may vary.

fmoore200 · #12 10-21-2011, 08:50 PM

I'm not too much older than you, probably 10 years or so, but I don't agree with you at all on this.

I was raised in an environment where you could probably say my parents weren't great. There was drug use, abuse, neglect and a very unstable living environment. All that and I would have gotten a lot worse than the silent treatment for any comment under my breath. And if I told anyone about it, I would get it again.

You may not realize it, and you don't have the life experiences to empathize, but your dad came back home from a business trip that ensures this week you will have food on the table, a roof over your head, and many other things you don't even understand (you think that toothpaste is free that you brush your teeth with? What about the detergent you wash your comfortable sheets with?)

Throw stones when you have raised your own child to the age of 16 and he disrespects you and you treat him likes its all good.

Rant over

Infidelity · #13 10-21-2011, 09:02 PM

I'm prolly a bit older than you. I won't take any side on this subject but here's my opinion.

You might have to consider that your dad is a human being too.. Every person have their ups and downs and most of us only see's the down side. Light up a bit, if your dad didn't go to those trips for sure you won't have a roof to live in at the moment you're writing this post.

Munjibunga · #14 10-21-2011, 09:04 PM

The chips don't fall far from the log. Or something like that.

Angus · #15 10-21-2011, 09:11 PM

OP: A) You have not yet experienced bad parents, B) uttering "wish you stayed gone" under your breath like crappy teenagers do would make ANY parent angry, especially after they were gone working to keep you afloat, C) you come here complaining about your villainous father but come off looking like stereotypical angst-y perspectiveless teenager, thus making it difficult to take your side.

I'll grant you some leeway...what you did is what teenagers do. But you probably don't have crappy parents, even if every teenager thinks they do. Some genuinely do. You probably don't.

fhm555 · #16 10-21-2011, 09:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tupac

I know most of the people on this forum are a little too old for this type of thread, I'm sure you can contribute if you are. (I'm in high school for the record here)

Currently I'm not speaking to me dad. Or rather, he's not speaking to me. He had just got back from a 3 day business trip, and we welcomed him back and were getting ready to go out to dinner together. Long story short, he immedietly starts being the sarcastic a-hole he usually is, and I mumbled about wishing he stayed gone. He stormed out, and we haven't spoke in 2 days. I've even said hello to him, and he still ignores me. Biggest baby I know. He was more then likely just cheating while gone anyway. Wouldn't be the first time.

So. Do your parents suck?

Simple solution...move out of the big baby's house and get your own place.

Easiest way in the world to solve every one of your sucky parent(s) problems.

Just out of curiosity, do you buy your own bass gear?

tastybasslines · #17 10-21-2011, 09:46 PM

Look, I'm 37 and still angry at my parents for alot of things. Without going into detail, I got alot of bad things done and said to me. But, I love them. They are my parents. I don't forget, but I forgive, and have been at peace with them both for a while now. It's a much easier way to live, and I'm not really angry much.

Point: Don't be too mad. You dad loves you more than you know. He is acting slightly childish, but people need space sometimes, and maybe he really feels hurt. If and when you are a parent someday, you will appreciate this as well. Being a parent is hard.

skychief · #18 10-21-2011, 10:04 PM

the beauty is, someday you likely will have teenage son of your own. And you will come to realise what a pantload they can be. And you will reflect on this event and call your Dad and have a good heart-to-heart with him.

I went thru a similar scenario many years ago. (for the record, im a grandfather).

best of luck

**Pacman** · #19 10-21-2011, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Tupac

Facebook? Naw, too personal for this stuff. I like the anonymity of these forums.

Ok, Sean.....have it your way.

Muaguana · #20 10-21-2011, 10:15 PM

Count yourself lucky. My dad probably would've done a whole lot worse than not talk to me if I said something like that in his presence. And yet, I don't think he "sucks" at this point in my life. Maybe I'm just weird like that.