Crazy Girlfriend -- HELP?

[MikeyFingers]

OK, I've been dating this girl for about 2 months now. She's great, in every way, she's beautiful, intelligent, funny, etc. Most of the time she's a perfect girlfriend. But our relationship is a little skewed, see...I'm 5 years younger then her, she she makes much more money then I do, and I don't have a car right now (I'm trying to save for another one but that will come up later).
Here's what's going on:
When things are good, they're GREAT, we get along on every level and have an incredible time together. But if I do or say even the slightest thing to upset her, she *%&#ing EXPLODES!! I can't handle it. Our first argument was when we first started dating, she caught me looking at another girl from work's butt. My fault entirely, I'm just a guy, what do I know right? We talked it through and got past it. But weeks later she got mad because I [i]did NOT[i] remember one of the guys that girl had hooked up with at work. We talk about these people sometimes, just stupid gossip and stuff like that, and since I didn't remember every detail of some slut's sex life, I was at fault and it turned into another fight.
That's just one little example, believe me we've had more fights over dumber things then that.
But what's really bothering me is how much she seems to want control over my life. Nothing, NOTHING, is ever good enough for her. My friends are stupid, my band takes up too much time, I need a new car, I need to go back to school, I need to get my own place.
Money continues to be a problem too. My current living situation with my family makes it hard to save money fast (personal details need not be discussed) so I can't even get a car right now. Meanwhile, she invited me (pressured me) to go on a cruise with her and 2 friends of hers who I barely know at the end of the summer and she's getting pissed that I don't have enough money saved up already. She wanted to go to a concert at Carnegie Hall, decent tickets are over $100 a piece and she thought it was absurd that I couldn't afford it immediately when we found out about it. It's ridiculous!!! And she is not at all a "gold digger". She understands my situation and has patience for it, but STILL insists on getting mad and giving me a hard time about it. "Well who's fault is that? You should've had a car already, what's taking so long?!"
Common sense would tell most men to walk away. Just break it off and go our separate ways. But I don't know if I can do that because, (get ready), I really am crazy about this girl. I want to make it work and go the distance, but I CANNOT just completely change my life around because she says so.
At the same time I feel terrible because about 80% of our fights are my fault in one way or another. But sometimes I feel like just yelling "WHAT DID YOU EXPECT!? I'M STILL A ****ING KID!!!!!!"
Going over the last 2 months in my head, this is the conclusion I get:
I was doomed from the start. I jumped into a relationship with an older girl, I wasn't ready for the kind of commitment she wants. Most guys my age date a girl, meet the family, have a nice relaxed relationship, one in a million goes long-term and turns into something.
Most girls her age are already involved with someone long-term and are getting ready to marry and settle down. We're in 2 different worlds and we just happened to hit it off and have enough in common to stay together for a little while. Given my current situation with money and whatnot, I consider myself lucky to have been involved with her at all. But I don't know if I'm able to give her what she needs. Any suggestions here?

[rustynuts]

They're all crazy, get used to it.

Okay, now I'll go and read your post.

[L-A]

You said it. It was doomed from the start. What's left for you is to figure out how much more time you're willing to put into this (or how much you should not have put in it) and roll with it.

And maybe holding your side would help, too?

[rustynuts]

All right, I've read it. Looks like you've got three choices:

1) Bow down and take your beating whenever she feels like administering one.
2) Grow a set and tell her to go **** herself. Auf weidersehn. Sayonara. Don't let the door hit you. Or
3) Sit her down and discuss the issues you are having. If the two of you can work them out, great. If not, it's time to move on now before things spiral further downhill.

[Happynoj]

Originally Posted by rustynuts

All right, I've read it. Looks like you've got three choices:

1) Bow down and take your beating whenever she feels like administering one.
2) Grow a set and tell her to go **** herself. Auf weidersehn. Sayonara. Don't let the door hit you. Or
3) Sit her down and discuss the issues you are having. If the two of you can work them out, great. If not, it's time to move on now before things spiral further downhill.

Ooooh, you're good. +1 to that ^



Also, remember the first rules of life:

1) All women are mental
2) Always refer to rule number 1

[machine gewehr]

There are 2 choices,

1)Run away.
2)

[Bocete]

And always remember that you've been with a girl five years older. That's something.

[coreyfyfe]

Originally Posted by rustynuts

3) Sit her down and discuss the issues you are having. If the two of you can work them out, great. If not, it's time to move on now before things spiral further downhill.

IMO/E 99% of relationship issues stem from the fact that most people don't place this first in their list. Humans are creatures of habit, you let things go on for a while and that becomes the norm. She's made a habit of berating you over every little issue, but it's probably because she's holding in her frustrations over multiple issues and releasing them in bursts. For your part, you've kept your opinions to yourself instead of saying, "hey, I'm working on it, but it's not going to change over night".

That, and all girls are mental. Always.

[Muusers]

Bang her.

[popinfresh]

You're making things worse by not speaking up. If she has your balls and you're just going to sit and watch you're going nowhere. It can even turn on you to get worse quite easily.

Man up, tell her she's being a twat and if nothing changes real soon, get out. Honestly you said it yourself, it was doomed from the start. If you can't get some nuts and she can't get some respect, move on asap.

[Kenbuntu]

Women Drivers, NO SURVIVORS.

At least she realizes that and wants you to get a car.

[tplyons]

Three things to do...

1) Sit her down and talk. If it works, enjoy life. If it fails, proceed to step 2.
2) Give her the boot. You don't need this kind of stress in your life. You said it yourself, you're still a kid. Get your ducks in a row before dealing with someone else's ducks.

-or-

3) Admit it, she owns you. Get used to life her way.

In the words of a good friend of mine's father: if you want to be happy, you need to know two words: "yes dear." Admit you lose, and continue your life happy.

[Sterling_Bass]

How old are you? Do you want to be in a committed relationship right now?

[cheezewiz]

Dude...RUN. She's nuts. They are all some degree of nuts, but she's way beyond that.

I'd put up with her for about 5 seconds. No explosions and drama for me thanks.

[MikeyFingers]

Originally Posted by Muusers

Bang her.

Did it, several times, only works temporarily.

Originally Posted by coreyfyfe

For your part, you've kept your opinions to yourself instead of saying, "hey, I'm working on it, but it's not going to change over night".

I've used that exact line a few times.'



Another little gem I forgot in my original post is this: She's on the pill. I know from common knowledge and from her telling me, birth control can make some girls moody and whatnot until their body adjusts to the hormones.
Assuming this is the case, how long does it take?

[ugly_bassplayer]

Originally Posted by cheezewiz

Dude...RUN. She's nuts. They are all some degree of nuts, but she's way beyond that.

I'd put up with her for about 5 seconds. No explosions and drama for me thanks.

what he said,

[lunarpollen]

Usually, there's a good explanation of how you end up with someone 5 years older and significantly more well-off financially than you. Often, it's because she's very mentally ill, and no sane man at a similar age and financial status to hers will touch her with a 10-foot pole.

[MikeyFingers]

Originally Posted by lunarpollen

Usually, there's a good explanation of how you end up with someone 5 years older and significantly more well-off financially than you. Often, it's because she's very mentally ill, and no sane man at a similar age and financial status to hers will touch her with a 10-foot pole.

I hadn't thought of it like that, I just figured it was because I'm dynamite in bed.

[popinfresh]

Originally Posted by MikeyFingers

Another little gem I forgot in my original post is this: She's on the pill. I know from common knowledge and from her telling me, birth control can make some girls moody and whatnot until their body adjusts to the hormones.
Assuming this is the case, how long does it take?

How long has she been nutty for? I highly highly doubt it's the pill.

[Muusers]

Originally Posted by MikeyFingers

Did it, several times, only works temporarily.

Well yeah, do it over and over and over and over.