Dating someone younger than you?

Tommygunn · #1 08-13-2010, 09:04 PM

Well I'm pretty close to a relationship with someone who's a year younger than me. While shes interesting and we have a bunch of common things especially in music, but she seems a bit immature. Like she tells these random stories, and just talks about stuff I think I talked about like in 5th grade. Like I'll say something and I can tell by her response she has no idea about it, because she hasn't matured enough to experience it. Pretty strange, anybody else deal with kinda the same thing? How do you deal with it? Thanks

anyonefortennis · #2 08-13-2010, 09:09 PM

Aren't you in 6th grade or something?

metallicafan18 · #3 08-13-2010, 09:12 PM

I think about what you are saying all the time. I'm 17 now, and there are a lot of girls at my school that are really cool that are 15 years old. It seems totally creepy when you say it like that, but when you think about older married people, 47 and 45 is like the same thing.

So I just kinda look at it that way.

**line6man** · #4 08-13-2010, 09:13 PM

I'm not into relationships, personally. Always found it very stupid and pointless.

I know people who are married with 10 or more years difference between their ages. What is the problem?

cosmicevan · #5 08-13-2010, 09:14 PM

Totally can relate. What I did? I married her.

Although there is a brief 2 month period where we are the same age so she's really only 10 months younger than me. I tell ya though...31 year old gals can be SO immature (and it was even worse when we got married 3 years ago).

James Hart · #6 08-13-2010, 09:16 PM

I met my wife when I was 27 and she was 20... It's been 15 years and we are still going strong.

pedroims · #7 08-13-2010, 09:17 PM

my wife is 9 years younger than me... when I started date her , she was 19 and I was 28... now she is 29 and I am 38... love it... best thing that have happened to me

hover · #8 08-13-2010, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by anyonefortennis

Aren't you in 6th grade or something?

no kidding

what's really gonna bake yer noodle is when your voice changes and you get hair in funny places....pretty soon all her talk about Powerpuff Girls will seem irrelevant and then there's that whole statutory rape thing....

I'm totally kidding around mang.

basstotheface · #9 08-13-2010, 09:27 PM

The guys above me have a point. But for your situation they are most likely wrong. They're talking about meeting someone younger than them, but not less mature (at least that's what i've gathered). Since from your recent posts I've figured out your in high school, it's a lot different. Picture yourself a year ago, picture yourself now, big difference in priorities and preferences most likely. That's probably not the same for the older ladies and gentlemen here i presume, or to a much lesser extent. I dated a freshman in high school while in 6th grade, and a sophmore in 7th. Probably 2 of the best relationships i've had, but that came through me dating people on my maturity level, if she's younger but still has the same maturity as you, go for it. If not I wouldn't waste my time. Plus there's always the weird looks you get for dating a younger chick.

EDIT: Maybe she's just really dumb but has a great rack but you don't wanna admit it. In that case, go for it.

jp58 · #10 08-13-2010, 09:35 PM

Age doesn't reflect maturity level.

And I know your feeling all to well.

Kwesi · #11 08-13-2010, 09:42 PM

The younger you are the larger difference in maturity can be at smaller age differences. I can totally understand what you mean. In fact I know people 3-4 years older than me (I'm 19) that are less mature.

Do you feel like it's a phase or is it something that really annoys you and you don't see it stopping? For some people the whole "telling pointless stories" thing is part of who they are like it or not... I tend not to hang with those people for the sake of my patience and their feelings

. The way I see it you can wait it out and see if things get better or just squash it now. Personally, I say squash it but I'm of the opinion that if you have to question that much before getting into a relationship it isn't something worth fixing.

cosmicevan · #12 08-13-2010, 09:48 PM

perhaps i'm missing something here, but i thought girls matured faster than guys? like a lot???? i know i'm WAY more immature than my wife.

i've usually dated girls of different ages than me, sometimes older, sometimes younger and the bottom line is that i either got along with them and liked hanging out with them or i didn't. when i hung out with a girl and couldn't relate to her, i simply wouldn't have a good time...if i didn't have a good time, i was outta there. age has nothing to do with anything. people are people. obey the laws when it comes to age differences, but beyond that, you'll find people 10 years younger than you or older than you who get you and people your own age who don't. when someone isn't on your wave length...they aren't on your wave length.

Linas · #13 08-13-2010, 09:49 PM

Age doesn't really matter that much. Im dating a woman who is 12 years older than me at the moment, and sometime it seems as if im the adult in the relationship. Like it has been stated above age≠maturity. If you enjoy being with her, go with it, if not find someone else. And one year difference is not enough to consider "younger" IMHO.

Tommygunn · #14 08-13-2010, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by anyonefortennis

Aren't you in 6th grade or something?

9th

But yeah. She tells a lot of stories about her and her friends, which me and my friends never talk about that cause we know its boring and nobody cares.

I mean its not like I can't stand it. I bear with so we can talk about the stuff I like. Hell I just got off the phone with her, I was talking to her for way over an hour. I've never done that.

Age difference isn't as revelant as you get older I've noticed. You plateau in your maturity at some point. My brother is 21 and his new girl friend just turned 18 (bet he was happy

), and they're on the same level, my oldest brother is 26 and his girlfriend is like 37... they're on the same level too. But when you're young I think age is a lot more of a problem. It makes me more cautious when I hit on someone older than me, to know what they probably feel like,

rr5025 · #15 08-13-2010, 09:57 PM

Age is a number. At your age date her. You should date as much as you can when you're young, it will give you experience and help you find the type of person you really connect with.

D.M.N. · #16 08-13-2010, 10:00 PM

I swear there is a thread about posting relationships troubles around here somewhere......

Ah, yes, here it is....If you are out of school and bored -- read this before posting a thread

Calling Dr.Love.....I mean Maki, your advice is needed........

Tommygunn · #17 08-13-2010, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by hover

no kidding

what's really gonna bake yer noodle is when your voice changes and you get hair in funny places....pretty soon all her talk about Powerpuff Girls will seem irrelevant and then there's that whole statutory rape thing....

I'm totally kidding around mang.

My last relationship got really hot and intense really fast. So I think subconsciously its not her maturity thats bothering me, its the fact that its going as quickly as the other one did. I'm kinda glad tho, cause my last one lasted a month, I guess thats whats happens with relationships that are really quick to get going.

Tommygunn · #18 08-13-2010, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by D.M.N.

I swear there is a thread about posting relationships troubles around here somewhere......

Ah, yes, here it is....If you are out of school and bored -- read this before posting a thread

Calling Dr.Love.....I mean Maki, your advice is needed........

I'm already in school.

:P

rr5025 · #19 08-13-2010, 10:05 PM

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Originally Posted by D.M.N.

Calling Dr.Love.....I mean Maki, your advice is needed........

I'm fairly certain he would say something to the extent of "tap it and move on, at your age quantity over quality."

Tommygunn · #20 08-13-2010, 10:10 PM

Another thing. I remember when I was in 8th grade (last year), my friend Des went out with a 9th grader. It was like she might as well been in 5th and he might as well been in 12th. They were worlds apart, emotionally and what not. This is the same situation, I'm trying to figure out how I can prevent that. Especially, now that I've moved, we'd only see each other once every other weekend. Ect ect. There is a whole level of maturity you pick up when you enter HS (IMO), because you're in the real world. In middle school its not quite the same. People who were in middle school not too long ago will remember.