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Originally Posted by Pilgrim  No, NOTHING wrong with being a diesel mechanic! The guy in question was a nice guy, and intelligent.
But the career paths of a college MBA and a diesel mechanic are divergent, and take real work to put together. And the lifestyles you engage in and the kinds of people you tend to associate with are even more divergent. When you start adding together all the ways in which the probable lifestyles are different, not many couples can make it work.
The biggest plus was that being a good diesel mechanic is kind of like being a nurse - it's very portable. But he'd have to have been willing to follow her wherever her career took her...otherwise her college degrees would be hard to put to good use.
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I really hope I'm not reading this right. Are you saying that just because she's going for her MBA and he's a diesel machanic ... that it's a good choice for the two to break up?
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And the lifestyles you engage in and the kinds of people you tend to associate with are even more divergent.
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Just because they'll associate people of "different lifestyles" doesn't mean that they won't be able to relate to these people.
For instance .... my wife and I. She, a MBA grad, and I'm a Chef (trust me ... working in kitchens isn't like what you see on TV .... in most cases, they are a surley group of folks)... however I get along and can relate to her co-workers better than she can in most instances. Granted I've also got two BA's along with a culinary degree, but that doesn't change who I interact with.
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When you start adding together all the ways in which the probable lifestyles are different, not many couples can make it work.
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To think that a diesel mechanic won't be able to relate to a corporate person .... is simply elitist!
I personally know plenty of folks in that same position .... and are happily married. One is a corporate professional with a husband who is a garbage man for Queens, NY.
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The biggest plus was that being a good diesel mechanic is kind of like being a nurse - it's very portable. But he'd have to have been willing to follow her wherever her career took her...otherwise her college degrees would be hard to put to good use.
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This is the biggest plus there is!
What if she finds a man who is also a corporate professional ... one of them gets transfered .... what's the other gonna do .... break-up?
Just because one person gets transfered .... doesn't mean that the other will be able to find a job in the area (even with a degree).
Just because she gets a job using her MBA .... doesn't mean she's gonna want to "hang out" with the people she works with. She may end up not liking a majority of her co-workers. Unless a majority of her co-workers are of the same age range .... they won't be hanging out very often. Chances are, she'll be working with much older people than herself (especially with a MBA).
As far as following "her career".... being a diesel mechanic gives him the ability to do so, without much of a paycut. Diesel mechanics make good money. As for further down the road .... a diesel mechanic with his own shop, can make much more than a MBA grad.
Now lets look at what happens when she wants a family .... the workload of a corporate couple will find it harder to juggle a family, than a couple that has one parent with a flexible schedule (a diesel mechanic will).
With the decision that was made .... it seems that she just didn't love him enough to give it a shot. Hopefully she made the right decision ..... I have plenty of female friends to complain that "a good man is hard to find," hopefully she doesn't find it hard to do.
BTW .... No. As long as she's hot, fairly smart, and we have stuff in common .... it'll work.
Did a College/University degree ever make someone more attractive to you ? 
