Does This Come Off As Needy?

danjl131 · #1 12-28-2009, 12:48 PM

I'm a senior in high school. Went on a date last Saturday with a girl I had been talking to in one of my classes. Went well. Asked her after the date if she would want to get together the next day or tuesday. She said tuesday is better. A couple of days later (today) I asked her what time she would wanna get together. She asked what we could do, I gave her a small list of options. She said just lunch would be fine because she's busy. I asked her if another day would be better or if just lunch would be fine. She said just lunch tomorrow.

Does any part of that seem needy? Also, I haven't kissed her yet. Would a kiss in conjunction with that possibly needy-sounding conversation make me look desperate? I'm not, but I don't want it to seem that way. Sorry if this is a weird or bad thread.

PSPookie · #2 12-28-2009, 12:54 PM

Ah, Christmas break . . . like summer vacation but colder and shorter

steamthief · #3 12-28-2009, 02:12 PM

Lunch dates = no nookie.

armywalaby · #4 12-28-2009, 02:17 PM

Chicks see eagerness as a weakness, because in their eyes it seems needy. Just try not to overdo it. While you're still in the preliminary courting phases, give it 2-3 days between dates.

MJ5150 · #5 12-28-2009, 02:56 PM

Nothing weird or bad about this bro.

Back way off. Let her know you are busy too, so the quick lunch date is a great idea.

-Mike

RWP · #6 12-28-2009, 03:03 PM

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CrispyDelicious · #7 12-28-2009, 03:30 PM

She said she is busy. Chances are that is someone else she is busy with. Still no reason she can't get a free lunch and some conversation though, right?

chondro776 · #8 12-28-2009, 03:57 PM

I don't know where I am getting this from, but I have the unmistakable vibe that an after lunch kiss just isn't in the cards.

I don't think you were being needy....but I think that you are picking up her not-so-interested vibe, and looking for a reason why...

As someone who routinely rocks the "I am just so busy" excuse to dodge all manners of social commitments, when I meet someone I am really interested in, I make time.

But again, you weren't needy sounding to me.

Jared Lash · #9 12-28-2009, 04:05 PM

Ah high school.

At this point in my life I have no interest in playing these types of games so it's fortunate that I found the woman I want to settle down with.

But you're obviously still in the throes of it all so here's what I would do:

Call (or better yet text) her tonight and tell her that you remembered something you had to do tomorrow (and have an idea of what that is) and that sorry, but lunch won't work. Don't offer to reschedule.

If she asks for a raincheck, give her a couple days that "might" work for you. Then if she picks one, tell her you'll get back to her.

If she doesn't ask for a raincheck at all then stop talking to her altogether - she obviously isn't into you.

That'd be the 17 year old Jared Lash approach anyway.

A-Step-Towards · #10 12-28-2009, 04:30 PM

Ohhh geez teenage hormones and winter break=epic fails , not as bad as summer. Dude girls in general are hmm i dont want to use the word but there worst in highschool , play bass and yourself and you'll be fine.

MichaelScott · #11 12-28-2009, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by A-Step-Towards

play bass and yourself and you'll be fine.

This is the best piece of advice you'll ever get about high school.

+1

Kenbuntu · #12 12-28-2009, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Jared Lash

Ah high school.

At this point in my life I have no interest in playing these types of games so it's fortunate that I found the woman I want to settle down with.

But you're obviously still in the throes of it all so here's what I would do:

Call (or better yet text) her tonight and tell her that you remembered something you had to do tomorrow (and have an idea of what that is) and that sorry, but lunch won't work. Don't offer to reschedule.

If she asks for a raincheck, give her a couple days that "might" work for you. Then if she picks one, tell her you'll get back to her.

If she doesn't ask for a raincheck at all then stop talking to her altogether - she obviously isn't into you.

That'd be the 17 year old Jared Lash approach anyway.

This right here is what you should do man.

KeithBMI · #13 12-28-2009, 09:42 PM

KeithBMI tip #24: Never turn down lunch with a beautiful girl.

KingOvHell · #14 12-28-2009, 09:57 PM

Just simply ask her if she wants to hump. Why play all these games?

MakiSupaStar · #15 12-28-2009, 11:39 PM

If you already went on a date and now she wants to do lunch, I'd say you've just been put in the friend zone. Follow Jared's advice, and if it doesn't work out, on to the next. Remember, quantity not quality.

groooooove · #16 12-30-2009, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by danjl131

I'm a senior in high school. Went on a date last Saturday with a girl I had been talking to in one of my classes. Went well. Asked her after the date if she would want to get together the next day or tuesday. She said tuesday is better. A couple of days later (today) I asked her what time she would wanna get together. She asked what we could do, I gave her a small list of options. She said just lunch would be fine because she's busy. I asked her if another day would be better or if just lunch would be fine. She said just lunch tomorrow.

Does any part of that seem needy? Also, I haven't kissed her yet. Would a kiss in conjunction with that possibly needy-sounding conversation make me look desperate? I'm not, but I don't want it to seem that way. Sorry if this is a weird or bad thread.

doesent sound that bad too me.. just sounds like..highschool..

MatticusMania · #17 12-30-2009, 03:03 PM

Date? In high school? Where you gonna do lunch? In the cafeteria?

just kidding

Do what Jared said. Or even better, plan lunch and dont show up. She'll be all WTH? And then you can say 'Oh, I forgot... I was busy playing my bass, its prettier than you". THEN, she'll be begging for you to do her.

Stanley Design · #18 12-30-2009, 03:19 PM

Seriously, act like you couldn't care less about spending time with her. Don't say that, just act like "yeah sure whatever. I guess". Don't ask her to hang out, don't go out of your way for her, don't do her favours. She'll come to you.

That piece of advice goes for every girl in high school, and will actually get you a piece in high school.

Girls could care less about the guys that want to do them, they ALL want to do the guys that ignore them. I know it goes against everything your mind wants you to do, because you're a dude and your urges are panicked reaction to try and get instant gratification. If you just act like nothing's a big deal the girls will be fighting for you not the other way around.

your idol · #19 12-30-2009, 03:24 PM

groooooove · #20 12-30-2009, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Stanley Design

Seriously, act like you couldn't care less about spending time with her. Don't say that, just act like "yeah sure whatever. I guess". Don't ask her to hang out, don't go out of your way for her, don't do her favours. She'll come to you.

That piece of advice goes for every girl in high school, and will actually get you a piece in high school.

Girls could care less about the guys that want to do them, they ALL want to do the guys that ignore them. I know it goes against everything your mind wants you to do, because you're a dude and your urges are panicked reaction to try and get instant gratification. If you just act like nothing's a big deal the girls will be fighting for you not the other way around.

yup. act like a friendly aquaintance. dont be rude about it but dont give her much attention.

as my highschool english teacher (accurately..) put it, "if youre wearing a watch and she asks what time it is, say you dont know."

you'll be reelin' em in one after another..