does your family look down on you for being a musician?

[jonathan_matos5]

does your family look down on you for being a musician?

[jonathan_matos5]

i was talking to my father on the phone, and i mentioned some of the paying gigs i have lined up in the next few weeks/months. i could actually hear disappointment in his voice when he responded. he even asked if i found a real job yet.


i do currently have a part time job in addition to gigs.


i told him that my real job is school and music will be my current and future career.

[arbitrary]

Nope, not at all. But don't fret, they're are not perfect either.

[FL Knifemaker]

My family looks down on me for TRYING to be a musician

[Hella]

No.. my parents are both musicians my dad plays bass!

[Brad Johnson]

Originally Posted by jonathan_matos5

i was talking to my father on the phone, and i mentioned some of the paying gigs i have lined up in the next few weeks/months. i could actually hear disappointment in his voice when he responded. he even asked if i found a real job yet.


i do currently have a part time job in addition to gigs.


i told him that my real job is school and music will be my current and future career.

Sorry to hear that. My parents were proud of my musical abilities. It skipped a generation from my grandfather to me. I'm a part time musician but pretty busy.

My son is a multi-instrumentalist and a producer but he also recently graduated from college and has a non-MI dayjob. I'm proud of him.

[coreyfyfe]

Nope, my dads a drummer, my grandfather a bass player, and my great grandfather a guitarist. It kind of runs in the family I guess.

[steve21]

Originally Posted by coreyfyfe

Nope, my dads a drummer, my grandfather a bass player, and my great grandfather a guitarist. It kind of runs in the family I guess.

Although it seems good judgment making skips a generation...

[Robybass]

Usually when people look down on you, is because they don't know how good it feels doing something you like.
The kind of person that think they know best, and is allways in stress and think everyone should be as stressfull as they are. I bet they are frustrated musicians that didn't have the brain and talent to do some music.
Ask them if they play some instrument and you will hear; yea I played ______ once but did't like it, it was a waste of time.
And you'll know they are frustrated musicians that are looking up instead of looking down on you.

[bassaficionado6]

Not dissapointed or looked down upon. Just cautious.

[jrthebassguy]

They used to, because the only other person in my family who was a musician was my uncle, who lived the sex, drugs, and rock & roll lifestyle as hard as he could - and died a very early death because of that.


Then they realized I'm not a drug abusing dumbass. So it's been cool. They still don't quite understand the music I play, but they try not to let that cloud their judgement too much.

[L-A]

To my mother, music was a chore during elementary school she understands I like it but can't really appreciate it. To my dad, it's a way of getting attention (he's an attention whore).

So they don't look down on me, but they kind of support me for the wrong reasons.

[fishtx]

My mother and grandparents thought I was wasting my time when I was first starting out...and they have all passed now...

But my wife and daughter are very proud of me and love to come out to gigs and listen to the band.

[spade2you]

I grajiated from pharmacy school. I think that's the only thing my mom likes that I've done. My music, brewing, and amateur cycling is a complete waste of time. Eh, you get used to it.

[Nappa]

Not really, my mother looks down on me having more then one bass or even thinking of have a cab+head stack.* While my father on the other hand can relate as his hobbies can be quite expensive too. (golfing and hunt/shooting)

*Her hobbies are watching TV and relaxing.

[NJL]

my mom hated that i wanted to be a musician in high school, even after making Texas All-State Jazz three years in a row. as an adult, mom could care less, it's just part of life. my father ALWAYS supported it and would even buy me albums whenever he could so I could learn.

both of my brothers and I are in the music industry..

[GeneralElectric]

Certain members of my family have been very supportive.

My dad lent me $200 to buy my first bass (Fender P-Bass) because I didn't have enough birthday and christmas money saved for the one I wanted at the Pawn Shop by us. I'm also sure he was tired of me playing his bass. (71 Fender P)

My mom threw my first amplifier out of a second story window.

I had relatives donate a lot of guitar stuff even though I was playing bass at the time. I eventually picked up guitar, but still. My Uncle Jim gave me my first real bass amp (Ampeg B-15) and a broken Ric 4001 from the 70s.

I also had relatives tell me that music was stupid and that I sounded terrible, and couldn't I pick a better instrument that bass. Mind you I was already gigging steady in a reggae and a blues group a year after starting, and was filling in for everyone around me who was temporarily out a bassist. I don't think I was that terrible.


Best line, ever, was by my dad. "You'd think with all that pot and dope you and your hop head friends are doing, you'd guys would be churning out some #1 hits by now"

[Robybass]

Originally Posted by GeneralElectric

My mom threw my first amplifier out of a second story window.




Best line, ever, was by my dad. "You'd think with all that pot and dope you and your hop head friends are doing, you'd guys would be churning out some #1 hits by now"

Upsss!! Sorry man that hurts.

[Joe Gress]

Mine are very supportive. There helping me pay for my upright, and really rooting for me to do what I want. And there is ALWAYS music playing in our house. Whether it's their music or mine, we all get along and listen to each others music.

Mom even want's my band to do D's Diner (Claypool) at my bands next party/gig. (I'm slowly corrupting her)

[GeneralElectric]

Originally Posted by Robybass

Upsss!! Sorry man that hurts.

It works out though, she got a hernia. I got yelled at for having a heavy amp though.