Don't wait 28 years to apologize for something

Busker · #1 10-08-2008, 10:34 PM

Like I did. Strange tale.

I won't go into details, but I wronged a friend about 28 years ago (I'm almost 50 now). It wasn't anything super terrible like stealing his wife or anything that serious, but still... I had had no contact with this person since, about 28 years. Anyway, I've been thinking about him lately, and still feeling kinda bad about it. Out of curiosity, I googled his name, and there he was and also his email address, so I emailed him and apologized. It took only a few hours and he emailed back. He was very gracious and seemed glad to hear from me. We've exchanged a couple of emails since, and he's doing real well for himself, wife & kids, career, etc. I dunno, maybe we could be friends again, maybe not, but at least I feel better for apologizing.

I might not have waited so long, but we didn't have the internet and google back then, and I had no idea where he was, since we both moved away. It only occurred to me to google his name recently.

Joey3313 · #2 10-08-2008, 10:35 PM

What'd you do?

MJ5150 · #3 10-08-2008, 10:41 PM

Yeah...what happened? Being bothered by it 28 years later definitely moves it above a "minor" difference among buddies.

So you didn't steal his wife. Did you "borrow" her for a night?

-Mike

Busker · #4 10-08-2008, 10:48 PM

Oh alright. He was going out of town and I agreed to fill in for him at his job for a few days or a week, I can't remember exactly how long I was to do it, and instead of following through with what I said I would do, I quit in the middle of a shift and never went back. It was a rotten thing to do. But he forgave me a long time ago I guess.

**MAJOR METAL** · #5 10-09-2008, 12:39 AM

Forgiveness is a beautiful thing.

T-Bird · #6 10-09-2008, 01:38 AM

Hi.

Good for You, Busker.

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Originally Posted by MAJOR METAL

Forgiveness is a beautiful thing.

Yes it is, too bad it's a consept I'm not too comfortable with. I'm more of a "don't get mad get even" sorta person.
A serious flaw, I know, but I just can't help it.

Regards
Sam

Busker · #7 10-09-2008, 05:33 AM

Thanks.

If he had a common last name, I probably couldn't have found him that easily, or maybe not at all. But his last name is not common. In fact, its rather unusual, which made the search easy.

Baryonyx · #8 10-09-2008, 08:31 AM

Glad you've put that one to bed now!

TallLankyBastyd · #9 10-09-2008, 08:40 AM

You might want to cut back on your TV viewing of "My Name Is Earl"...

RED5 · #10 10-09-2008, 08:42 AM

My name is Earl...........

Busker · #11 10-09-2008, 09:49 AM

I've never actually seen My Name Is Earl so I don't get it. Maybe I should catch an episode, but I don't spend much time these days watching network TV.

EricF · #12 10-09-2008, 09:56 AM

I've got a couple of people who I wouldn't mind hearing an apology from.

I'm glad to hear it worked out well for you.

RED5 · #13 10-09-2008, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Busker

I've never actually seen My Name Is Earl so I don't get it. Maybe I should catch an episode, but I don't spend much time these days watching network TV.

Myself also, but I have caught a couple of episodes. It's about a guy who has an epiphany and realizes what d**k he's been to alot of people in his past. So he sets out to even out his "Karma" Karma gets alot of play on this show. The diff here is that you seemed to just stray off the path of righteousness and Earl was just a bully, and a self serving bastard. The show is pretty funny at any rate.

Busker · #14 10-09-2008, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by RED5

Myself also, but I have caught a couple of episodes. It's about a guy who has an epiphany and realizes what d**k he's been to alot of people in his past. So he sets out to even out his "Karma" Karma gets alot of play on this show. The diff here is that you seemed to just stray off the path of righteousness and Earl was just a bully, and a self serving bastard. The show is pretty funny at any rate.

Oh yeah, I think I should see that show. Might be good therapy.

RED5 · #15 10-09-2008, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Busker

Oh yeah, I think I should see that show. Might be good therapy.

I think the basic message is great. Think about how you splash the pond because the ripples will be coming back at ya. That and we should all be so fortunate as to be able to return and make right on what we boned in the first place. Sells itself! heh!

Stumbo · #16 10-09-2008, 11:33 AM

I didnt' return some nice painting tarps that a guy brought to my house while he worked with me. He is/was a great guy and very hard worker. He was able to change his schedule and get right to work that I had to get done on deadline. He saved my money and helped me complete the finish work on my house.

It bugged me off and on for over 10 years that I would just let something like that go. In my own defense, I was busy with my family, work, blah, blah blah....

So one day, when I was at Home Depot, it hit me. I just bought some tarps and dropped them off at his dad's business off since I didn't know where the guy lived. His dad was my insurance agent. I told my story and found out later the guy didn't remember anything about the tarps.

That's okay. It wasn't about him, it was about me. I sleep fine now.