Erectile Dysfuntion Advice

heavyman · #1 07-07-2009, 01:15 AM

I'd like to start by saying that
A - I have been posting on this forum on and off for a pretty long time under a different name, I am not new here. I created this second account specifically to for this thread because of it's sensitive content.
B - I know that the vast majority of the people on this forum are, at least somewhat, mature and reliable; which is why I'm posting this question here. I had a hard time (no pun intended) finding a forum or chatroom specific to my needs so I came here as a last resort. I hope this can be disussed in a polite and mature manner.
C - To the ever-watchful Mods: I am going to keep my posts completely clean and mature, and I hope that everyone else can do the same. If you deem anything here as inappropriate, feel free to let me know and/or delete it. I apologize in advance if this is the case.
On with it:
I'm 25 years old...far too young to be having erectile dysfunction problems, but that's exactly what's happening. I have a girlfriend who I've been with for a pretty long time. Despite us having been sexually active (and yes we are cautious, safe sex, etc) for a while already, lately I've been finding it difficult to maintain an erection. We start out just fine, but it never lasts long enough (NOTE-this is not premature ejaculation, it's the opposite. I can't keep it up). It's not about physical attraction because my GF is freakin beautiful and I love her to death, so I'm not going to try thinking about someone else or anything like that.
I know that stress/anxiety might cause this kind of thing, and I have been experiencing a lot of it with my family life and at work. So I'm fairly sure that's the cause of it, but whatever the case may be, I need a cure.
I'm not comfortable trying Viagra or any of that junk (and at my age it's ridiculous that I should even be thinking about it), so I'm wondering if anyone knows some alternative? Something natural? New techniques, stretches, posititions, foods, anything. I'm desperate.
This whole thing is very embarrassing for me, so it would be nice if we can handle it like adults.
If you don't have anything helpful to say, please keep to yourself and leave this thread.
I REALLY appreciate any serious input I recieve. Thank you.

bongomania · #2 07-07-2009, 01:21 AM

It probably is the stress causing the problem. So try a range of stress-reduction techniques, such as yoga, breathing exercises, meditation, walking a dog, etc.

benthughes · #3 07-07-2009, 01:22 AM

Talk to a doctor. While bass players are notorious for enhancing the mood and have prodigious powers in the "baby making" department I wouldn't listen to any of these yahoos.... unless one of them is Dr.Yahoo. It could possible be due to an underlying disease or a psychiatric issue that needs to be addressed.

That being said..... Let the ribbings begin.

heavyman · #4 07-07-2009, 01:25 AM

A much better start than I expected, thanks.

bassteban · #5 07-07-2009, 01:25 AM

Agreed on the Doctor comment. 25's WAY too young for this issue.

i_got_a_mohawk · #6 07-07-2009, 01:30 AM

Stress does sound like it could be the problem, tho I agree with these guys in seeing a Dr about it.

JansenW · #7 07-07-2009, 01:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bassteban

Agreed on the Doctor comment. 25's WAY too young for this issue.

+1 See a doctor!
This could be a heart related problem.

fast slapper · #8 07-07-2009, 01:53 AM

Are you a "heavy" man?

KarateKid25 · #9 07-07-2009, 01:54 AM

I think Bongo is right with the stress. You probably carried some stress into the bedroom which gave you some dysfunctional issues. Now your stressing about being dysfunctional... Its a catch 22. Id go have a chat to a doctor, maybe take a holiday with your partner and see if the change of scenery fixes things? Have a look at your diet too. Enough sleep? All that kind of stuff.

warwick.hoy · #10 07-07-2009, 01:56 AM

+1 on to talking to a doc but be really picky with them. I'm not against doctors but it seems really easy for them to push drugs on you that you may or may not need. Find a good one. If you aren't satisfied with the level of care you are getting from them; find a different one. You should know you body pretty well, don't be satisfied with someone who takes your vitals and then hands you a prescription.

Ericman197 · #11 07-07-2009, 05:19 AM

A LOT of guys your age worry about erectile dysfunction, but fortunately, it is very uncommon until 40+. If it doesn't go away you should see a doctor, because it is possible that there may be some underlying disease.

Some things to think about:

Ever have an erection while sleeping, or upon waking up? 'Morning wood' is a good sign. It means that the nerves and blood supply are working, and that the problem is more likely to be psychological.

Have you been drinking/smoking/using drugs lately? What sometimes happens is that a guy gets really drunk, is unable to get or maintain an erection, and then continues to have erectile dysfunction for weeks afterward. There may be nothing wrong with him, but having difficulty just one time can cause a lot of performance anxiety, which itself will cause erectile dysfunction.

coreyfyfe · #12 07-07-2009, 05:26 AM

I agree you should see a doctor. They will know what questions to ask to help you get to the source of the problem. Just remember to be honest with them, it makes it much easier to diagnose your issue or potential problems when they have the whole story.

It probably is stress, but it's worth a visit to ensure there's nothing else going on.

dave64o · #13 07-07-2009, 05:38 AM

First, definitely see a doctor. You're quite young for this to be anything more than an temporary thing.

Second, definitely work on reducing your stress level.

Third, definitely talk to your girlfriend about this. Make sure she knows it's not an issue with her by making her feel loved any way you can. Tell her you love her and find new ways to show her that. Don't withdraw physically from her, make sure you maintain closeness with lots of kissing, touching, cuddling, etc.

God knows if she was having a problem you'd be EXPECTED to be there for her so I hope she feels the same and does the same for you. If she really loves you, she'll work through this with you.

Good luck.

Chebass88 · #14 07-07-2009, 05:39 AM

Have you tried viewing adult materials? Do they work? Just because you love your lady doesn't mean your brain & piece connect with wanting to maintain an erection.

Also, is your blood pressure ok?

ian

Absentia · #15 07-07-2009, 06:17 AM

Stop drinking whiskey usually does the trick for me.

I think your thinking about it too much,

Dr. Cheese · #16 07-07-2009, 06:23 AM

OP, has she made you mad or uncomfortable? Have you cheated on her? Is money bothering you? If there are issues between you two, they could manifest themselves in your junk.

Of course, see your doctor, but at your age, the problem is probably psychological.

tycobb73 · #17 07-07-2009, 07:03 AM

How long does it last and does she have a problem with it? Society has taught us to think that men last very short periods of time while women want them to last forever. On the flip side we think women take forever to get going. A lot of times the reverse is true. Women will dry up and get sore if it lasts too long. They will also dry up if foreplay goes on for too long.

Have you talked to your girlfriend to get her take on the situation?

BassChuck · #18 07-07-2009, 07:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dr. Cheese

OP, has she made you mad or uncomfortable? Have you cheated on her? Is money bothering you? If there are issues between you two, they could manifest themselves in your junk.

Of course, see your doctor, but at your age, the problem is probably psychological.

+1
Also, is she pushing for marriage or children. These issues may not register as stress in the 'outside' world, but in bed that can have their effects.

RS · #19 07-07-2009, 07:52 AM

+ whatever on seeing a doctor. I belive diet and exercise could be an important component. How physically active are you? The more in shape you are the better your circulation. Also, aside from laying off the booze, I am in the camp that a low fat (no or very little meat and dairy) diet of veggies and whole grains will improve your overall health in as soon as 3-4 weeks, at your age.

I am sure there is some solution, so don't freak out and good luck.

**Horny Toad** · #20 07-07-2009, 08:20 AM

Lots of good advice and thoughts so far. But again, definitely see a doctor. There are so many variables that could be causing your issue. Don't be embarrassed. A doctor is going to be cool with anything you want to discuss.