Ever have a close family member pass away on your birthday?

fenderhutz · #1 05-13-2008, 05:42 PM

This may happen today to me today.

Would you celebrate your birthday differently in the future?

My grandmothers kidneys and lungs are shutting down, she is literally dying from old age. Lungs can't keep enough oxygen to supply oxygen to the blood. In the hospital on a morphine drip quietly passing.

She lived a good life, so I am not all broken up about it. I just don't think I could see my birthday in the same light again.

**MAJOR METAL** · #2 05-13-2008, 05:46 PM

I wish you and your family well in these hard times. I havent had this happen to me yet but my Mom died the day after her fathers my Grandpa's birthday , he was never the same after.

kserg · #3 05-13-2008, 05:46 PM

Sorry man...

I didn't have anyone close to me die on same day, so i have no idea.

Valerus · #4 05-13-2008, 05:49 PM

My grandfather did, 5 years ago.

I don't celebrate it different, it just...feels weird.

I hope her eventual passing won't do too much hurt. Just think of the life she lived, as you are.

fenderhutz · #5 05-13-2008, 06:20 PM

These google ads are horrible by the way. I just clicked to check on the thread and it was trying to sell me memorials (website space I think).

JimB52 · #6 05-13-2008, 06:56 PM

Sorry to hear about your Grandmother.
My Step-Father passed away a day or two before my birthday, and my Father passed a few days before Christmas. First few years afterwards were different, but when you get older, your birthday becomes less of a big deal, at least mine has, anyway.

fenderhutz · #7 05-13-2008, 06:58 PM

Yeah. I woke up. My 2.5 year old made me a birthday card and I got to open and spend the morning with him.

I stopped at the music store and grabbed some strings and some picks and got to work.

I am not looking for a huge party or anything at 31. It's 9pm EST and she hasn't passed yet, but I am also not hoping she doesn't because I know she is in some real pain.

Joe Gress · #8 05-13-2008, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by fenderhutz

These google ads are horrible by the way. I just clicked to check on the thread and it was trying to sell me memorials (website space I think).

same here.

troy2003 · #9 05-13-2008, 08:08 PM

Sorrty to hear that man,it sucks.My brothers funeral was on my sons birthday-that was kind of eerie the 1st year after.....My best friends sister passed away in her sleep on her birthday-that was weird

jonathan_matos5 · #10 05-13-2008, 08:18 PM

my great uncle's funeral was on my 18th birthday it was not a happy birthday. im sorry for your loss.

jmcgliss · #11 05-13-2008, 08:55 PM

Sorry to hear this news. We buried my dad on my birthday. With the passing of time it feels less weird...the coincidence of dates I mean. Peace.

Atoz · #12 05-13-2008, 09:42 PM

My Grandfather died on my birthday years ago. Every year, I can tell my Dad is thinking about it when he calls to wish me a Happy Birthday.

To the OP - sorry to hear the news.

MakiSupaStar · #13 05-14-2008, 12:31 AM

Well think about your parents because without them your birthday wouldn't be possible. You're not just losing your grandma, but either or mom or dad (I don't know who) is losing their mom. That's pretty significant.

For some reason, I'm weird about my birthdays. For me, now, it's more about just spending time with my loved ones. I'm glad to hear your at peace with the idea of losing her. I don't know about yours, but my grandmother, RIP, was one of the kindest souls I've ever known. I only wish she could have met my wife and son.

No worries about the b-day thing, once you hit 30, your b-day is just another day unless you need leverage to justify making a purchase because of GAS.

MonetBass · #14 05-14-2008, 08:27 AM

Sorry to hear about your grandmother.

My stepdad had a massive heart attack and died two days before my 40th. He had been my father since I was six. Obviously we didn't celebrate my birthday until later. Major downer for me, man.

Pilgrim · #15 05-14-2008, 08:49 AM

Sorry to hear about it. But please don't make it something it's not, or use it as an occasion for sadness in future years.

My mom passed away on my youngest (19-year-old)daughter's birthday in January this year, but it happened late at night and we simply didn't make a point of telling her that. It's irrelevant - gone is gone and the day really doesn't matter, so why add stress for yourself?

When you've lived a good life and it's time, then it's simply time. You shouldn't feel differently about it -if anything, realize your grandmother would want you to be happy and remember her. I suggest you add her to your birthday in a positive way - from now on, have a toast in her honor every year on your birthday.

neurotictim · #16 05-14-2008, 09:11 AM

My paternal grandmother (who I was fairly close to) died the day I went to boot camp. I didn't find out until the first letters started coming in while I was at boot camp.a

I celebrate her life when I celebrate my Navy anniversary.

WickedPissah · #17 05-14-2008, 01:17 PM

I lost a good friend 2 days after my 16th

fenderhutz · #18 05-14-2008, 01:23 PM

Well she didn't pass yesterday, barely made the through the night.

StyleOverShow · #19 05-14-2008, 01:24 PM

Sorry for your loss. I read somewhere that if you get 20 people together randomly, there is a likelyhood that there is a shared birthday (month - day). At the other end, the deathday, there is the same probability.

StanFan · #20 05-14-2008, 01:32 PM

Sorry to hear about your grandma. I recently lost my grandfather. He had a heart attack but left us quickly (he was sawing wood). My other grandfather, who died around 4 years ago, had to spend basically the last year of his life going in and out of hospitals and was confined to a wheelchair for much of that time.

Never had a relative die on or close to my birthday. My dad had a heart attack on my sister's birthday, but he lived thankfully. He didn't know he was having a heart attack and even drove himself to the hospital.