Evicted

cynikal1234 · #1 10-28-2009, 07:58 PM

I really needed to vent this out. 3 days ago, my family and I were evicted from our house. With no money to pay for anything, we are pretty much left homeless. Luckily, i have friends who have been helping me out and letting me stay at their houses. I guess this is a life experience for me, dont you think?

El Beardo · #2 10-28-2009, 08:02 PM

Sorry to hear about this and I wish you and your family the best. Hopefully things will turn around for you sooner than later.

MJ5150 · #3 10-28-2009, 08:02 PM

What about the rest of your family? Are your friends helping them too?

-Mike

ZombieBRAINS!! · #4 10-28-2009, 08:05 PM

Did the rent change? Building sold? Loose your job?

Things can be tough, Im finally back at work after 5 months of unemployment.

MoBeach · #5 10-28-2009, 08:09 PM

I hope everything works out.

iamlowsound · #6 10-28-2009, 08:15 PM

That sucks man. If you don't mind me asking, what happened? Here in Canada (at least Ontario, I am not sure if lease laws are provincial or federal) you can't be evicted between the middle or October and the end of March, because it is cold. Well, you can still be evicted, but they can't make you leave.

lowsound

cynikal1234 · #7 10-28-2009, 09:07 PM

Well, I work for my dad as far as his job goes. It is a good paying job when we get money. Doctors lately have been holding onto their money cause of fear of health care reform. The combination of that and this doctor who screwed us over with an x-ray machine we were working on. because of this, we got evicted. Some of it was poor management on my dad's side. He was also supporting the entire family. And yeah, our friends have been helping us out through this tough time. i am grateful to have friends there for me.

Dr. Cheese · #8 10-28-2009, 09:18 PM

OP, I wish you the best. Most of us are more vulnerable than we realize. I sure hope things turn around for you soon.

I'll say a little prayer for you.

Jim Campbell · #9 10-28-2009, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by iamlowsound

That sucks man. If you don't mind me asking, what happened? Here in Canada (at least Ontario, I am not sure if lease laws are provincial or federal) you can't be evicted between the middle or October and the end of March, because it is cold. Well, you can still be evicted, but they can't make you leave.

lowsound

i think you need to do some research....i doubt very much that landlords can be compelled to provide free housing...much as i feel for the op,any landlord that did that would be homeless himself....in manitoba you cannot evict if a tenant has kids enrolled in school,but thats for landlords who want to sell ,renovate or move in themselves....you can still evict for non payment

cynikal1234 · #10 11-11-2009, 04:22 AM

its been almost 12 days since i got evicted. i am still homeless. i have run out of money for gas and gas in general. and lost my best friend and a few close friends. i have very little left now. i hope i get out of this soon. i am hoping the light at the end of the tunnel comes soon. I can't imagine the ones who have been homeless for years.it has been almost 2 weeks for me and i cant even bear it

Absentia · #11 11-11-2009, 04:44 AM

Why did your friends abandon you?
I'm sure it's complicated but what kind of a person does such a thing?

I say it's a first step in things getting better, when things in life change it is the people who shouldn't be there in the first place that are the first to go.

Keep looking up, look for the window and learn from this.

vespasian1 · #12 11-11-2009, 07:18 AM

Only 12 days and you lost your best friend? I'm thinking he wasn't much of a friend after all.

My heart goes out to you man. I hope things turn around for you soon.

undeadbass · #13 11-11-2009, 10:16 AM

I've been in your very same situation. It puts into perspective who your real friends are, and teaches you how to live with very little (at least, that's how it happened with me). Bounced around on a couple friends couches and floors while I tried to save up some money. It'll get better eventually.

Stanley Design · #14 11-11-2009, 10:48 AM

Last year I had a scumlord evict me with 24 hour notice (illegal) for no reason. I couldn't argue because he said he was going to throw all my stuff in the street while I was at work, so I booked a uhaul overnight and called in sick to work. Moved all my stuff into a storage locker and lived on the street for 6 weeks until I found a new apartment.

I was sleeping in alleyways at night and manufacturing aerospace tooling 60 hours a week.

You'll get through it, it sucks the big one and it's hard, but you'll get through it trust me.

Rocker949 · #15 11-11-2009, 11:58 AM

I'm a little surprised there are people here who haven't experienced "fair weather friends" abandoning them during adversity. I think it must be a universal principle. It's hard, but you do find out who your true friends are and you do find ways to keep going. You just have to never give up even if the pain is worse than you could have imagined.

James Hart · #16 11-11-2009, 12:22 PM

I'm stuck on the other side of this...

I am truly sorry for your situation, but I am a landlord fighting to get some deadbeat tenants out of my rental house. They are 3 month past due (again), the family of 5 has grown to the 2 adult children having their significant others move in and the oldest son & girlfriend also have their infant with them. It's a small 3 bedroom home with the same rent we've charged them for the last 8 years with 6 adults, 1 preteen and 1 infant. Their water bill (which we paid until a month ago) is 5x mine (it's 2 houses on the same lot).

They all work and have a bunch of pretty new vehicles, nice big LCD TVs, fancy cell phones, gaming consoles, etc etc etc... but cannot pay me the below market rent we charge.

We've had it and have started the legal process for eviction (takes a while and costs quite a bit to have done).

Jim Campbell · #17 11-11-2009, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by James Hart

I'm stuck on the other side of this...

I am truly sorry for your situation, but I am a landlord fighting to get some deadbeat tenants out of my rental house. They are 3 month past due (again), the family of 5 has grown to the 2 adult children having their significant others move in and the oldest son & girlfriend also have their infant with them. It's a small 3 bedroom home with the same rent we've charged them for the last 8 years with 6 adults, 1 preteen and 1 infant. Their water bill (which we paid until a month ago) is 5x mine (it's 2 houses on the same lot).

They all work and have a bunch of pretty new vehicles, nice big LCD TVs, fancy cell phones, gaming consoles, etc etc etc... but cannot pay me the below market rent we charge.

We've had it and have started the legal process for eviction (takes a while and costs quite a bit to have done).

i was in it for a decade or so and went through that more than once....here the laws are very tenant friendly as landlords are looked upon as the snidely whiplash type....somehow a lot of folks think that because you own property you have a bottomless bank balance and late paying tenants excuse landlords from making the mortgage payments.....and the ones that get it generally buy their own homes,leaving the rental market artificially high with dead beat types.....

here when a tenant skips on a water bill it's added to the property tax of the landlord.....rent controls make downtown apartments here unprofitable an in some kind of tops turvy way many of the most desirable downtown locations are full of subsidized tenants and have become de facto housing projects.....

MJ5150 · #18 11-11-2009, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Rocker949

I'm a little surprised there are people here who haven't experienced "fair weather friends" abandoning them during adversity.

Being completely honest, I have never had any of my friends abandon me during a time of adversity. That includes my friends here at TalkBass.

-Mike

lunarpollen · #19 11-11-2009, 02:06 PM

cynikal1234, you have my sympathies. I was just about homeless about 5 years ago for a few weeks, slept in my car in the middle of winter...I know it really helps to have supportive friends who will let you use their shower, toilet, laundry facilities, etc. and who will still treat you like a worthwhile human being and a friend. The last thing you want to be is a burden on anyone.

It's impossible to take sides in a general sense in the whole landlord-tenant thing, because every situation is different. There are absolute slumlords out there who have no business owning rental properties, and there are some who are the most reasonable, kind, and responsible landlords you could ever want. Same goes for tenants, there are decent people, and there are disgusting vermin who should probably be kept in zoo-type facilities. The most heartbreaking situations are when both the landlord and tenant are decent people but due to horrible misfortune, the landlord is left with no other choice but to evict.

James Hart · #20 11-11-2009, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Jim Campbell

somehow a lot of folks think that because you own property you have a bottomless bank balance and late paying tenants excuse landlords from making the mortgage payments

It's amazing how many think that.

This tenant was trying to hit me up to convert them to natural gas (it has propane fired hot water base board heat already while I am stuck living in a place with 100% electric heat!) and pave the driveway the last time they were this far behind

I'm eating ramens while trying to keep on top of my bills because they can't be bothered paying me... and they want me to pave and convert their heat

The wife is ready to get quotes to join the houses into one... there is about 14 feet between them (it's a corner lot).

The market has changed enough that I can charge for my much smaller 2 bedroom place what I charge for the other now... I'll be moving into the bigger house once they are gone.

I'll be gaining a dedicated music room AND a man cave (master bedroom is converted from the back 3/4s of a one car garage... the front 1/4 of the garage is now a perfect shed / workshop for my tube amp building) as well as about a 75% drop in utilities (electric heat is killing me!)