Facebook sleuthing needed

Relic · #1 12-02-2010, 04:11 PM

So, I'll try to explain this in a way that will make sense without divulging names or details...wish me luck this is bound to get confusing and convaluted..

OK, here goes - a family member of mine (not me, thank god!) is in the process of a nasty divorce. Court dates, custody hearings, living with a parent..all rotten stuff.
The soon to be ex of my family member (will call this person Evil B) now has another new person living in their marital home. So Evil B has asked a new person/love interest from out of state to move into that home. We'll call that person "Naive Fool"
Got that so far?

OK, so now, the new person living in the marital home, "Naive Fool" is also going through a nasty divorce.

Well, just today Naive Fool's soon to be ex, popped up on my wife's Facebook as "a person you may know" friend suggestion. WTH!??
My wife or I do not know, nor have ever met this person, nor have any of our mutual friends. The wife went through and checked every last one of her friends - Naive Fool's soon to be ex is not friends with any of my wife's friends, so HOW did this person pop up as a "person you may know" in the wife's facebook?
Methinks someone is a-stalking. I'd like to find out how this is being done because it may greatly assist said family member in court

MatticusMania · #2 12-02-2010, 04:16 PM

Its the internst fer chrissakes. Stalking someone via web is pretty easily done. I dont have a Fb, so I can't give you any more than that. Sorry.

Relic · #3 12-02-2010, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by MatticusMania

Its the internst fer chrissakes. Stalking someone via web is pretty easily done. I dont have a Fb, so I can't give you any more than that. Sorry.

Sheesh, I know that...

My point is that, a specific relationship or criteria has to be in place for FB to suggest a person as a "person you may know". If this person is not a friend of a friend, then HOW pray tell could they be suggested as a potential new friend??

that-guy · #4 12-02-2010, 04:25 PM

I myself am not on FB anymore, but I do know from prior experience.
The friend suggestions that came up from time to time on my profile were sometimes twice or three times removed (ie. my brother's ex-girlfriend's uncle came up, yet I had not met him at all)

The funniest is that I still occasionally come up in my family's profiles as 'someone you may know' yet I have not got an active FB anymore (that I know of :\)
That-Guy

MatticusMania · #5 12-02-2010, 04:25 PM

Maybe you have a mole in your midst?

Relic · #6 12-02-2010, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by MatticusMania

Maybe you have a mole in your midst?

I definitely got one on my arse.

Maybe in my wife's FB as well

alembicguy · #7 12-02-2010, 04:32 PM

That is the main reason I got off of facebook I ended up with a couple stalkers from playing gigs in bars and clubs.
Life can be complicated enough without having to deal with whack jobs too!

MatticusMania · #8 12-02-2010, 04:32 PM

The guitarist in my band quit after Monday nights gig because he has some beef with our drummer over a girl. On Tuesday Im at practice with my other band, as Im leaving I run into my friend Melinda, she's the sister of the bandleader. She asks how my band is going and I tell her about our guitarist quitting. She says "Oh yeah, I saw that on FB". Then I get home and my fiancee is asleep on the couch. I wake her up to go to bed upstairs as Im drinking a beer and she starts telling me how my friend Jackie, the girl in question, called her telling her all about it... that the drummer's roommate saw it on FB, told him, he told her, and she called Keighley. How's that for convoluted?

Facebook sucks. I said it.

that-guy · #9 12-02-2010, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by MatticusMania

The guitarist in my band quit after Monday nights gig <snip>.....

How's that for convoluted?

Facebook sucks. I said it.

I agree entirely...There were times where I had suggestions for friends separated by four degrees or more....as I posted earlier, there was the uncle of an ex-girlfriend of my brother for one....then there was a ex-business partner of my teacher from high-schools brother-in-law's ex-wife...??? yeah ***...

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Originally Posted by Relic

Maybe in my wife's FB as well

I know currently facebook can import contact lists from your email, and then use the information to suggest friends for you....maybe there is an extra degree or two of separation in your case
That-Guy

Relic · #10 12-02-2010, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by that-guy

I agree entirely...There were times where I had suggestions for friends separated by four degrees or more....as I posted earlier, there was the uncle of an ex-girlfriend of my brother for one....then there was a ex-business partner of my teacher from high-schools brother-in-law's ex-wife...??? yeah ***...

I know currently facebook can import contact lists from your email, and then use the information to suggest friends for you....maybe there is an extra degree or two of separation in your case
That-Guy

Hmmmm....... now THAT is interesting.

that-guy · #11 12-02-2010, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Relic

Hmmmm....... now THAT is interesting.

You do need to authorise FB to take that information, it is one of the apps there when you now sign up. very invasive IMO.

And here's where it gets worse (and why I shut down my FB)
Even if you do not do that....one of your friends may, or one of their friends, or etc.
If your email is on any of those contact lists, potentially you can be in ANYONES suggested friends list..

not only that, but your privacy settings can be overridden by some applications and groups that you may join....glad to be rid of it, personally
That-Guy

Relic · #12 12-02-2010, 05:08 PM

^ ok, that's great stuff thank you. I'm thinking that that may be it