feeling old at 24...i know i know

[KayXero]

yes its stupid I know. For some reason last month when I turned 24...i went through a big quarter life crisis. I was wondering what I was doing and going to do with my life.

Started thinking about what job I am going to have when I graduate.

Asking myself why im not in a band on tour already.

When am I going to meet the right girl so I can be married by 30?

silly time constraining crap I put on myself and I cant make it go away.

A big part of me feels like I should be playing music on a stage and meeting many girls, and like I missed out. I look at the ages of many bands when they make it big, and they are my age already.

Me though? I am just getting a new band together again and it takes so much time to do shows and work hard, to even get a shot at breaking through.

I know this sounds dumb. But I just had to rant. I wanna make things happen for me, but hell, I have been saying that since I started bass at 19.

5 years later and I havent done much musically.

[kesslari]

Early mid-life crisis...

And yeah, it's dumb... but it's real, too.
There will be periods in your life when you stop and look at where you're at vs. where you think you should be, or want to be.
And some of those times you will find yourself wanting.

There are a few ways to deal with that.
One is to wallow in self-misery. I don't advise that one, myself.
Another is to look more non-judgementally at yourself and your goals - are they realistic? For example, very few people are in touring bands at age 24. In fact, very few people ever get into touring bands.
A third is to accept where you are, evaluate where you want to be, and think about what it takes to get there, and do it. Want to meet more girls? Put yourself out in situations to do that. Want to be in a happening band? Be more critical of the projects you take on, and work on your own playing to be ready to roll when you hit a band that's able to move forward.

Rinse and repeat. Seriously - you never "solve it, get on track, and then you're done." You'll be course correcting your whole life. And that's not a bad thing.

[Mark Wilson]

hey man, it happens to all of us. I think so anyway. I've been there when I realized that I'd be graduating college this year.

Oddly enough... right after I started thinking like that, I got a call to join a touring band...

Life has a strange way of working out. Just take it a day at a time.

[MrDOS]

It's funny, so many of the same things came out of my mouth at 39!

One thing is for sure. Each day is a "reboot," and the amount of rebirth that I've seen in my self amazes people that "knew" me 20 years ago.

I recommend that you stay away from confining goals like "married by 30." The dudes that are married at 30 with kids have so many responsibilities and expectations that you are free from!

[Selta]

I turn 25 next month, so I'm in a similar age bracket as you.
While I have goals, desires and dreams like everyone else, I don't have a very stringent time-line on them; just need to make sure that I'm always working towards them.
Basically, I had my life flipped upside-down this past weekend, too. I had a few astounding realizations about myself, my situation and everything. I could easily put myself into crisis mode, freak out, and start questioning everything. Or, instead, I could do exactly what I am doing; considering what got me here, re-focus myself on my goals/dreams, and set myself on a path to get to them.
Honestly, we're both young. I still don't even consider myself an adult, really. You can spend your days worrying about what might happen, what didn't happen, and what you can do (or should've done) differently. To me, that would be nothing more than a waste of time. On the other hand, you can be slightly more objective, take a small step back, and just find yourself, and get yourself back on your path to your dreams.

[Johnny Crab]

A fourth thing to add to kesslari's list:

A fourth thing is to look back at all you HAVE done, received, enjoyed, etc. and be thankful for where you are.

PS:
Don't take life too seriously but serious enough for YOU.
When you pass 50: if you do all the dumb things THEN you can possibly have regrets,
if you don't do the dumb things then you know you've had and are having a great life.

[KayXero]

Originally Posted by MrDOS

It's funny, so many of the same things came out of my mouth at 39!

One thing is for sure. Each day is a "reboot," and the amount of rebirth that I've seen in my self amazes people that "knew" me 20 years ago.

I recommend that you stay away from confining goals like "married by 30." The dudes that are married at 30 with kids have so many responsibilities and expectations that you are free from!

I know the marriage thing is silly. But I am a "hopeless romantic" and like all that love crap, despite wanting to be a lady killing rocker.

Inner confliction galore on that one. =P

You all know how it goes. Days go by and I wonder when Ill stop being able to do certain things that make me feel young. Like skinny jeans, lip rings, tattoos, skating etc. Especially considering the sleeve and chest tattoo (both my first ones) were totally done out of me deciding "let me do this now before im too old for it"

I know many of you will jump in to call me "just a kid still" soon haha. But a year from now ill be be 25 and nearer to the late 20's....oh noes lol =/

[i_got_a_mohawk]

Same age bracket (25 in under 3 weeks).

As everyone else is saying, it will happen now and again.

I think one big problem is the whole "grass is always greener" perspective.


If you had been out in a touring band, you might be wishing you were more settled and further on with education (just a crude example).

However, I do feel for you as I'm just as bad most of the time!

[MakiSupaStar]

Let my fistfull of f u invite you to a pocketfull of shut the hell up.

[Demon_Hunter]

Just wait until you're 40 and still thinking all the same stuff.

[hover]

Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Let my fistfull of f u invite you to a pocketfull of shut the hell up.

exactumally.

[Relic]

pffff
There's nothing for me to say here, I'll just let this thread stew a bit. It's like dropping a big ol' deuce in the basement crapper then forgetting to flush. You come back 4 days later and you have this thread

[Winnb]

Relax. Enjoy yourself. In the end we're all worm food. Enjoy life while you have it.

Take it from an old fart.

[Pilgrim]

I'd make some comment about being 60 but I'm still trying to decide what I want to be when I grow up.

And I rather enjoy it.

[geeza]

Somebody call the waambulance for that whippersnapper.



Oh, and get off my lawn!