Girl troubles...gah.

superfunk47 · #1 05-03-2009, 09:41 PM

2 year relationship, real serious, broke it off almost a month ago. She was really down, I was happy to have the freedom.

Last couple of weeks, my friends that are girls have all started acting weird (EDIT: These friends aren't and never were friends with the ex, as she was 4 years older - the friends didn't ever like her much). Simple questions leading to circular conversations, etc. Enough mind games that I've about given up on all of them, which is saying something because some of them were really close, long-time friends.

Which is bad enough on its own, but on top of it, the ex posted an album of pics on Facebook of her and some of her friends (also 4 years older) out dancing a few nights ago. Her grinding with some guy, all of that.

I don't want the relationship, and I'm not jealous exactly, but somehow it still stings. Nothing against her, I'm glad that she's getting over it, it's just things with the feminine race are kind of deteriorating for me. Enough that it's starting to breed in me a resentment for all of them.

I need to be told to buck up and that I have lots more years ahead of me, and that women suck and I shouldn't ever try to be friends with them anyway, plus any other advice that might be useful.

tplyons · #2 05-03-2009, 09:55 PM

Hey, we've all been there. After that kind of time, seeing her with any guy that isn't you hurts. My ex went crazy, we broke up, and it's still weird to see her with someone else. We've been broken up for six months and it's only starting to feel normal.

The only thing that helps is time and not letting it get to you. Find something to distract you until then.

flipper_gv · #3 05-03-2009, 10:34 PM

Maki would say something in the lines of:

"Don't try to be friends with her. That's useless and you just found about how true this is. Remember, Quantity of Quality. You're young and still have a lot of women to ****. Never turn down a night with a women and you'll understand what I mean."

southernrocker · #4 05-03-2009, 10:39 PM

Girls are nuts. I don't trust anything that bleeds for 5 days and doesn't die.

oldrocker · #5 05-03-2009, 11:07 PM

You need to buck up. You have lots more years ahead of you. Women suck, you shouldn't ever try to be friends with them anyway.

machine gewehr · #6 05-04-2009, 04:49 AM

Superfunk,go out and find the guy.Beat the hell outta him.You'll feel better.
And girls and boys CAN NOT make friends.I learned this via 3 "huge/terrible/stupid/oh man what the ****?/ARRRGGGGGGG/Where's my gun?!!/I need a beer etc. etc." mistakes.

Quote:

Originally Posted by southernrocker

Girls are nuts. I don't trust anything that bleeds for 5 days and doesn't die.

Thats the funniest post I've seen in a while.

Fontaine · #7 05-04-2009, 04:52 AM

go out, get drunk, and take home as many hot chicks as possible. (you may have to slay some dragons before you get to the princess)....and NEVER speak of "her" again.

but get back out there, strike back, son.

Relic · #8 05-04-2009, 06:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by superfunk47

2 year relationship, real serious, broke it off almost a month ago. She was really down, I was happy to have the freedom.

Last couple of weeks, my friends that are girls have all started acting weird. Simple questions leading to circular conversations, etc. Enough mind games that I've about given up on all of them, which is saying something because some of them were really close, long-time friends.

Which is bad enough on its own, but on top of it, the ex posted an album of pics on Facebook of her and some friends out dancing a few nights ago. Her grinding with some guy, all of that.

I don't want the relationship, and I'm not jealous exactly, but somehow it still stings. Nothing against her, I'm glad that she's getting over it, it's just things with the feminine race are kind of deteriorating for me. Enough that it's starting to breed in me a resentment for all of them.

I need to be told to buck up and that I have lots more years ahead of me, and that women suck and I shouldn't ever try to be friends with them anyway, plus any other advice that might be useful.

It's a adolescant type game.
She's not getting over it, she's enlisted the help of your female friends to try to make you jealous to "win" you back. Girls are utter masters at the art of manipulating emotions. (or attempting to)

Don't fall for it, don't play the game. Go out and become thy not proud. Thenseforth thine will be-ist happy.

i_got_a_mohawk · #9 05-04-2009, 06:51 AM

Tap all her friends. Then they'll all go bitchy and hate each other

Relic · #10 05-04-2009, 06:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by i_got_a_mohawk

Tap all her friends. They they'll all go bitchy and hate each other

the tapping part would be fun, but as far as getting bitchy and hating each other, most girls I know do that regardless. Just give it time...

two fingers · #11 05-04-2009, 06:59 AM

As far as the ex goes, you'll get over it. But with your friends, were/are they close with the ex? If so, Relic probably nailed it. The ex has gotten to them. And that sucks. If they aren't all that close though, I would try having a real honest conversation with them. It's been my experience (up until I met my wife anyway) that a friend (girl or guy) can sometimes be easier to talk to than a lover. There's no telling why they are acting differently. Who knows? Maybe one of them has the hots for you. Maybe they are worried that you have the hots for one of them and they don't want the friend thing to get messed up. The only way you will find out is by asking. Good luck. I wish I had great advice for you on finding Mrs. Right, but for me it was sheer dumb luck.

i_got_a_mohawk · #12 05-04-2009, 07:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Relic

the tapping part would be fun, but as far as getting bitchy and hating each other, most girls I know do that regardless. Just give it time...

Oh, I agree, but, I might be wrong, it just seemed like the OP was the target of much of the brunt right now. What I'm suggesting doing is refocusing the hatred

You're right tho, if the OP ignores them for a few minutes, they'll end up slashing each other

mkrtu9 · #13 05-04-2009, 07:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by two fingers

As far as theex goes, you'll get over it. But with your friends, were/are they close with the ex? If so, Relic probably nailed it. The ex has gotten to them. And that sucks. If they aren't all that close though, I would try having a real honest conversation with them. It's been my experience (up until I met my wife anyway) that a friend (girl or guy) can sometimes be easier to talk to than a lover. There's no telling why they are acting differently. Who knows? Maybe one of them has the hots for you. Maybe thay are worried that you have the hots for one of them and they don't want the friend thing to get messed up. The only way you will find out is by asking. Good luck. I wish I had great advice for you on finding Mrs. Right, but for me it was sheer dumb luck.

+1

superfunk47 · #14 05-04-2009, 08:54 AM

Thanks guys. The ex wasn't close to the friends at all (she was 4 years older than me, never talked to most of my friends) so the thing with the friends is a whole different cluster****.

The ex and I wanted to stay friends, hard to let go of someone completely after 2 years and all that, but this has me pissed enough that I'm pretty close to just saying "**** off and have a nice life".

The friends are about to get a week of good old fashioned coldness. Hopefully they'll wake up and change. If not, I guess I'll be sticking to guy friends from now on.

sarcastro83 · #15 05-04-2009, 11:14 AM

I say forget the whole lot of them and seek friends and trim elsewhere... that would seem to be a whole heap less complicated than trying to rationalize the behaviour of other people...

buzzbass · #16 05-04-2009, 11:29 AM

Bang her friends, it's the only solution to your problem

popinfresh · #17 05-04-2009, 11:55 AM

Dude, in all seriousness, if your friends are now hanging out with her and they never really did before, and you DO want your friends back in some way, being cold is the worst way to go about it. Your ex has probably said some bull chit that's making them feel sorry for her, you acting like an arse is going to make them believe/side with her even more.
If they're good friends of yours, chat to them and let them know what you just said here. It's going to be more helpful then posting to a bunch of bass players all over the globe.
As for the ex, staying friends doesn't work. Not right after a relationship. I had to refuse to see my ex for a while, then move up half the coast of Australia to get away from it all, before I met someone else quite a while later. Whilst I have no feelings for her now (was hard at first moving away), I think it'd still be awkward/strange seeing her with someone else and it's been about 10-11 months.
Not that I plan to as i'm on the other side of the globe now

MatticusMania · #18 05-04-2009, 12:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by superfunk47

2 year relationship, real serious, broke it off almost a month ago. She was really down, I was happy to have the freedom.

Last couple of weeks, my friends that are girls have all started acting weird. Simple questions leading to circular conversations, etc. Enough mind games that I've about given up on all of them, which is saying something because some of them were really close, long-time friends.

Which is bad enough on its own, but on top of it, the ex posted an album of pics on Facebook of her and some friends out dancing a few nights ago. Her grinding with some guy, all of that.

I don't want the relationship, and I'm not jealous exactly, but somehow it still stings. Nothing against her, I'm glad that she's getting over it, it's just things with the feminine race are kind of deteriorating for me. Enough that it's starting to breed in me a resentment for all of them.

I need to be told to buck up and that I have lots more years ahead of me, and that women suck and I shouldn't ever try to be friends with them anyway, plus any other advice that might be useful.

If it hasnt been said yet, Go Gay.

Mike151 · #19 05-04-2009, 12:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fontaine

go out, get drunk, and take home as many hot chicks as possible. (you may have to slay some dragons before you get to the princess)....and NEVER speak of "her" again.
but get back out there, strike back, son.

+1 THIS ONE! Right on the Money. Oh and time.

MakiSupaStar · #20 05-04-2009, 03:29 PM

Take no prisoners. Tap everything in sight, including your chick friends. Even if they're ugly. Tapping them is better than tapping another night with your hand. Besides, the LAST thing you need right now is a bunch of chick friends. In fact, you never need chick friends. That one bar slag sitting at the end of the bar that you used to joke about. Tap that. You need to have absolutely no pride. Go up the hottest chick you know and tell her you want to tap her with no strings attached. Worst thing that can happen is she says no and you get a slap in the face. Even a slap in the face is a chick touching you and I bet if you worked out the angles right in your mind, you'd be able to take that home and use it. You should train for sex like an athlete by having as much sex as you can. Bag a few fatties just because you can. Tap that skinny homely chick. Go for variety like you're shopping for your next meal. Especially tap all her friends. Tap them twice for good measure. One night eat pizza. The next night eat salsa. Eat asian. Mmmmm asian. They taste like milk and honey. Love their.... Focus. Eat Indian, vietnamese, pakistani, brazilian, and chinese. The point is quantity.
Oh and wear a jimmy.