Girl vs chance of a lifetime What would you choose?

[frianbisher]

Hey guys, I have somewhat of a dillema to solve.

So I have been dating this girl for about 6 months, shes pretty cool, laid back, drama free, pretty cute, pretty much always have a good time with here. Now thats all fine and dandy, but I am slated to go to Phoenix in Feb to attend Roberto-Venn School Of Luthiery which means leaving WI for 6+ months, and possibly not ever returning once I graduate.

To me, going to that school is a dream come true but at the same time I dont wanna lose the girl which is almost garunteed if I leave (shes not into the long distance thing and I'm not either). If you ask me, a cool down to earth chick is hard to find, but on the other hand I'm 22, still look pretty good, and have a lot of life ahead of me. Shes trying to talk me into staying but I'll still be stuck here with my crappy $10 an hour job and can't pursure my dreams. My friends are split about 50/50 (they think shes pretty cool too). I'm pretty set on leaving but still a little on the fence.

So TB, what wisdom do you have for me?

[Doctor J]

That you're even asking the question suggests you already know the girl ain't for keeps.

[yehongxiang]

If she's really that cool she wouldn't try to dissuade you from what you wanna do.

[john turner]

since her inclination is to try and keep you there, as opposed to suggesting that she move with you, i'd say boot her.

not saying i think she should move, but it sounds very selfish of her to try and discourage you from going to school just so you can stay around to entertain her, and every little sign of stuff like that you see now in the early stage of a relationship is just the tip of the iceberg of what's really there.

[JimB52]

If she's likely to move on after six months apart, she ain't in it for the long haul, paul.

[Thunderscreech]

1. Go to Arizona to learn about making basses.
2. ????
3. PROFIT

there are always girls. it's not like they are an endangered species or anything

[invader3k]

Six months isn't really that long to be far apart. If your relationship can't survive six months of being physically apart, chances are that it's not meant to be.

[funkydjembe]

girls (almost)always=trouble. Take chance of a lifetime. But if you both can deal with the distance than try both.

[arbitrary]

my wife wouldn't ask me to stay and not follow my dream...

[Jonyak]

go to pheonix.

[BassShifter21]

Is she your soul mate? If not, then the decision will be easy. And, yes, you will know if you are ever lucky enough to find her. Luthiery school, without question.

[Darkstrike]

Go for the school, how much can she really care for you if she'd deny you your dream?

[frianbisher]

Yeah guys I think that you all have made very good points. For what its worth she said she would come with if she could but ever since she came back from Afghanistan she hasn't been able to find a steady job (too many visible tattoos I think), and I can't support both of us. Guess I'll have to call her later and tell her what I decided to do and wish her well. Time to focus on other stuff.

1. Go to Arizona to learn about making basses.
2. ????
3. PROFIT

[Stanley Design]

Tell her to move with you and get a job somewhere/anywhere in Arizona, it's not like she has anything really holding her from moving if she isn't working on school or a career. It'll make rent easier and if it doesn't work out then she'll leave.

Look at it this way:
If you decide to stay you lose something
If you decide to leave you lose something
If she decides to stay she loses something
If she decides to leave she doesn't lose anything.

Leave the ball in her court.

[hdracer]

The Roberto-Venn School Of Luthiery is a good school but The Minnesota State College Southeast Technical In Red Wing Minnesota is a excellent school too
http://www.southeastmn.edu/academic_...p?programID=10

It is only a couple of hours drive from you. The cost of living is a lot less and you can run home on the weekends and tap it. One of my sons friends goes to school in Milwaukee and I see him every other weekend. Just a thought.

[Jim Nazium]

Originally Posted by frianbisher

... shes pretty cool, laid back, drama free, pretty cute, pretty much always have a good time with her...
going to that school is a dream come true

That's the truth according to you. You use very strong, positive words to describe the school, and very weak, almost indifferent words to describe your relationship with the girl. Doesn't that tell you all you need to know?

[jmattbassplaya]

I'm not even going to read this just yet, but will after I post this and will change my stance if needed - though I highly doubt it.

Take the chance of a lifetime. If you and the girl are meant to be together then it'll work out no matter what. Don't limit yourself for anyone (cept for your immediate family).

[hover]

If she's a stage 2 to stage 5 clinger, drop that drama....if she's a keeper, she's gonna realize this is real important to you. 6 months is a flyspeck of time in the long haul...did you mention her coming along for this?

[thumpbass1]

Not to be rude, but my old man always advised me that when it came to a man's relationship with a woman, he should make sure that he thinks with the big brain first, and not let himself be ruled by the wild and insensible little one. I'll leave it at that.

[jmattbassplaya]

After reading your post I will say that you'd be an idiot to stay with her (and I mean that the nicest way possible). 6 months is nothing in the grand scheme of things. Grab onto this chance of a lifetime for you and do the best you can. There will always be more girls.