Girlfriend wants to lose weight...

tplyons · #1 10-20-2008, 12:07 AM

My girlfriend wants to lose weight, but doesn't want to give up her lifestyle: she eats fried food, dessert after every meal, and doesn't have time to exercise. She doesn't like vegetables, and dislikes chicken. Instead she loves red meat, and carbohydrates.

I, on the other hand, could lose a few pounds, eat salads nearly every day for lunch, grilled chicken, and my only vice as far as food goes is soda. I'm a Coke addict. Other than that, I only eat desserts when she doesn't finish hers, and my usual snack is either cheese (fatty, but protein) or yogurt.

Any recipe recommendations? Advice for me to give her? I've tried to explain that she's not going to change her body if she doesn't want to change her mind.

What to do?

santucci218 · #2 10-20-2008, 12:08 AM

check amazon.com for diet cookbooks, i bet they will give you a ton of great ideas. also, sometimes its easier to tell them to exercise if you do it with them. Go for walks together.

standupright · #3 10-20-2008, 12:09 AM

Armueller2001 · #4 10-20-2008, 12:10 AM

Doesn't want to exercise and wants to eat fried foods and dessert... hmm...

Sounds like she doesn't really want to lose weight. The desire to change must be greater than the desire to stay the same. No magic pills for losing weight unfortunately.

crimson_basser · #5 10-20-2008, 12:12 AM

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game over

MJ5150 · #6 10-20-2008, 12:19 AM

Your GF must be tricking you if she says she wants to lose weight, but doesn't want to do anything to help get it done. I'm confused, maybe you're kidding us?

Most people like that need to have a life altering medical condition hit them before they decide to get serious. For me, it was having high blood pressure. I was big when I played football, so it was normal for me to eat quite a bit, but I had a very active life. I didn't stop even after I quit playing football. When my doctor told me I had high blood pressure, and that it would probably kill me if left untreated, I decided to "get real" with myself.

-Mike

tplyons · #7 10-20-2008, 12:19 AM

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Originally Posted by santucci218

check amazon.com for diet cookbooks, i bet they will give you a ton of great ideas. also, sometimes its easier to tell them to exercise if you do it with them. Go for walks together.

Unfortunately, neither of us really have time for that. She's student teaching, and I'm over-involved at college, with an above full course load.

I walk about 5 miles a day to and from class, around campus, etc. She doesn't quite as much, but I'm in this with her 100%. I made a decision to eat and live healthier months ago, but am not losing weight due to overworking myself, sleeping less than I should, and not having time to actually exercise.

tplyons · #8 10-20-2008, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by MJ5150

Your GF must be tricking you if she says she wants to lose weight, but doesn't want to do anything to help get it done. I'm confused, maybe you're kidding us?

Most people like that need to have a life altering medical condition hit them before they decide to get serious. For me, it was having high blood pressure.

-Mike

Diabetes took my grandfather's life and my uncle's toes. It's real enough for me, but her family tends to live long healthy lives.

BassXgirl · #9 10-20-2008, 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by standupright

LMAO

jonathan_matos5 · #10 10-20-2008, 12:22 AM

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Originally Posted by tplyons

My girlfriend wants to lose weight, but doesn't want to give up her lifestyle: she eats fried food, dessert after every meal, and doesn't have time to exercise. She doesn't like vegetables, and dislikes chicken. Instead she loves red meat, and carbohydrates.

I, on the other hand, could lose a few pounds, eat salads nearly every day for lunch, grilled chicken, and my only vice as far as food goes is soda. I'm a Coke addict. Other than that, I only eat desserts when she doesn't finish hers, and my usual snack is either cheese (fatty, but protein) or yogurt.

Any recipe recommendations? Advice for me to give her? I've tried to explain that she's not going to change her body if she doesn't want to change her mind.

What to do?

do you want her to lose weight? if so then encourage her to change her lifestyle. you will probably have to lose weight too.

sounds to me like she is just talking. she cannot truly lose weight without some kind of effort.

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Originally Posted by Armueller2001

Doesn't want to exercise and wants to eat fried foods and dessert... hmm...

Sounds like she doesn't really want to lose weight. The desire to change must be greater than the desire to stay the same. No magic pills for losing weight unfortunately.

+100¹⁰⁰

Timbo · #11 10-20-2008, 12:22 AM

lots and lots of ritalin

tplyons · #12 10-20-2008, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by jonathan_matos5

do you want her to lose weight? if so then encourage her to change her lifestyle. you will probably have to lose weight too.

sounds to me like she is just talking. she cannot truly lose weight without some kind of effort.

I'm trying to encourage her to change her lifestyle. She comes from a hefty family who believes in wholesome, filling meals, she's asthmatic so no major running for her. She's also got a princess complex which I'm trying to break her of. She doesn't do things other people tell her too, because she's the one that has to make all the decisions for them to be right.

Basically, she's disgusted with herself, she's put on 20 lbs in two years. She could afford to lose those 20 lbs, and so could I. I'm trying to help her, and help myself at the same time.

santucci218 · #13 10-20-2008, 12:26 AM

start really working on it yourself. I bet your campus has a gym, track, and phys ed classes too. The better you look, the more she will feel she should work on it.

Armueller2001 · #14 10-20-2008, 12:27 AM

Is it that she doesn't have time to exercise, or doesn't make time to exercise? Going to sleep a half hour earlier and waking up earlier is always an option.

Half an hour a day of cardio can make all the difference in the world. In the morning, on an empty stomach, with heart rate between .65 and .75*(226-age)

tplyons · #15 10-20-2008, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by santucci218

start really working on it yourself. I bet your campus has a gym, track, and phys ed classes too. The better you look, the more she will feel she should work on it.

Not big on reading the entire thread, are you?

I've been eating significantly healthier, and do not have time for the gym. I walk everywhere instead of driving, but I'm already sleep deprived and overworked.

She's overworked too... it's gonna be a rough year.

GeneralElectric · #16 10-20-2008, 12:28 AM

tplyons · #17 10-20-2008, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Armueller2001

Is it that she doesn't have time to exercise, or doesn't make time to exercise? Going to sleep a half hour earlier and waking up earlier is always an option.

Half an hour a day of cardio can make all the difference in the world. In the morning, on an empty stomach, with heart rate between .65 and .75*(226-age)

Both are sleep deprived as is.

santucci218 · #18 10-20-2008, 12:31 AM

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Originally Posted by tplyons

Both are sleep deprived as is.

Armueller2001 · #19 10-20-2008, 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by tplyons

Both are sleep deprived as is.

So the sleep deprivation wouldn't be any different if the same amount of sleep were obtained every night, just 30 minutes earlier right? lol

No seriously, there are always ways to make time. It takes effort and thought though. I've even seen people riding the stationary bikes at school while looking over their notes for an exam. Cutting out that TV time during the day, computer time (TALKBASS), cooking more food at a time and putting it in your fridge, etc. etc.

Stumbo · #20 10-20-2008, 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by tplyons

I'm a Coke addict. Other than that, I only eat desserts when she doesn't finish hers, and my usual snack is either cheese (fatty, but protein) or yogurt.

Find a zero calorie non-soda substitute for the sodas. Even diet sodas ruin your teeth. It's the acid content.

Don't eat desert.

Eat a bit of fruit for a snack instead of the cheese.

Exercising can be done 10 minutes at a time. You don't have to do 30 minutes at a time. Sure it's better to do more but at least you can do something. Walking is a good start.

Diet secret: reduce calories or increase exercise.

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she eats fried food, dessert after every meal, and doesn't have time to exercise. She doesn't like vegetables, and dislikes chicken. Instead she loves red meat, and carbohydrates.

So your gf eats chips, cereal, cake, bread, cookies, .....basically anything made with flower. Then she eats fried food along with read meat. I bet she eats a lot of fast food as well.

She headed for an early demise if she doesn't change regardless if she exercises or not. Didn't she eat vegetable and chicken growing up? How about fish? turkey? There are many vegetable and recipes for them that might help her. Does she eat yogourt? Is she constipated a lot?

What grade does she student teach, by the way? If she's an elementary school teach, she will probably teaching the children about the food pyramid, best foods to eat, diet and such. How can she teach something like that and be overweight?

I'm just sayin'

I suggest both of you get a full blood work up from your physician to find out what's happening with your body. Get checked for diabetes, thyroid, etc. Some medical conditions cause problems with appetite. Then go from there. Being sleep deprived changes your appetite and creates food cravings. Getting more sleep will help with the energy level and cravings.

How about crockpot cooking? Let the crockpot do the work.
http://busycooks.about.com/cs/crockp...edishcrock.htm