Girls from the past. - Page 4

JimB52 · #61 12-31-2012, 05:48 AM

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Originally Posted by NYCbassist

Is there a girl from your past that could steal you away from your present girl.

Pretty much any one of them.

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bongomania · #62 12-31-2012, 06:15 AM

One time an ex of mine got in touch with me, while I was in another relationship, long-term and serious but troubled. The ex was very beautiful and smart and sexy, but bat**** crazy. As we talked, I thought only about the better things about her, and fantasized about what it would be like to drop my existing relationship and go back to the ex. Then we talked a second time, and then a third... and just as I might have made a big decision, as she talked the old bat**** crazy stuff became apparent again. So I said "Oh yeah, well, hey, nice talking to you, bye!" In hindsight, I am sure I dodged a bullet---one that I would have fired at myself!

capnsandwich · #63 12-31-2012, 06:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Tat2dHeart

No - for two reasons...

1. If you keep yourself rooted in the past thinking about that stuff, you never move forward. Forward is a more fun way to go, IMHO.

2. I'm a girl. And, if the emails from men of the past are to be believed, I'm the one who got away. I'm just me, so those are "grain of salt" reading.

Quoted for truth!

Here's a story that confirms this:

I had a girlfriend that I broke up with because she didn't have enough time for a relationship. She had just started school and was consumed with that and work, plus I think she was flirting a lot with this radio DJ that we both knew but she saw a lot more since they both went to the same college. About a year or two later a friend of mine, a girl but not a "girlfriend," ran into her at a mall here in town. They were talking about things and everything seemed to be cool when the ex saw that she had a Michigan State hat that my friend had just bought. The ex said that she remembered how that was my team and how I had always worn a shirt or a hat with MSU on it. My friend said that she had bought it for me for my birthday. When the ex heard that her face immediately changed and my ex said sternly, "You can HAVE HIM!" and stormed off. When my friend told me that I started laughing because when we were together she acted like she didn't have time for me and that I was keeping her from enjoying life to it's fullest. That's why I broke up with her. She still had feelings for me. I have since moved on, gotten married, had 3 kids and am living my life to it's fullest. She's still single and every once in a while says things on FB that tells me she still might have those feelings. I have moved on and have let the past hurts go and have grown up. If you hang on to the past, you'll never grow from the things you experience. I feel bad for her but at the same time I'm glad it didn't work out. I probably wouldn't be as happy with her as I am with my wife now.

pocketgroove · #64 12-31-2012, 07:02 AM

From a female perspective, this is a scary thought. Most people don't end up with their first choice, and the feeling of having settled or been settled for something else plagues many; maybe not at first, but eventually it arises once a relationship starts to require work to keep it going. What are the consequences? A lot of poor communication, hurt feelings, or bad choices.

Sorry, I know that's not especially relevant. The topic here just brought back memories. There's no one from my past that I would come near with a ten-foot pole, in that respect.

tekdiver500ft · #65 12-31-2012, 07:36 AM

Yes. I really screwed it up... she wouldn't prosecute her brother in law for raping her, and I couldn't get behind that decision. Due to that, she left me, and I have missed her every day since (nearly 30 years now), but I've been unable to find her, even just to apologize.

GregC · #66 12-31-2012, 08:19 AM

Not at all--not my heart or, uh, other places. That's not so much a comment on my exes as it is on my fiancee. I honestly feel like I hit the lottery with her.

Roscoe East · #67 12-31-2012, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by NYCbassist

Is there a Girl from your Past that Still owns your Heart?

My heart? No.

My John Thomas, um, yeah, there's definitely two or three who could lay that claim...

Quote:

Originally Posted by NYCbassist

Is there a girl from your past that could steal you away from your present girl.

Nope. Not a chance.

Marley's Ghost · #68 12-31-2012, 08:35 AM

No way. Never looked back. Once I had children, it changed my whole perspective on life.

If you are in your teens/twenties - it's normal to have strong infatuation/abandonment/enmeshment feelings. Beyond that, it's time to take stock of your mental heath and maybe a visit to a therapist might be in order. Especially if you can't seem to get over that lost love.

Marley's Ghost · #69 12-31-2012, 08:46 AM

I remember reading an article years ago where the point was that there are a multitude of potential matching partners for any of us out in the wild. The enmeshment to one person, especially if that person is not in our lives, is usually related to low self esteem. It provides a built in excuse to avoid relationships, because you have put someone on a pedestal and see anyone else as inferior. If someone has rejected you, it's really time to move on. Like right away now.

HaMMerHeD · #70 12-31-2012, 09:15 AM

^ easier said than done, boss.

Illini10 · #71 12-31-2012, 09:21 AM

I carried a torch for a girl for a few years until I realized that I was just an emotional fall-back for her when things didn't work out. I had a trainwreck relationship with another girl when I was in my early 20s and came to my senses and hopped off the crazy train. I met my wife the next day.

MatticusMania · #72 01-02-2013, 10:24 AM

I had a chance to pursue things with "the one that got away" while I was single last summer. When I realized where things stood between us, I decided it was a better idea not to go after her, and Im glad I made that choice. It was only a few short weeks later that I met my current girlfriend and she's awesome. Now, I cant help it my gf does something foolish like try and make out with "the one that got away", but hey, I laid everything out on the table, so my conscience is clean.

slobake · #73 01-02-2013, 10:49 AM

MatticusMania · #74 01-02-2013, 11:38 AM

Seems I didnt actually answer the question... No, there isnt anyone from my past who I would leave my girlfriend for.
My current relationship is the product of all those previously failed relationships. So far, she's the best one yet!

Biggbass · #75 01-02-2013, 01:15 PM

hail no.