Has texting made calling rude?

[jp58]

Both have their uses. People my age typically text (works pretty well considering most of us have classes or work) and the other party can back to them when they get the time. When something is more pressing/urgent, a phone call works a lot better.

I guess I see the advantages of both and use them the way I feel they are intended. What I hate is the 1000 "Wut r u doin?" texts that seem to come in droves on slow days in class or at work.

[MJ5150]

The beauty of those texts is you can ignore them. Once you answer the phone, you're trapped telling people wut u r doing.

-Mike

[Tony Flow MMMM]

Originally Posted by ShredderMaximus

I used to hate it, but now I see the advantages, like say if I think someone may be at work. Shooting them a text is alot easier on their part, and they can read it and respond at their leisure. And really myself, most of the time I prefer a text over a horrible sounding voicemail. Especially if in the voicemail someone is trying to tell you a phone number and you have to listen to the message repeatedly to try to figure out wtfrick they are saying.

This. "Older" generations hated it at first. The thought it was stupid, they always asked why not just call them? Well I'm seeing more and more of the old naysayers using and enjoying it. Makes Craigslist sales 166666x Times easier

[Downunderwonder]

I'm the guy that asks you if you're free to talk. If you aren't you only got to say so and I'll follow up with a text. If I think you're probably busy I text right off, otherwise I'm being rude.

[tsverrir]

A simple question (or I don't answer the phone) a text is nice. I hate having to take part in a long conversation through text messages. And I leave my voice mailbox off. I hate that.

[jp58]

Originally Posted by MJ5150

The beauty of those texts is you can ignore them. Once you answer the phone, you're trapped telling people wut u r doing.

-Mike

Not anymore. Phones are starting to keep track of when someone opens a text that you send. Both my Droid 2 and my iPhone let me know when I'm being ignored.

[Kwesi]

Originally Posted by jmattbassplaya

No way. It takes forever to listen to voice messages. I'm calling you back so that I don't have to listen to:

"Hello... valued... customer... You have... 3... unheard... messages... to listen... to... your... messages... press... 1 now.......... first... unheard... message..........."

That stuff is torture I tell you! Torture!

PREACH BROTHA! You figure that in this age of totally badass media powerhouses that fit in your pocket and happen to make calls from time to time, voicemail would have been significantly streamlined. It is, without a shadow of a doubt, the most annoying thing to do on my phone.

I tell everyone I know that doesn't plan on employing me not to leave voicemails unless they're currently being murdered. Even then, use Voxer. It's faster. Now that I think of it, some app that links directly to your voicemail would be AMAZING. tap the app, listen to voice messages. No password entry, no prompts spoken to you as if you don't understand english all that well. Easy.

Voicemail annoyances aside, I don't think it's gotten to the point that texts are the norm and calling is rude. Texts are more convenient sure but it ain't the same as a call. I use both a decent amount myself. As to which I prefer, it really depends on who I'm talking to. With most folks I get pret awkward over the phone when there isn't a point to the call so I'd stick to texting or chatting but I've got a handful of friends I could just ******** with for hours. Also, phone calls (and videochatting) kinda wear me out.

[ADbassman]

Originally Posted by Kwesi

PREACH BROTHA! You figure that in this age of totally badass media powerhouses that fit in your pocket and happen to make calls from time to time, voicemail would have been significantly streamlined. It is, without a shadow of a doubt, the most annoying thing to do on my phone.

This has not been my experience with an iPhone. When voice mails come in, you hit the play button next to the voice mail and it just plays.

[Kwesi]

Originally Posted by ADbassman

This has not been my experience with an iPhone. When voice mails come in, you hit the play button next to the voice mail and it just plays.

It's been some time since I've had iPhone envy

[carlos840]

I actually do not like texting and will always favor a call...
IMO it takes more time to send 2 or 3 text to sort something out than to spend a minute on the phone.

[Truktek2]

I'm usually too busy to talk on the phone so I prefer texting. On the rare occassion I am free, text me. What makes you think I want to talk to you on my little bit of free time?

Damn wash women.....

[Simo98]

Short answer: Yes (imo).

I've always found phone calls to be invasive for the most part, they are definitely a more effective mode of communication when you need to organise something or sort something out, especially if it needs to be done now, however having someone call up out of the blue is intrusive for the most part. This is on the leisure side of things, business is entirely different in my opinion (although we text a lot for work too, less invasive, and for the most part people on holidays don't answer their phone ).

If I want to arrange something with a friend or talk to them, I'll send them a text. If they reply promptly and it's not something we can sort out with something as simple as "Cool, I'll come 'round at 8?" etc. I'll call them right back and finish up. I'd never randomly call someone up unless it was relatively urgent though, I see no need to interrupt someones day to ask them what they're doing later on, I can just leave them a note and we'll talk when it's a better time.

When my phone rings and I'm at home or something, there is always this little exchange where I look at it, and it looks back at me, and it's vibrating all over the place and I'm thinking "Do I really want to talk to anybody right now?" Normally I'll go ahead an be polite and answer it, but sometimes I'll be a badass and just let it ring out.

Originally Posted by MJ5150

What's rude is people like me who don't answer when you call, then send a text right after asking what you wanted.

-Mike

I'm often in a situation (work or otherwise) where I can't take a phone call, but can quite easily send a text. Infact, I'd say that most of the time I'd rather not be disturbed by a phone call.

Growing up with IM being around, phoning a friend to organise or talk about something seems to foreign. Being able to drop in and out of a conversation, take your time and compose your thoughts and have very little interruption to whatever your doing otherwise probably makes me a little spoilt when it comes to communication. We've got it too easy.

Originally Posted by jmattbassplaya

No way. It takes forever to listen to voice messages. I'm calling you back so that I don't have to listen to:

"Hello... valued... customer... You have... 3... unheard... messages... to listen... to... your... messages... press... 1 now.......... first... unheard... message..........."

That stuff is torture I tell you! Torture!

I've had voicemail disabled on my phone since the beginning of time for this exact reason. However at work we have a feature that allows people to leave a message if the phone is engaged, and retrieving it is by far the most painstaking experience that my job entails.


"JUST TELL ME THE GODDAMN MESSAGE! I've probably already sorted it out since they left the message I just need to make sure!!! aarrggh!"

Bane of my life, especially when 95% of the messages are out of date by the time I get to them as people have just called another phone.

[Indiana Mike]

I get a text so I.....


Dial phone .... Rings once then rejected to voicemail.... Shortly after I get a text ...." what "

I call back ... Rejected again

Another text "what"

I call back and finally an answer " why can't you text me"

"because I'm driving and don't want to kill a busload of nuns ! "

"what did you want "

" I forgot!".....

Rejecting phone calls is rude

[Tony Flow MMMM]

Ah yes I have always loved how its easier to organize your thoughts via text. I actually bought my brand new jetta through texts to the manager of a VW. Actually any used vehicle I ever bought was texts too.

I was going to start a thread similar to this about am I the only one who MUCH prefers a text conversation vs one over the phone? I was never good with spoken thoughts, often forgot important details, and left stuff out, and forgot to ask certain questions. In text it's all laid out.

I was sure the thread if started by me would have been a flame fest about you kids these days blah blah improper blah back In my day blah, and the younger of us also flaming kissig butt to the older generation. Well I'm glad it isn't so,

[Tony Flow MMMM]

Originally Posted by carlos840

I actually do not like texting and will always favor a call...
IMO it takes more time to send 2 or 3 text to sort something out than to spend a minute on the phone.

To me there's an up and a downside to both. TALKING on the phone at work looks bad especially if its casual.while texting is quicker.

Down side having a conversation and you look like this
And doing that in public at work or anywhere just looks plain dumb.

[i_got_a_mohawk]

Texting is good for when you're busy, sender often doesn't always expect an immediate reply.

[champbassist]

I don't really contact anyone unless it is urgent. If I need to, considering the fact that a vast majority of cell phone users do not check text messages (out here, at least) frequently, I prefer calling to texting.

[C.Linton]

The only thing about texting that bothers me is that it seems to be creating a generation of people who can neither spell nor construct a sentence properly.

[DaveDeVille]

Originally Posted by Bassamatic

Texting is a way of saying "You're not important enough for me to spend my time talking to you."

... agreed .

[1958Bassman]

Originally Posted by MJ5150

What's rude is people like me who don't answer when you call, then send a text right after asking what you wanted.

-Mike

Or, call back to find out why the call came in.