Help with suitemate situation

[Vince S.]

I figured I would put this in its own thread:

So last Saturday (early Sunday AM) around 430 AM, my suitemates got back from a night of partying, and brought several other guys back with them. I was already in bed at that point. I heard a bang at my door and a splash, and some kid say, "hehe your roommate's gonna kill you". I heard one of my suitemates, let's call him "John", say "I don't care, I ****ing hate that *****, I'll kick his ***" then proceeded to hock a lugee at my door. At that point I was pretty fed up, so I opened the door and found it dripping with beer and spit. I confronted John, to which he said, "We're just trying to have a good time, why you gotta be like that?" His friend and my other suitemate, "Don", pulled me aside, apologized profusely (even though it wasn't him that did it) and helped me clean up the mess. The kids started leaving slowly, and I went back to bed.

The next day, I confronted John about it. He claimed that he didn't remember anything from the previous night, but neither denied it or took responsibility. I also asked Don what he thought, but he too claimed that he didn't remember.

I filed a report with my RA that afternoon. On Monday I met with the Resident Director, and they said the report will be referred to Student Judicial Affairs. I had classes all day today, but my roommate had the day off and thinks that John received his notice; he said he heard a lot of swearing and somebody throwing a tantrum in the common room, and bits and pieces of conversation like, "I'm going to ****ing pop that kid when he gets back", "we should pour hot coffee on his bed" and other nonsense. I just got back from dinner a half hour ago and they were here, but didn't say a word to me.

Help? Thoughts?

[mike_v_s]

Sounds like you've done what needs to be done. About the only other thing I'd consider doing is pissing on his car door handles without witnesses. Glad I could be of help.

Mike

[Linas]

I feel for you as my roomie is not good either. I dont have any advice other than what you have done. But just for fun... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dXyxOIR-_Is

[DigMe]

Keep a close eye on your toothbrush and whatnot...you don't want to start wondering what that funny taste is.

bc

[Vince S.]

So another weird turn of events:

I went out into the common room and approached John. I asked him if he received a notice from Judicial and he said that he did not. I sat down and told him that because of the incident on Saturday, I reported him for the beer slinging and the racial slurs. I asked him what his side of the story was, and he said that he could not remember anything at all that happened that night, but that he "couldn't believe he said that", apologized profusely, and shook my hand at the end of the conversation.

I feel slightly better about actually sitting down with him man to man and talking it out, but something still doesn't feel quite right. As I said in my original post, my roommate overheard John being angry about something and wanting to beat somebody up, though my name was never mentioned.

Coincidence, or think he's trying to play "nice guy" to get the charges dropped? Even if that was the case, I don't know why he'd lie about getting the summons notice.

[*smb]

Life's too short to worry about stuff like this - I'd move in with some friends if you really don't trust these guys. Otherwise just deal with it. It may well be a one-off.

[Aaron Saunders]

Vince, you've taken the right actions here -- and yeah, he's probably playing nice guy to try and not get kicked out of the suite, but...screw him, he's caused how much **** for you this year?

Man, this makes me so glad I had the roommate that I did when I was in a rez