How do you deal with your roommates?

crispygoat · #1 11-19-2009, 10:32 AM

I can't stand my roommates anymore. I made the mistake of moving in with 3 girls. 2 of them (and me) are from the same place and the other one is from Manitoba.

Now the thing is, the out-of-province girl as hearing impairment. She sits in front of the TV all day. I'd have no problem with that - but the thing is that she blasts the volume! Not only is it super loud, she screams at her soap operas! It's 3 in the morning and you hear OMFG AS IF HE DID THAT! She also walks like an elephant! She makes so much noise when she walks even the neighbour complains!

The second girl lived here last year. Before moving in, I asked her if I could get a cat. I mean, cats were just there, don't bother anyone and so on. She told me that we aren't allowed to have pets, but I could ask the landlord because a cat is small and doesn't cause any damages. So as I move in, she tells me I can't, the landlord doesn't want us to have pets. Next thing I know, she moves in with a dog! I ask her, so why can't I have a cat? She tells me the girl from Manitoba doesn't want a cat. I've never even them talk! She doesn't even seem to care about anything! So whatever... time goes by, I plan on getting a cat - again she says I can't. Her boyfriend is allergic! Her boyfriend? Her stupid boyfriend came here two times in two years! I pay the rent, he doesn't. But whatever. Then, the neighbour complained that there was dog crap all over our yard / driveway. We got complaints in the mail and from the landlord. Her answer? She picks up the crap. Actually she goes out the back door. And the other neighbour as a dog, and she doesn't pickup the crap. I've never seen the other neighbour with a dog? I've never seen her go out the back door? The yard is obviously full of crap. Whenever I go upstairs I have to watch so I don't step into dog crap or pee! Her dog craps and pees all over the place and she takes forever to clean it. Then comes the parking spot. We have 2 cars, but 1 parking spot. Whenever the third girl is parked there, she complains! She basically starts going nuts! For **** sakes, just share the damn parking lot!

The third girl, is just plain stupid. She was in her second and last year of College, but she decided to drop out and go to University. She applied, but they told her she needed to finish college first. So since she has nothing to do, she goes to the bar everyday, comes back at 5 - 6 in the morning wakes up everyone. She made the contacts so we could have internet. Okay sure. Now, since we purchase internet from the provider, they offer one of those "try this product free for x months!" So, I go back home for the weekend and come back on the following Monday, she had taken free Satellite TV for three months. One of the receivers is in the living room, where the girl from Manitoba is always and the other is in her room (she watches it with the 2nd girl with the dog). Four months go by, she receives a bill - $50.00 for Satellite TV. The contract stated that we could have Satellite TV free for 3 months with a contract of 2 years. And now she expects everyone to pay the bill? I didn't have a word about her decision, and not only don't I have an interest to watch TV, but I can't! This isn't all, the other day the heat wasn't working. Without contacting anyone, she called a plumber. He came, turned on a switch and left. $93.00, we have to pay!

Worst of all is that I'm in the middle of this all. The Dog-Girl and Dumb-Girl don't speak to the girl from Manitoba and vice versa. So I had to be the middle guy until I told them I didn't want to play this game anymore. Now, there are post its EVERYWHERE. And whenever I talk to one of them, they complain about the other twos.

How the

am I supposed to deal with them?

bassteban · #2 11-19-2009, 10:38 AM

tl/dr, though I'll come back when my coffee wears off & I can properly veg out.

I will say that roommates are like root canals- if you must have one it's usually due to not having done what your parents told you years ago.

dave64o · #3 11-19-2009, 10:39 AM

Let me take a guess. When you first went into this arrangement you thought living with three women would be pretty freakin' cool, right?

Honestly, they don't sound reasonable enough to be able to talk about a situation and figure out how to fairly address it. And I'm NOT saying the reason is that they're female. I'm saying that because they all seem pretty inconsiderate, self-centered, and immature, at least based on what you've said here. If this is a fair representation of what's going on, I'd seriously suggest finding another place with other roommates. Did you sign anything that says you've committed to staying there for a given amount of time?

Luke19Boarder · #4 11-19-2009, 10:39 AM

don't live with idiots?

Hippos Melas · #5 11-19-2009, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Luke19Boarder

don't live with idiots?

+1

I live alone...I'm the only idiot I have to deal with. I wish that dick would stop playing so much bass...

Seriously speaking, find a new place to live. I had issues with my room mates both years and both years I wound up living alone. It's better that way for me...I can study and play bass and go to bed when I want without asking. Honestly, unless I'm married to someone and we're finding a home together, I don't think I'll live with anyone else. Space is nice.

SnoMan · #6 11-19-2009, 11:03 AM

Leave.

The other item I would say is probably frowned upon by the powers that be here at TB. I'll ask in a PM.

MadMan118 · #7 11-19-2009, 11:06 AM

Explosives and cyanide.

But seriously, move out.

MatticusMania · #8 11-19-2009, 11:10 AM

I live in a condo with my girlfriend. We have 3 roommates, my gf's pregnant best friend, her illegal immigrant boyfriend, and her (not his) 4 year old. My favorite one is the 4 year old. I dont have much to gripe about them, aside from the occasional 'they didnt wash their dishes, again' or 'cant anyone else take out the trash' I say to my gf. We're all pretty easy going, and we dont bitch at each other. I expect them to move out soon, which will be ok because more than likely her old roommate (who is a friend of mine) and another friend of ours will most likely move in in their place. Though, I can say that I would prefer to not have any roommates, however, I just cant afford the rent on my income.

CrispyDelicious · #9 11-19-2009, 11:15 AM

I've been in similar situations; roommates can turn out to be absolutely horrendous, and there's often NOTHING you can do to change it. Talk to your landlord about getting your name off the lease and move. Yes, it's a hassle, it's not fair, and it's bull****. Unfortunately, it is the ONLY option for you. Take it from a guy who's just gone through the exact same thing. The hassle of moving is worth it, in the end, even though it stings like a ***** getting to that point.

MakiSupaStar · #10 11-19-2009, 11:19 AM

Wasn't it you who used to live with his ex-girlfriend and she slept on the couch and then you and your other roommate had sex in your bedroom or something like that? Or am i combining a few threads with some past memories of chicks I used to know?

L-A · #11 11-19-2009, 11:57 AM

Meet roommates *before* you meet your next appartment. Share a beer, have a chat with them, see if you agree on stuff like sharing the fridge, splitting bills, how/when they use the bathroom in the morning, etc. Everyday stuff that can go really well or creep its way into being a huge disagreement.

I went out for a few pints with my three roommates just this monday. We get along really well, and I credit a lot of this to those two rules:

1. It's not drama, it's a problem to be solved.

2. No inter-roommate romance. Incidentally, we agreed not to frown on the occasional creaking bed. There have been a few nights where there were eight people in there, actually.

If a potential roommate has a lot of trouble with one of these rules, it should raise a huge flag. Couples are case-by-case, but usually a very unstable compromise.

mjolnir · #12 11-19-2009, 12:08 PM

Sounds like you're in an incredibly unreasonable situation.

Run. Fast.

Steve · #13 11-19-2009, 12:17 PM

I don't know. I've never had room mates. I've always chose to work more or live on less so that I could have my own space. I've never regretted it.

Sometimes I'm the one that wants to walk around like an elephant and scream at the TV at 4am.

CrispyDelicious · #14 11-19-2009, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Wasn't it you who used to live with his ex-girlfriend and she slept on the couch and then you and your other roommate had sex in your bedroom or something like that? Or am i combining a few threads with some past memories of chicks I used to know?

That was me, albeit a visciously mangled recollection of the events.

One of my several roommate misadventures, of course.

MonetBass · #15 11-19-2009, 01:54 PM

Time to get your own place. Sounds like you'd be much happier.

**jmattbassplaya** · #16 11-19-2009, 02:04 PM

First roommate I ever had wouldn`t throw away old pizza boxes or KFC containers until he ran out of room below his desk(which is where he kept them). No joke, I counted over 10 boxes of pizza which had been sitting there for over a month, 31 cans of diet coke, and about 4 buckets of KFC chicken. It was disgusting and it made the place smell horrible!

The same guy also wouldn`t wake up to his iPhone`s alarm and would often leave it going off for hours unless I yelled at him(to get him up) to turn it off. He also would often hit the snooze on it(if I woke him up) and we would repeat this process multiple times because he could fall back asleep in under a minute. It eventually got to the point where one time he had set the alarm to go off at 8 in the morning on a Saturday to get up. No worries. Unfortunately he didn`t get up and we(no joke) repeated this process for 2 hours. I eventually couldn`t take it anymore so I threw his phone and bathroom supplies out of the place(we lived in a dorm with a communal bath) and yelled at him to get up because I wasn`t losing sleep on a Saturday because he was an inconsiderate *****.

With all this said, the best thing anyone can do before they move in with someone is to make some definite ground rules. The problem with this, however, is that you can`t always tell what`s going to be a problem until it starts to happen.