How to get a roommate to leave

disenchant · #1 01-29-2008, 01:02 PM

I own a condo. About a year ago I was having some financial trouble so I got a roommate. She signed an agreement (that I had checked by a lawyer) that laid out the terms, the payment, etc. We agreed that there would be no less than 60 days notice if she was to move out--either she'd give me 60 days that she was moving or I'd give her 60 days if I wanted her out.

Well, as you know I met the Love of My Life and we, of course, are getting married in May. My roommate was out of work for about six months. She just now got a temp job that is going to permanent. She freaked out when I said I wanted her to move out so my fiancé could move in in 60 days. She said she wouldn't have the money to move out etc. etc. SO, since my fiancé wanted to save a bit more money we all agreed she would move out end of April so he could move in May--when we get married. We agreed this at the beginning of DECEMBER, so really she had five months notice.

After we got engaged he started coming over a lot. He lives at home and I am not welcome there (long story) and he stays all weekend and sometimes during the week. Sometimes his kid comes too. My roommate started complaining, saying she didn't want him over or his kid. It's MY CONDO, but since she is renting a room and a bathroom I agreed that she could have a discount on her rent and my fiancé would pay the difference. Since he is now paying part of the mortgage, I gave him a key. And now my roommate is all upset that he has a key.

In my opinion, it's MY CONDO, and I want her moved out anyway. The only reason she is still there is out of the goodness of my heart--if I had my way she'd be gone in next two days (December and January=60 days notice per our agreement). I feel that I can give my fiancé a key to my condo if he's paying part of the mortgage--or even if I just feel like it. I also feel like I can have him over when I want, and if she doesn't like it she can leave. Win-win! I wish I would have held my ground on her being out, but it's too late now.

Maybe I can train my cat to poop in her shoes.

username n/a · #2 01-29-2008, 01:08 PM

I won't tell you exactly what to do but I can tell you it involves a baseball bat and some potatos.

EDIT: If you don't want to go to jail why dnt you have a meeting with your roommate and your lawyer to discuess your roommates living arangments.

SnoMan · #3 01-29-2008, 01:16 PM

Changing the locks is a good way to make a person aware that they aren't welcome anymore.

Relic · #4 01-29-2008, 01:18 PM

God, what an annoying situation!
I would just get tough with her - remind her that it's YOUR CONDO and you can have anyone over that you please and you can give anyone you want a key. She can shut up and leave in April or she can leave tomorrow if she doesn't like it.

jomahu · #5 01-29-2008, 01:18 PM

you're getting married? cool, congrats.

casualmadness · #6 01-29-2008, 01:23 PM

You aren't breaking any laws by having your finace over. Nor are you breaking laws by giving him a key. You own the place. So the ball is in our court. However, she does have the right to a 60 day notice. So if you want her out, give her 60 days ASAP. If she doesn't have the money/etc. that's her problem. Not yours. If it were me (just for the sake of a harmonious living environment) I would simply approach her and explain that he's in and she's out. I would try to keep it on a civil level and explain that she has to go. But the bottom line is, you don't need her permission to give a key to your fiance since you own the place. You are the landlord. You can give a key to whoever you like.
Now of course this is all my opinion. If there are any legal experts who spcialize in real estate/renters rights laws; please feel free to offer better advice.

Vandelay · #7 01-29-2008, 01:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by disenchant

In my opinion, it's MY CONDO

It's more than just your opinion, it's an indisputable fact. Let her know that the fiance situation isn't going to change, and that while you appreciate her being a renter, she doesn't really have a vote in that decision.

kserg · #8 01-29-2008, 01:26 PM

Stop taking showers... She'll leave...

IAmTheDood · #9 01-29-2008, 01:28 PM

your being too kind to her ...

she is working you for being kind ..

you need to be strict with her and tell her that you aren't going to change your habits, you own the house, she is just renting a room ...

you had agreed to April .... but mention to her that you had given her 60 days notice in December ..

has she been paying anything? you could even evict her if you wanted too.

MakiSupaStar · #10 01-29-2008, 01:29 PM

Did you give her notice in writing? Because if you didn't, then you didn't. As far her complaining just tell her to move out if she doesn't like it.

casualmadness · #11 01-29-2008, 01:30 PM

Another way to go is, you and the fiance could have "Naked Saturdays." Every Saturday, the two of you just strut around naked all day. Naked lunch, naked movie watching, get naked to do the laundry, the dishes...etc.: not even in a sexual way. Just strut around the house nude all day.

Marcus Johnson · #12 01-29-2008, 01:30 PM

Cook cabbage with the windows closed. Every day.

Jeremy Crockett · #13 01-29-2008, 01:38 PM

1) She's not a roommate, she's a renter.

2) Evict her. If you're lucky she'll be out in six months.

3) Stop coming to TalkBass for advice that you won't follow anyway.

bluestarbass · #14 01-29-2008, 01:42 PM

Sell her underwear on the internet, I...I mean people pay good money for that kind of stuff.

Jared Lash · #15 01-29-2008, 01:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OctoberMooN

1) She's not a roommate, she's a renter.

2) Evict her. If you're lucky she'll be out in six months.

3) Stop coming to TalkBass for advice that you won't follow anyway.

QFT

mjolnir · #16 01-29-2008, 01:45 PM

Bein' too nice, Dis. Boot her ass. She has no right to go around tellin' you you can't do this and you can't do that, and if she threatens legal action when you put yer foot down she has no leg to stand on.

Boot. Her. Ass.