I came here.

tastybasslines · #1 11-02-2011, 04:45 PM

I'm feeling terrible. I just got fired this morning after a few client mishaps that are on me, even though they are not my fault...secretary's not providing messages, and things not getting done.

I can't express how bad I feel, I'm in tears. I hate life sometimes, and I'm so angry. I have a daughter and am in this ridiculous void. I'm in the middle of divorce. I'm a half bottle deep now.

I want to buy a shotgun. Of course I won't but I feel that way. I just want my depression to go away...(crying)

I wish my parents would have told me how hard life is, because I just cant deal.

I'm the worst I've been in 10 years and falling apart.

(crying)

I can't believe the only people I think care are here on TB.

OMG. I'm typing with a very heavy hand. (BOOM) hit submit.

Pilgrim · #2 11-02-2011, 05:04 PM

My condolences - sad to hear this. Just realize that at some time, this happens to practically everyone. It's part of life, but time heals.

Take a day or two to feel bad, don't do ANYTHING stupid or permanent, and lean on your friends. You need to keep your daughter in mind and not frighten her about this, either.

Once you've mourned for a couple of days, get back on the horse and job-seek like crazy. The best time to get another gig is right away.

Icey101 · #3 11-02-2011, 05:06 PM

i think everyone here has had some low low times in their life but when you get knocked over you get back up again and become a better person for it...

easy to say but life goes on mate

MJ5150 · #4 11-02-2011, 05:23 PM

You need some RB: Rebecca Black - Friday - Official Music Video - YouTube. Get down brudda!

The shotgun comment honestly scares me. Is there someone you can invite over to hang out with you? Perhaps call a crisis line to vent to another human?

-Mike

**bassistjoe93** · #5 11-02-2011, 05:31 PM

Sorry to hear this man, that's a tough hand you've been dealt. But as has been said before, don't do anything crazy and impulsive, you can always find another job. Best of luck to you.

EricF · #6 11-02-2011, 05:33 PM

I'm sorry to hear you're having a rough time. Life can be a downright cruel b**** sometimes. Give yourself today to be angry and feeling down. Tomorrow, do something to move yourself forward. There's too much good stuff ahead to quit now. Besides, your daughter (no matter how old she is) is going to need you around for a long time to come. You don't want to miss it.

Tonight, I will raise a pint in your general direction and hope for a brilliant tomorrow for you.

i_got_a_mohawk · #7 11-02-2011, 05:57 PM

Keep yourself busy, it should help to avoid some of the negative feelings.

Get out there, start looking and applying for new jobs (will also help keep you busy).

You have a daughter, got to keep yourself going and try to keep on your feet.

IMO, keep away from the bottle!

All the best dude, keep the chin up, we all have down times, but life is all about swings and roundabouts, ups and downs.

hbarcat · #8 11-02-2011, 06:02 PM

Watch this:

Rodney Dangerfield on the Tonight Show - YouTube

major10th · #9 11-02-2011, 06:05 PM

Hang in there, time will bring brighter days. Focus on your daughter, or do something to help someone else. Sometimes it's the best way to temporarily take focus off of your problems.

BartmanPDX · #10 11-02-2011, 06:24 PM

You can always (eventually) get another job. Your daughter cannot get another Dad.

This may be a chance to teach her something really useful in life: how to get back up when you've been knocked down. It's going to suck for a while, but you can get through this and show her how to face up to life's biggest challenges. It may be the most important lesson you ever teach her.

Until you find your next job, be the best Dad you can be. There's a lot to be said for that.

Best wishes in finding that next job.

tastybasslines · #11 11-02-2011, 06:28 PM

I just got off the phone...you were great BUT...I took crap for others...I will always in future sell people out, because thats how it works in the business world.

tastybasslines · #12 11-02-2011, 06:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BartmanPDX

You can always (eventually) get another job. Your daughter cannot get another Dad.

This may be a chance to teach her something really useful in life: how to get back up when you've been knocked down. It's going to suck for a while, but you can get through this and show her how to face up to life's biggest challenges. It may be the most important lesson you ever teach her.

Until you find your next job, be the best Dad you can be. There's a lot to be said for that.

Best wishes in finding that next job.

Thank you.

hbarcat · #13 11-02-2011, 06:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tastybasslines

I just got off the phone...you were great BUT...I took crap for others...I will always in future sell people out, because thats how it works in the business world.

While it may be hard to believe in this economy

, there are jobs available out there for those with the right attitude and some of them are actually rewarding.

Take a bit of time to get yourself together (not fall apart further with a series of bottles in your hand

) and then go find a job where they appreciate you.

Keep us posted. We're a community here at TB and we truly care.

-Dan

major10th · #14 11-02-2011, 06:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BartmanPDX

You can always (eventually) get another job. Your daughter cannot get another Dad.

This may be a chance to teach her something really useful in life: how to get back up when you've been knocked down. It's going to suck for a while, but you can get through this and show her how to face up to life's biggest challenges. It may be the most important lesson you ever teach her.

Until you find your next job, be the best Dad you can be. There's a lot to be said for that.

Best wishes in finding that next job.

+1000

**nutdog** · #15 11-02-2011, 07:21 PM

Sorry to hear that. I'm pulling for you, Tasty. Keep plugging and don't get bitter.

Stumbo · #16 11-02-2011, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by tastybasslines

I just got fired this morning after a few client mishaps that are on me, even though they are not my fault...secretary's not providing messages, and things not getting done.

Gotta learn from this situation. What was it that you weren't seeing and let slide by that got you fired?

What could you have done to change things so you would not have been fired?

I know it's tough but you really need to come up with a thought process and some methods of behavior where you protect yourself and get along with people.

Sounds like you 'trusted" someone or some process to take care of you and you got the blame.

Alcohol won't get you you there.

Keep on keepin' on! Your daughter needs a good role model and a problem solving dad not whatever you are right now.

Dump all the alcohol in your house, clear your brain and get going on a new plan.

You have our support.

Good luck!

If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your daughter.

File for unemployment asap and go from there.

fingerbun · #17 11-02-2011, 07:35 PM

Been there. It sucks. But you get through. There is light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can't see it yet.

Were you happy in the job? Take this as an opportunity to assess where you want to be in life. If you loved it, you know what you want next time. If there were things you didn't like this is a chance to make changes.

RosieB · #18 11-02-2011, 07:46 PM

So sorry all the bad is snowballing on you right now. Life really sucks sometimes. I've been there, too, and know that hopeless feeling well. And the bitter. Feel it, get it out of your system, don't do anything stupidly permanent, and don't let those feelings define you.

Focus on your daughter. She needs you and always will. Not necessarily for the money to support her, but for the emotional support that you give her by just being her dad and spending time with her. Never lose sight of that.

And know that you have friends here who care and understand.

mellowinman · #19 11-02-2011, 08:00 PM

In my experience, most bad things that happened to me wound up being the doors to something good that happened later, and wouldn't have happened if not for the bad things that preceded them.

That sounds trite, and cliche, but that doesn't make it any less true.

I really hope things turn around for you.

Sav'nBass · #20 11-02-2011, 08:03 PM

Been there.. There was a point in my life that the one thing that kept me from killing myself was the thought of my then 3 (now 21) year old daughter getting up and finding me on the kitchen floor in a pool of blood.

This will pass.

Don't underestimate the power of being able to talk to people who do not know you and have no vested interest in you .. but have walked down similar roads .... Stumbo hit it right on the head.. and there is a time and place for drink... this is not it ...

This will pass ... and remember... even if you were part of the problem .... you are all of the solution. Whether or not you decide to call upon and trust a power greater than yourself or to sit back and assess the fullness of the situation and come up with a solution, it all starts with a decision on your part.. It starts with you and how YOU choose to navigate the turbulent waters ahead of you ... It sounds corny .. but you will not be tested beyond what you can bear ... and there is light at the end of every tunnel even if some of the lights you see are oncoming trains.. that tunnel will eventually end.