I finally came out of the closet

XtreO · #1 05-07-2009, 12:52 AM

After years of surpressing my real sexuality, I finally openly confessed it for my family and close friends today.

It has been very hard for me all these years to not be who I really am, in fear of getting shunned at school, or even at home in my family.

But, now that I've told them, my family seems to give me the support I need. I haven't really spoke to my friends, but I think they will accept as well.

It feels so delightful to finally break out.

MakiSupaStar · #2 05-07-2009, 12:55 AM

Congrats. Accepting these things instead of living in shame about it is a much healthier way to live life.

jdieh1 · #3 05-07-2009, 12:57 AM

Good for you mate. Personally I have never had to do this so I wouldn't know what it is like but I'm sure it will be for the best. It is never good for someone to pretend that they are someone who they aren't, and you don't have to do that anymore.

I hope that you don't lose any friends over it.

Deluge Of Sound · #4 05-07-2009, 01:30 AM

I can't imagine anyone severing ties over this sort of thing, but you never know.

Props to you for having the balls to come out and be honest.

Sartori · #5 05-07-2009, 03:06 AM

Good for you. You've got to be true to yourself. Glad that your family took it well.

Tsal · #6 05-07-2009, 04:01 AM

Oh man, I thought you were going to confess you're a guitard at heart.

However, if you love someone, it doesn't matters what sex he or she might be. Congrats for mustering the courage, and I'm happy your family supports you. It must be a huge thing, not having to hide it all the time.

**Ívar Þórólfsson** · #7 05-07-2009, 04:07 AM

Congrats man!

CrispyDelicious · #8 05-07-2009, 04:50 AM

Well, it makes total sense, what with you being in a metal band.

I keed, I keed.

Good for you, really. It takes guts.

Hoover · #9 05-07-2009, 05:02 AM

Bravo! Your strength will be an inspiration to others.

Jools4001 · #10 05-07-2009, 05:16 AM

That's cool. I've always had a relaxed attitude to people's sexuality, as far as I'm concerned what consenting adults do in private is their own business.

This attitude was tested last year when my 25 year old son came home from where he's living for a couple of days. He came downstairs at breakfast time and said "Dad, I've got something awful to tell you...." Awful? Thoughts about whether he'd developed a crack habit, or killed someone, or got himself into trouble with the law began to spin through my mind. Then he said "I've got a regular, live-in partner.....and he's a guy". My response was "For goodness sake...is that all ?"

I will admit that despite my 'supposed' lifelong lack of prejudice, I did have a couple of reactions that surprised me. Firstly, I had some regret that I'm now unlikely to ever be a grandfather to my son's children (short of adoption or surrogacy - and that's even supposing he wants kids). The second, was that I found myself being glad that he is in a stable relationship and (apparently) not interested in being involved in the gay scene. I was also glad that neither he, nor his partner, are in any way camp.

However, my overwhelming reaction was that, as a father, all I've ever wanted for my children is that they are happy. I am immensely, eye-wateringly proud of my son. He's already got a good degree from Oxford University, has worked in a corporate environment for a short time before deciding that he really wanted to be a doctor, so he worked for a couple of years in a hospital as a health care assistant - literally dealing with people who were terminally ill and all the bodily outpourings that sort of work entails while studying Biology in his spare time to get the entry qualifications for medical college lined up. He's now just about to enter his second year as a student doctor.

The whole extended family including his grandparents, aunts and uncles have now met Lee, his partner, and welcomed him into the family with open arms.

For me, it's just like having two sons.

So don't worry too much if you're thinking of breaking that sort of news to your family, the results may surprise you

Jim Nazium · #11 05-07-2009, 05:25 AM

I can only imagine how difficult that must be. Congratulations on having the courage to be honest about who you are.

Be loud and proud.

Gard · #12 05-07-2009, 05:47 AM

This:

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Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Congrats. Accepting these things instead of living in shame about it is a much healthier way to live life.

Be happy, man, life is too short to live it by other people's rules (well, the ones about not harming others are OK!

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Chriss62 · #13 05-07-2009, 06:07 AM

Cool man, really cool. I can only imagine how you feel...

i_got_a_mohawk · #14 05-07-2009, 06:15 AM

Glad you found your way out, just take a while to let your eye adjust to the light outside...

Nah, congrats on that man, as has been said, it'll be healthier and happier way to live without having to hide anything

Relic · #15 05-07-2009, 06:49 AM

well congrats, and good on you for having the guts to do so!

Phalex · #16 05-07-2009, 08:17 AM

I'm happy it seems to have worked out for you. Congratulations.

sarcastro83 · #17 05-07-2009, 08:30 AM

Congratulations, sir!

**Pacman** · #18 05-07-2009, 08:33 AM

jools, I wish more parents were like you. You are a good man.

GeneralElectric · #19 05-07-2009, 08:33 AM

Congrats and I wish you luck telling your friends. I'm sure that they'll all understand because, deep down, you're still the same person.

**bassybill** · #20 05-07-2009, 08:44 AM

It's really great to see all the positive responses to this here. Wise move on what must be a really tough choice by the OP, and congratulations all round to TB for being the good guys.