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09-09-2008, 11:32 AM
| | Banned | | Join Date: May 2007 Location: Auburn Nebraska | | | I got a big problem. Need some real help.
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I met this girl 2years ago in my freshmen year of college and we became really close friends. At the time she was engaged and had a child with this one dude. I met him and became friends with him also. They moved away for a year but we stayed in touch over the phone. Anyway they have now moved back to Peru and are going back to college. She is in my social psychology class and naturally being friends we sit by each other all the time. She is now married to this guy.
Now the problem is that she has expressed sexual interest in me, and things with her and her husband are not going very well at all.
I had lunch with the two of them yesterday and they didn't say a word to each other. She just talked to me while he read a book and was silent.
After lunch I walked outside with him and I asked him why he was so obviously pissed. He just answered by saying "how can I not be pissed?" I asked him if he wanted to talk about it or if I could help him out with something. He told me not to act like I know what hes dealing with, very defensively. I told him I didn't know what he was dealing with but even if he just wanted me to listen and not say anything I was there. He declined.
About this time she joined up with us outside and we had to depart for classes. The again didn't speak to each other. What can I do to help them? |
09-09-2008, 11:34 AM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Fort Collins, Colorado | | | Recommend they get family counseling, and otherwise be STRICTLY neutral. Take no sides, let them sort it out.
And keep hands off the girl. The potential for big problems with you right in the middle is much too great....not to mention lawsuits.
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09-09-2008, 11:38 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Metro Detroit, Michigan | | | Stay away.
The only time you should get between a guy and a girl is when you're in line for popcorn.
(what?) |
09-09-2008, 11:39 AM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Coeur d'Alene | | | Stay away from this one. You can't help on either end of this marriage. If you have to, listen but give zero advice. Don't touch the girl. Regardless of what the TV might tell you, affairs are ugly, period.
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09-09-2008, 11:48 AM
| | Banned | | Join Date: May 2007 Location: Auburn Nebraska | | | I'm not gonna touch the girl guys. Even I have that much decency. |
09-09-2008, 11:50 AM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: May 2003 Location: Leeds, UK | | Quote:
Originally Posted by KeithBMI  Stay away.
The only time you should get between a guy and a girl is when you're in line for popcorn.
(what?) | Epic lol.
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09-09-2008, 11:56 AM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Springfield, Illinois | | | If you want to help your best bet is to stay out of it.
Maybe I am wrong, but from personal experience its never a good thing get involved in a friends relationship troubles. Im not just talking about staying away from the chick either. Do not discuss it with her or him for that matter. If she brings it up tell her that it it obvious that they have some issues and that they need to iron it out on thier own. And that you don't feel comfortable talking about it.
Otherwise this whole thing could turn into a mess and you don't want any part of that.
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09-09-2008, 12:03 PM
|  | The Lowdown Diggler | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Huntington Beach, CA | | | Go to Vegas and watch what the blackjack dealers do when they leave a table. They clap their hands over the table, flip them over so the eye in the sky can see that they are empty, and walk away. I suggest you do the exact same thing.
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09-09-2008, 12:04 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Springfield, Illinois | | Quote:
Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar Go to Vegas and watch what the blackjack dealers do when they leave a table. The clap their hands over the table, flip them over so the eye in the sky can see that they are empty, and walk away. I suggest you do the exact same thing. |
See, that's why this guy gets all the ladies.
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09-09-2008, 01:26 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Bowling Green, Ohio | | | stay neutral and dont get too into it otherwise youll get sucked in. |
09-09-2008, 01:29 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: South Side Chicago | | | run away, its not wise to get mixed into something like that. |
09-09-2008, 01:31 PM
| | Banned | | Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Glendale & La Jolla, CA | | Quote:
Originally Posted by KeithBMI Stay away.
The only time you should get between a guy and a girl is when you're in line for popcorn.
(what?) | I laffed. |
09-09-2008, 01:33 PM
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EZ Music Co. | | Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Boone, NC | | | are you romantically interested in her as well? if so, you should tell her how you feel, and wait until it is over between them. if not, you guys are friends |
09-09-2008, 01:35 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Cypress, TX (NW Houston) | | | Stay out of it. If you are forced to listen, just nod and give no advice. Hands off the girl.
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09-09-2008, 01:38 PM
|  | That's the way uh huh uh huh I like it.. | | Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Robbinsville, NJ | | | run. If the marriage is going south, sooner or later you may be dragged into it whether you are guilty or innocent.
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09-09-2008, 01:45 PM
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09-09-2008, 02:04 PM
|  | Registered User | | Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Indy | | | Oh, yeah...wait for the rebound......Giggidy!
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09-09-2008, 02:09 PM
| | Registered User | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Lakeland, FL | | Quote:
Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar Go to Vegas and watch what the blackjack dealers do when they leave a table. They clap their hands over the table, flip them over so the eye in the sky can see that they are empty, and walk away. I suggest you do the exact same thing. | I would just go to Vegas  |
09-09-2008, 03:13 PM
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General Manager, Roscoe Guitars | | Join Date: Mar 2000 Location: Greensboro, NC, USA | | Quote:
Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar Go to Vegas and watch what the blackjack dealers do when they leave a table. They clap their hands over the table, flip them over so the eye in the sky can see that they are empty, and walk away. I suggest you do the exact same thing. | The dude is genius. Not a proud genius, but genius nonetheless. 
Follow said advice, let the situation work itself out as it will, without your input or advice or interaction.
When it all settles out, tag her. 
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09-09-2008, 03:28 PM
| | Banned | | Join Date: May 2007 Location: Auburn Nebraska | | Quote: |
are you romantically interested in her as well? if so, you should tell her how you feel, and wait until it is over between them. if not, you guys are friends
| I was initially when I met her, but she is my friends wife, and I kinda hit the mental off switch because of that. No I'm not gonna go after her. | | Thread Tools | Search this Thread | | | | 
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