I'm getting really fed up of this family situation

[Fassa Albrecht]

I've now been home for a good 2 or so weeks from university and I'm getting increasingly worried and annoyed.

I was initially quite reluctant to come home and my late arrival caused a lot of arguments...especially when I ended up with twice the amount of stuff I took (it was mostly books and stuff and I had NO money for storage)

Then tensions began to come about because of my music. I've been trying to get a proper band of my own and my grandparents in particular don't like the idea.

It's now developed to the point where I wish I'd never left Newcastle. I seem to be having arguments over the slightest little things, such as cushions being in the wrong place or my music being too loud.

I'm getting fed-up but I rely on my grandparents and family for uni money among other things and I also do genuinely care for them. I don't like being pushed around yet I don't want to be confrontational.

Any ideas TB? Before I really lose it?

[HollowBassman]

Just follow your dream and become and EMT whether they like it or not.

[Brummie]

You're a guest in their house - respect that.

[Fassa Albrecht]

Originally Posted by HollowBassman

Just follow your dream and become and EMT whether they like it or not.

I'd also like to sort this mess of a problem before then...

[jiant.]

maybe use this as a learning experience and try to find other living arrangements for next summer? i haven't lived at home for 2 years, when i moved out, my parents moved to south carolina and although i love them, i don't think i would want to live with them again although as long as i'm in school they assure me that i'm welcome to come back if i want to.

[jiant.]

Originally Posted by Brummie

You're a guest in their house - respect that.

oh and +1

[Fassa Albrecht]

Originally Posted by jiant.

maybe use this as a learning experience and try to find other living arrangements for next summer? i haven't lived at home for 2 years, when i moved out, my parents moved to south carolina and although i love them, i don't think i would want to live with them again although as long as i'm in school they assure me that i'm welcome to come back if i want to.

I unfortunately don't have enough money to do this and even then I'd still have the issue that some of my stuff would still be at home.

[Chunk-O-Funk]

Originally Posted by Brummie

You're a guest in their house - respect that.

Hate to sound harsh, but Brummie is right.

Your choices are respect them and their rules or move out and pay your own way.

[FingeringAm]

i figured out parents-
whenever they confront you just say "ok" and keep doing what ur doing
"take out the trash"
"ok" *keeps playing bass*
"i said take out the trash"
"ok" *keeps playing*
eventually they give up or just get pissed and all i do is keep a straight face and keep saying "ok"

i know very little about this situation but id say just put up with it as long as possible and try to find a roommate or smthin

[Brummie]

Originally Posted by FingeringAm

i figured out parents-
whenever they confront you just say "ok" and keep doing what ur doing
"take out the trash"
"ok" *keeps playing bass*
"i said take out the trash"
"ok" *keeps playing*
eventually they give up or just get pissed and all i do is keep a straight face and keep saying "ok"

i know very little about this situation but id say just put up with it as long as possible and try to find a roommate or smthin

So - your parents are your slaves who have to follow you around picking up after you and don't deserve any time of their own? But now I know I'm wrong - it's the kids who are right.

You don't give your parents any choice with your actions FingeringAm, they love you and want you to be with them - so have to accept you behaving the way you do.
Surprise them and make some effort without being asked - they'll be like this -


cheers

[Marley's Ghost]

Originally Posted by Brummie

You're a guest in their house - respect that.

+1 suck it up baby. It will give you something to appreciate when you get your own place.

[MakiSupaStar]

Originally Posted by HollowBassman

Just follow your dream and become and EMT whether they like it or not.

LMAO. I see what you did there. Might be too subtle for most to notice. But not me, you sly dog. I'm onto you!

[FingeringAm]

Originally Posted by Brummie

So - your parents are your slaves who have to follow you around picking up after you and don't deserve any time of their own? But now I know I'm wrong - it's the kids who are right.

You don't give your parents any choice with your actions FingeringAm, they love you and want you to be with them - so have to accept you behaving the way you do.
Surprise them and make some effort without being asked - they'll be like this -


cheers

hmm thanks but i guess i didnt fully elaborate the plan - i DO eventually get to whatever she tells me but she manages to ask at the most inconvient times - its more of a way to stall until i can finish what im doing - i do love my mum and dont purposefully disrespect her

[fenderhutz]

Originally Posted by HollowBassman

Just follow your dream and become and EMT whether they like it or not.

I agree with HollowBassman here Vince.....Uh Fassa.

Follow your dreams and get rid of that abusive father.

Am I mixing up the story lines??????......

You could always move to the states go play Nintendo with Username.

[Brummie]

Originally Posted by FingeringAm

hmm thanks but i guess i didnt fully elaborate the plan - i DO eventually get to whatever she tells me but she manages to ask at the most inconvient times - its more of a way to stall until i can finish what im doing - i do love my mum and dont purposefully disrespect her

Stop arguing and tidy your room.

[Fassa Albrecht]

Maybe I should just throw a huge hissy fit...

[MakiSupaStar]

Originally Posted by Fassa Albrecht

Maybe I should just throw a huge hissy fit...

Oh I'm sorry, I thought that's what you're doing now.

[bassteban]

Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Oh I'm sorry, I thought that's what you're doing now.

Meh- I've seen worse.

[Fassa Albrecht]

Originally Posted by MakiSupaStar

Oh I'm sorry, I thought that's what you're doing now.

No, I'm currently cuddling my Shergold and sulking.

[bovinehost]

Can you eat your parents?